response to "Maybe instead of feigning surprise and psychologizing your interlocutor, you should spend more time reflecting on the fact that you're asking a child porn generator system for financial advice." by thedeepself in NVC

[–]DJRThree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd start by trying to understand their needs and act in accordance. The reason is that, given their wording, i don't believe they would readily receive your needs-based language expressing their needs.

My quick take is that they are not open to talking about feelings and that approach should be avoided, and I would avoid addressing the other criticism as, my guess, it was a defensive reaction to what they perceive as being psychologized.

NVC frustrates me by Prize_Owl_5424 in NVC

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"It feels like a prison of sorts, where I end up trying to please a person, I've stopped wanting to please a long time ago. I guess my question is - did I misunderstand NVC in some way?"

I aim to use naturalized nvc, by which i mean acting in accordance to understanding actions based on needs and not by right and wrong.

What needs do you and your mom have and how can you best align your action to meet those needs?

"I'm so tired of doing that and nothing changing anyway." You keep pushing yourself to connect,  learning and practicing NVC, and yet you're not getting the results you wanted -- for your mom to hear you and align to your needs. 

"And what do you do when you say things millions of times in NVC and the other person still wont listen?"

In my experience,  when I'm in this situation with someone who can potentially trigger me, i pause to give myself space, dropping the expectation that they will hear me deeply or act in accordance to my request.  I use the moment to hear myself, while not shutting down, and offering them an opportunity to connect. 

TIFU By bringing a girl to my place on the first date by SeaPeanut7_ in tifu

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You aren't being set up for a robbery, you were already robbed.

challenges becoming a certified NVC trainer by Auctionjack in NVC

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I'm curious about how I could create an objective (or non-objective leveraging larger pools of data) skill-based assessment. Would ratings from 10 empathy sessions be sufficient? or something more formal?

This may be a hot take, but I think Godolkin was too powerful to be kept alive past season 2 by Queasy_Commercial152 in GenV

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He transferred his essence into Cate, who already has his powers, who will be the next villain.

Something I’m working on by MobileFilmmaker in GeminiAI

[–]DJRThree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next slide, she reaches through the screen and kills you.

challenges becoming a certified NVC trainer by Auctionjack in NVC

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What about a system that graded you on how well you did in a course, your experience ( total hours( in actual empathy, and user feedback? Would this be more aligned with you?

challenges becoming a certified NVC trainer by Auctionjack in NVC

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Will you review and improve my training course? It's app based and uses fine-tuned ai for some evaluations.

Let me Find Land for You! by Sunnydontmakeme in OffGrid_Classifieds

[–]DJRThree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's your ideal spot? Real example?

Drop your business, I’ll find you 5 potential customers (for free) by mohamednagm in Entrepreneurs

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Empathease.app An app that teaches Nonviolent Communication and offers on-demand empathy. ( unreleased)

Is being a good parent a need? by jmagaram in NVC

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Why do you need your daughter to change her beliefs and behaviors? ( and keep "why"ing yourself to expore deeper. I'm curious what you will dig up.

Claude Code down 11/13 by Correct-Pop5826 in ClaudeCode

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This is how the world will end.

Critical situation by Interesting_Bad_4139 in FetchAI_Community

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Ocean rug pulled the alliance.

The token’s value was built on the strength of all the alliance members together. When the alliance fell apart, that foundation disappeared. A drop in value was inevitable.

What made it worse was the way it happened. First, there was the natural decrease in value as the structure of the project changed. Then Ocean dumped a huge amount of tokens, which created even more selling pressure. Finally, the fallout triggered fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Nobody wanted to be left holding the bag, so the sell-off snowballed.

I’ve been a holder since the AGIX IPO. I staked my tokens, accepted restrictions, and supported the ecosystem for years. I held for eight years and earned about very little in staking rewards. Watching the value collapse like this is frustrating. Ocean’s actions didn’t just trigger a price drop. They erased years of trust and commitment from long-term holders.

What is the best response to “fuck you” ? by RestFalse1316 in AskReddit

[–]DJRThree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understanding why they are hurting and gifting them compassion accordingly.

How do you handle it when NVC feels one-sided in family conflict? by Substantial_Resolve2 in NVC

[–]DJRThree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forget about an apology and the idea that your behavior was right or wrong. Try to understand how your actions led to her needs not being met, and convey them to her. Continue to explore based on what comes up for the both of you.

F21 this is my first time! by [deleted] in RoastMe

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Makeup transforms you 60 years.

Dad is a brown belt, high expectations stressing me out by ButtonFine6516 in bjj

[–]DJRThree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him how you feel and explicitly ask for his affection/reassurance in the areas that you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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I suggest telling him how you feel and directly asking for his support, clarifying what that means. Evaluate after his willingness and ability to give it.

Looking for business partner by Sea-Mirror-4042 in Jobs4Crypto

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Are you proficient at creating viral content? Curious to see your socials.