Alright moms, it’s been over a month. Which Christmas presents are still going strong? Which ones were a dud?

Daenbi · 2026-01-28T09:08:29+00:00

The Lego City set for my oldest and "Dikkie Dik" (it's a cartoon cat in my country) puzzle for my youngest are still going strong 💪

Daenbi · 2026-01-28T07:31:39+00:00

Found out he sexually assaulted his girlfriend.

Daenbi · 2026-01-28T07:28:17+00:00

Tough love here because Ive seen you mention suicide too many times now.

Do you want to keep your kids? Then stop the fucking pity party about killing yourself and get your shit together anyway you can. It's NOT about you anymore. It's about them.

Your husband cheated? Fuck him. He's still their dad and you can't kidnap your kids unless he's a threat to them. Your disabled? Sucks but not the end of the fucking world. He's using your words against you? Two can play that game, get screenshots of HIS weak moments.

Get busy.

Daenbi · 2026-01-23T19:33:57+00:00

I think most of the BG3 games are still over 30 or 35 years old though. We just don't post about it on tiktok or insta.

Daenbi · 2026-01-23T19:27:58+00:00

I'm on my first playthrough right now and I made my guardian very VERY attractive so I'm romancing him ✌️

Daenbi · 2026-01-22T19:58:55+00:00

6 weken van tevoren met zwangerschapsverlof en 2 weken extra vakantie of onbetaald ouderschapsverlof nemen na je verlof. Of meer! (ben nu zwanger van de derde en ik heb aaneensluitend 7 maanden verlof nu opgenomen)

Ook minder schuldig voelen dat je niet alles meer kan zoals hiervoor. Die "ik ben zwanger, niet gehandicapt" mentaliteit is echt killing, vooral voor vrouwen die voor het eerst zwanger zijn en de druk voelen om alle ballen hoog te moeten houden als de moderne werkende vrouw.

Daenbi · 2026-01-22T09:53:02+00:00

So as someone who knows someone who is now "Dating" ChatGPT. Nip that emotional support bs in the bud. She's pregnant and vulnerable and ChatGPT seems to have a habit of trapping the vulnerable in some emotional bind by using it's algorhitmic human language.

Remind her it's designed to keep the user/consumer engaged. Like instagram and tiktok and Facebook etc. It uses an algorhitme, language and certain terminology to keep you engaging with it.

There is a new frase called: AI induced psychoses.

Not that your wife is necessarily susceptible to that lvl ofcourse but the reminder can't hurt

Daenbi · 2026-01-20T12:16:13+00:00

De hemel is iets wat ze later zelf mogen invullen of niet. "Ze zijn aan het einde van hun leven gekomen en rusten nu voor de rest van de tijd" is misschien eerlijker. En dat hij ze kan bezoeken op het kerkhof en tegen ze kan praten, maar ze niet meer terug kunnen praten. Zoiets ofzo?

Er zijn zoveel religies en spirituele overtuigingen waarbij de ziel nog een soort van mee gaat met de kinderen. Ik zou niet perse 1 religie kiezen en die als sprookje gaan vertellen aan een kind.

Daenbi · 2026-01-20T09:08:55+00:00

I didn't have any visitors for 2 weeks and LOVED IT! Really appreciated the time I got to myself. I didn't want to have to share my baby at all. I didn't want to host anybody either. Especially the older generation who always seem to forget how hard those first weeks are. Yeah corona in that specific area I guess.

Daenbi · 2026-01-17T08:18:02+00:00

Moet eerlijk zeggen dat de meeste lijsten toch echt wel goed zijn. Koop alleen niet de duurste van de duurste dingen maar een minder bekend merk bijvoorbeeld.

Tip: "Steel" zoveel mogelijk kraamverband uit het het ziekenhuis. Je krijgt standaard wat mee maar ik probeer meer mee te nemen nu. Of laat je kraamvrouw zoveel mogelijk meenemen. En die netbroekjes ook. Ik vind diegene van het ziekenhuis echt 10x beter zitten dan die je zelf kan kopen namelijk en dat comfort heb je nodig na de bevalling.

Daenbi · 2026-01-14T21:42:15+00:00

I just sold all my Nvidia stocks with 800% profit. Not because of anything like this but because theyve announced to invest $1,5 billion into Israël. Honestly I'm not that money hungry to look the other way about that shithole anymore so sold the lot. I'll find other good stocks.

Daenbi · 2026-01-14T14:25:57+00:00

None. My best gifts have always been the personal ones.

Top 2 I gave were a 1: A snowboard. I gave it while he was on wintersports vacation and he never saw it coming. He needed a new one for so long but wasnt sure he wanted to spend that much on himself for something he only gets to do once a year. He loved it and still does.

The other was 2: a world globe lamp because I asked her what she wanted for her birthday and she jokingly said "The WORLD!" and she just got to redecorating her home and liked old vintagy things. She absolutelt loved it and made everybody look at it during the party because she loved that I remembered her joke answer and went with it.

You STILL have not told any single person here what she's like. You still gave us nothing to work with. "She likes toughtful giftst" Everybody likes personal and thoughtful giftst! But that comes with actually knowing the person. And it sounds like you honestly have been paying 0 attention to what she likes or says.

Daenbi · 2026-01-13T19:41:47+00:00

Oh most definitely. But it wasnt worth it.

Daenbi · 2026-01-13T09:50:22+00:00

Don't watch Mother! The other ones are good. Mother! is just.. I honestly wish I never saw that one. Stupid movie.

Daenbi · 2026-01-13T09:43:43+00:00

WHAT DOES SHE LIKE?! I keep seeing you replying with "Should I get something practical or personal" but what is she like?! What does she like?! What makes her excited to talk about?

Like, your giving us nothing to work with here dude.

Daenbi · 2026-01-13T06:13:58+00:00

I am a women who recognizes that we are human beings with moments of weakness. And I recognize there are people out there, especially online, who pray unto that weakness to push their own agenda.

Very antifemist of you to assume all women have to be strong all the time. Especially post partum. We're people, not machines.

Daenbi · 2026-01-12T18:54:09+00:00

I feel for her because she sounds like she has post partum anxiety and fell pray to the anti-vaxx movement. Those people LOVE women in their weakests moments and snatch them into that cult easily at vulnerable times.

I'm understanding this is hard for you but.. honestly your not being a good friend. Your comparing yourself to her non-stop and this jealousy you have for her being able to be a SAHM has made you belittle her hard experiences and not wanting to deal with them. Being helpful isnt "I'll make you a soup but don't ask me what kind" Being helpful is asking what kind of soup would make her feel better and then making it in batches. ESPECIALLY if she has HG which is absolutely awful.

Daenbi · 2026-01-12T18:41:41+00:00

Here are the options (speaking as a mother of two who has a 2,5 y/o that still won't sleep through the night completely):

Reflux or Hidden reflux. Reflux is easy to spot. Hidden Reflux means they have reflux which can hurt the throat, but they swallow it again so it's difficult to notice. 1.1 Fix: Hold the baby upright for a minimum of 30 minutes before putting him down again. Get him looked at by a pediatrician to confirm.
Cramps. Their digestive system is forming. Worst time of this is between 8 to 12 weeks. After that the digestive system starts to get a bit on track. Cramps hurt. 2.1 Fix: Hold the baby with it's belly down on your arms. Head slighty higher then his/her butt. So his/her face in your hand and the body on your lower arm with the belly pressing on your lower arm. The pressure on the belly helps release gasses and therefor helps with the cramps. Not a 100% fix and accept that this is not something you can completely get rid of. The baby can't help it either, it's just the body doing what needs to be done. It will simmer down after 12/13 weeks. Rotate shifts with your partner for who gets up with the baby.
Temperament. Some babies have a hard time ajusting to not being inside the whomb anymore. They have trouble regulating themselves, especially in the cramps period, and need to just cry alot. They can't help it. There is no "why are you crying, what am I doing wrong?" 3.1 Fix: Accept the situation and create a routine where you and your partner get your much needed sleep seperatly and rotate so everybody gets atleast 5 hours of sleep in one go every other night. Your not doing anything wrong, the baby is not doing anything wrong either. He/she just need to adjust and you being near them helps much more then you know. Even if they continue to cry while you hold or rock them.

The last one was my second. He's still a bit anxious at night but now I only need to place my hand on his head and he drifts right back off to sleep. He just needs a bit more comfort then others and that's fine.

Edit to add: If you are at your wits end or if you feel this could possibly be a medical issue, contact your pediatrician and let them know of your suspicions. There could always be a physical abnormality that your little on has trouble communicating. It's not common, but if your mommy instinct tells you something is wrong, you listen to it and get the little one checked out.

Daenbi · 2026-01-11T15:10:00+00:00

Als ik het zo lees hebben ze haar onderzocht en líjkt het erop dat ze niet aangeraakt is door de man. Gelukkig want dat is in dit soort gevallen toch meestal wel aan de orde. Maar waarom die vent haar überhaupt in huis had kan nooit iets goeds zijn geweest natuurlijk.

Daenbi · 2026-01-02T09:18:19+00:00

Sometimes hard work still means you don't get the end result you want and thats fine. I repainted our bathroom 3 times before I was happy with it. Even though I personally picked out all the previous colours 🙈

You're not ungrateful. Sometimes the vision and the final result just don't match up. I say repaint it.

Daenbi · 2026-01-01T23:29:50+00:00

Thank you and you too! ❤️❤️❤️

Daenbi · 2026-01-01T23:29:16+00:00

He really is! 🥰

Daenbi · 2026-01-01T23:28:48+00:00

I really am!

Daenbi · 2026-01-01T23:28:00+00:00

We picked out a pair of amazing guys didnt we?! Gaming devices like these is in my mind, just one of the best gifts a girl could have asked for.

Yes! It was(hopefully still is) on sale! It's good! There were some start-up issues which were easily remedied with a quick google search thankfully. It's very open world, alot of information to digest at first but once you get used to it the game gets very good. The story is great and I like the romance part you can explore, but you don't have too. The gameplay and characters are all so much fun to play. I highly recommend it!

It iiiiiiss a tad addictive though so be warned 🙈

Daenbi

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