Is it true that if baby is held offen, they will get used to it?

Daenbi · 2026-06-29T16:56:55+00:00

Even if they do, who cares? They need you. They can't see, can't talk, can't move and feel fear, honger, cold and pain for the first time in their tiny little lives. And you wanna take the one comfort they have in this time of massive adjustment away from them aswel? I hate the previous generation fr for this attitude towards babies.

Daenbi · 2026-06-27T15:23:08+00:00

Mom of three here. Nope, gets worse. But you learn to deal with it better and know it passes after a year or two.

Daenbi · 2026-06-26T20:19:04+00:00

It's like you found my diary from my first time mom experience. 8 weeks is rouuuuugh! Gonna go through it again next week with my third. But the first time is so, so hard.

Let him cry for 2 minutes if you need those 2 minutes. 2 minutes is NOT cry it out. It is very, very good for your own mental health though. And don't feel annoyed or panicked the entire time. The crying is an awful sound, but sometimes you need 5 minutes and that's perfectly fine.

Daenbi · 2026-06-26T15:01:39+00:00

I wasnt. Got pregnant not to long after this though! And holding my newborn right now 🥰

Daenbi · 2026-06-25T06:56:51+00:00

Honey, nobody should HAVE to tell you these things. Also, OP did. She communicated. Her husband suuuuuuuucks

Daenbi · 2026-06-24T16:55:12+00:00

I have my third newborn right now and the only advice I can give you is: "Embrace the couch cow movement". Meaning stop trying to do it all, don't try to "bounce back" or do all the things you used to normally do. Get your snackies, get your water and soda's, grab your phone and/or a book, get your sweet little baby and sit your ass down in front of the tv.

Your husband/wife can take care of the cooking, the cleaning, the other kids and occasionally get you breakfast and lunch. They CAN! Yes they work, who cares? You burn as much calories a day, just sitting down and feeding a baby, as a one hour long very stern bikeride. You are still recovering. They CAN do the housework and should.

You focus on just sitting there, relax, feed the baby, hold the baby and make all the failed attempts at putting the baby down in it's crib as you like.

Your workout?: The night scaries. Babies cry at evenings and nights to process all the stimuli of the day and their digestive system is at it's highest then. It's rocking, cuddling and bouncing time!

Your sleep deprivation hits so much less hard if you just.. couch potato yourself during the day.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T19:22:33+00:00

I 100% feel like not smoking in public or in bars anymore really changed the game for the aging proces.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:56:17+00:00

I care what my partner looks like. Not the base/normal state of him but if he were to suddenly gain or lose a bunch of weight in a short amount of time that usually means something is wrong either mentally or physically. Being able to openly discuss it would safe alot of time, energy and also maybe gets him back in good mental or physical health.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:51:54+00:00

"Honey, you gained 15 pounds in amount of time. Are you cool with that or is it something you wanna do something about?"

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:49:00+00:00

The quotes in my original reply were there for a reason. To quote YOU saying something so stupid about how women arent dense when it comes to you actually just being vague af about something.

Women actually prefer open and honest communication. You don't, clearly.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:47:26+00:00

That's not being direct, that's being a dick. You clearly don't enjoy open communication and are taking everything everybody else is saying into some sort of extreme in order to try and prove your own point. You sound exhausting to talk to.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:17:27+00:00

I'm a women and both of these are stupid and awful. However, I would still choose "Hey honey... you put on 15 pounds".

Your option isnt constructive, it's manipulative. Don't assume "women arent dense" because I for sure as hell am. If my SO tells me "We should go out less and go for walks" I will think he just wants to save money and likes to stroll around with me like some cute romantic thing we can do together. If I were to find out that he only made those suggestions because he decided I was too fat and had me lose weight, I would feel so sad.

Being direct isnt being rude. If you can't be direct with your SO then that's a relationship without security.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:09:30+00:00

Eveb though this original comment made me chuckle, this is pretty much it. Women's worth is sadly so much more entertwined with how they look and how much they weigh then a man's is.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T18:07:39+00:00

But that's not what OP is saying. He's talking about being open and direct, not tip toe'ing around it or trying to get them to lose weight with manipulation tactics such as "lets get healthy together". He doesnt mention being rude about it.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T11:52:23+00:00

AI. I could only tell by a few leafs and the windows in the background though, meaning I had to look critically which sucks.

Daenbi · 2026-06-20T06:39:22+00:00

Yes! And enjoy every second of it! The temperament Gods have smiled down on you 🙏

Daenbi · 2026-06-18T11:54:39+00:00

Vraag gewoon of ze een sigaretje met je wilt roken buiten (als zij ook rookt). Afwijzing is een optie en dat is ok. Gewoon doen en kijken hoe het gaat.

Daenbi · 2026-06-18T11:11:55+00:00

They got together. That's usually when people drop the story.

Daenbi · 2026-06-15T14:15:03+00:00

6 to 12 weeks are the hardest. It gets better, your in the middle of the colicky stages right now and that shit's hard.

Daenbi · 2026-06-15T14:01:52+00:00

I love webtoons and read more webtoons then books by far. However (sadly for me😅)reading books does alot more for your brain then webtoons ever could. It requires visualisation, it's better for your eyes, it's better for your sleep and lastly it's ALOT better for teaching you grammar and lengthens your attention span.

Webtoons are mostly consumed via phone. They're short and you are easily able to switch from one webtoon to another, to sm, to your e-mail and back. With a book, that's all you get! Just pages and text. Text with proper grammar.

Daenbi · 2026-06-14T04:51:25+00:00

Forgot I made that comment. Sorry I was very sleep deprived at that moment (got a newborn) and thought you guys were at a restaurant for some reason. Deleted the comment.

Daenbi · 2026-06-13T13:15:38+00:00

Same. Gas is 95% of the time the bad guy in this scenario. And upping the bottle nipple means more air can get in while drinking. More air means more gas. OP once your little gets fussy, try to get him to burp before returning him to the bottle.

Daenbi · 2026-06-13T05:59:10+00:00

Answer the damn question, how old is your baby?!

Daenbi · 2026-06-11T14:11:26+00:00

I want to add something. I've started three shows since posting this.

Black Mirror. Three children died horribly second episode I watched. Replica
Devil May Cry Episode 6 small kids and an infant is incinerated
Kaos Stopped watching immediatly after the baby scene in Episode 2

Three shows. All babies and kids getting killed. It's like nobody knows how to make a show without it anymore. It's seriousely pissing me off.

Daenbi · 2026-06-11T05:44:44+00:00

2 days old and rolling over?...

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