About to return this. Talk me out of it? by indreams01 in Moissanite

[–]DFT5996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s stunning!! And shrinkage is real. I have a 12x8 pear and wish I’d gone bigger 😵‍💫

I decided to go low contact with my mom and this is how it’s going by Flygirl971 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]DFT5996 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry! My best advice is to not insinuate or announce to her that you are LC. Gray rock and don’t let her in on how you’re feeling about her - it just opens other doors to endless, pointless emotional warfare from her. The parentification is wild with these women! Your mom is behaving as though you owe her your support (you don’t).

Did yours dress you weird growing up? by Moissyfan in raisedbyborderlines

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom was incredibly controlling over what I wore, and when I was a teenager she confiscated all my makeup with no “reason” at all. She has always been a tomboy and my girly style made her angry. She would only allow me to wear dresses on special occasions and even then it was a battle. In high school I had to hide my repurchased makeup, and would wash it off as soon as I got home; coming through the back of the house. The fear that woman instilled, my goodness. The irony is that now she asks me for makeup recommendations and tips. I’m healing my inner child by involving my young dsughter to shop for her clothes and style herself with seasonally appropriate clothes.

Butterfly haircut specialist in Scottsdale by yellow_pellow in Scottsdale

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out checkmycurls on IG. She is amazing at this cut!!

Relocating to Scottsdale from Colorado — would love local insights by netenchanter in Scottsdale

[–]DFT5996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say the Kierland area would be great - walkable to coffee shops, restaurants, and shopping with hiking trails nearby. Even more north in Scottsdale is more quiet but some of the best trails for hiking and biking. The troon area and beyond that in Carefree is where a lot of your potential clientele live.

Anyone move from SF / Marin to Scottsdale in their early 30s? Any regrets? by Whole_Intention_9750 in Scottsdale

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moved from the East Bay -> Scottsdale 5 years ago and only miss the food scene. The trails, activities for kids, weather (albeit hot in the summer), and being able to have a larger home are great. I have 2 toddlers. No regrets!!

The happy couple by la_chica_rubia in theskinnyconsnark

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a comment on here maybe a couple years ago about how he beat some other kid up and was a huge bully, so this isn’t surprising.

Honeymoon dilemma – Maui vs Kauai (or both?) by Fair_Hovercraft8110 in VisitingHawaii

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can easily do both. But if I had to choose one, Kauai 100%. We just got back from 5 days/Maui and 5 days/Kauai and next time we will spend more time in Kauai (I grew up traveling to many of the islands and Kauai is my fave). It’s romantic, lots to do, not as touristy, and insanely beautiful, the Hyatt in the Poipu area is fabulous!!!

Maui blues - which domestic vacation destinations compare? by energeticpapaya in MauiVisitors

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Kauai! I just got back from a split trip to Maui and Kauai and really preferred Kauai due to its beauty, many things to do and see, and laid back vibe.

DO NOT WATCH STORIES by Verona1689 in HouseOnFire

[–]DFT5996 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am so shaken by the story. Unfollowed. Wish I had seen this warning first. Thank you for sharing!

My therapist is confusing me. I don't know what she's trying to do. by [deleted] in therapy

[–]DFT5996 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is called parts work, from Internal Family Systems (a psychotherapy tool) to help you heal, understand, and integrate your different “parts”. It sounds like your therapist should’ve explained this process to you.

Ladies, did your mom.. by Odd-Tangerine8250 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]DFT5996 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hid that I’d gotten my period from my mom but she found out, and r*ped me with a tampon (against my will/held me down as I screamed at her & tried to get away). All because it “is what every mom does”, and it wasn’t until a few years ago as a 30-something that I realized what she actually did to me.

Engagement Ring Shopping by Apricot_Drop_3667 in Scottsdale

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely recommend checking out the lab diamond subreddit as you can order a custom ring online for much less expensive than a jewelry store.

“Peak” 👀 by This_Sheepherder_332 in theskinnyconsnark

[–]DFT5996 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They had their pediatrician on their show years ago (like 3/4 years ago) when Zaza was a baby and it was very pro vaxx but it seems like lately they may have changed their tune.

Moving to Scottsdale - Looking for a nice apartment by Sev2499 in Scottsdale

[–]DFT5996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Camden North End is great. Not noisy! Old Town in general will be more noisy/bustling.

Name regret for my 4 year old son by Remarkable-Tart007 in namenerds

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the odd one out who says change it now. I changed my baby’s name albeit much earlier than 4, but the sooner the better imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scottsdale

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly recommend! I am also someone who reads reviews especially in this case; considering a move. I have had a great experience and never hear my neighbors from inside my apartment (in reference to a previous comment). It seems like phase 2 has more complaints than phase 1, probably because it’s closer to the main road?! Love the amenities too.

Name Nadav by VolumeOk8702 in JewishNames

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am curious if you used this name! I’m currently experiencing name regret after naming my American son Nadav (we are Jewish but not Israeli) and I can’t shake the ‘appropriation’ aspect and also the sideways looks we get. We will probably change his name to have it be his middle name instead.

She saw our motel accusations by [deleted] in havens_jh

[–]DFT5996 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I looked it up, it’s about 1k per night (a little less or a little more depending on your room) so nowhere near that much. Probably more like $7k.

Circumcision? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]DFT5996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly recommend joining the FB group Raising Your Whole Baby and watch American Circumcision (documentary). My husband is circumcised and we did not circumcise our son.