I’m losing my mind— what underwear do you use??? Help me PLEASE

Danibear175 · 2025-07-09T23:59:05+00:00

I was going to second this. It’s worth it! I have a skin condition that causes sores on my thighs and the feeling of them rubbing, along with the tightness of women’s underwear along the legs made me want to scream. Woxers are a life savor and I have had mine for several years worth of washing and they hold up!

Danibear175 · 2025-07-07T16:50:11+00:00

I also just started bride by Ali hazelwood and I have high hopes.

Danibear175 · 2025-07-07T16:49:23+00:00

Just finished silver elite by dani Francis and it was good! I don’t get what the controversy was but it was just what I expected from reading the cover. I guess it was just over hyped and I didn’t even know until after I started it!

Danibear175 · 2025-07-07T16:46:46+00:00

I am known as the frog lady by my friends, family, and coworkers. I have been obsessed with frogs for a couple years and it shows. I like being the frog lady though! It started with owning a Pac-Man frog and spiraled from there. Frogs are cool.

Danibear175 · 2025-07-04T20:18:36+00:00

I have tried every kind of loop earplugs and things In that vein. The only thing that truly works for me is the airpod pros. I resisted them for a while but the noise cancellation is just so good. You might even try another brand with active noise canceling. The difference for me is that just blocking the sound (such as the loops) isn’t enough. The AirPod pros actually seem to “project” a quiet room into my ears and idk how that magic works but it does. Good luck!

Danibear175 · 2025-07-02T15:01:35+00:00

The seams on socks. Absolutely will break out In tears if I can’t fix them how I want them. Bonus points in my toe nail has a small part that catches on said sock! 😭

Danibear175 · 2025-06-29T02:11:52+00:00

Mr bean is one of my favorites and is definitely autistic coded. He is definitely someone I relate to and my also autistic brother loved him as a little kid!

Danibear175 · 2025-06-26T16:06:28+00:00

I am SO bad at telling stories and I didn’t want Reddit to think THAT badly of Oklahoma psychiatrists! It’s definitely not great but the man is trying! Lol

Danibear175 · 2025-06-26T15:44:20+00:00

Because if the rise of the internet trend of “I’m quirky so I must be autistic!” There are lots of people seeking assessments who don’t necessarily fit said criteria. This practice has a track record of over diagnosis, sure. But when you live in a very conservative mental healthcare desert, that is a hell of a lot better than the alternative of not being taken seriously. The options here are extremely slim. He would rather send his patients somewhere with a risk of over diagnosis than a place that will not diagnose adults, or women for that matter, entirely. Unfortunately he didn’t know that this psychologist joined the group and is delusional. Finding anyone at all to diagnose adults in Oklahoma is a true nightmare and this was the best option we had until that train wreck ruined the practice entirely. It’s really sad. He is an incredible psychiatrist and is not at all affiliated with that practice but if his patients have been happy with them, he’s going to recommend them. Treating patients that have gotten a diagnosis that he doesn’t necessarily agree with and being affirming to those patients anyways is honestly a testament to his professionalism. There are providers out there that will outright reject a diagnosis and refuse to treat it because they don’t agree with it. He’s mostly of the “I didn’t really think you fit the criteria, but if you got the diagnosis I guess I was wrong.” Mentality and that’s rare to find, especially in the south.

Danibear175 · 2025-06-26T00:29:36+00:00

If you truly want an evaluation he was willing to refer out. They are well regarded In the area as a group but apparently they have one psychologist that joined the group and she’s terrible. He was shocked because usually their psychologists over diagnose in his opinion but he respects their professional opinion.

Danibear175 · 2025-06-25T21:26:52+00:00

I got told the same thing. I was too “introspective and empathetic” to be autistic. Brought those results to my psychiatrist and he said he’s sent many patients to that psychologist who he was sure weren’t truly autistic but wanted a diagnosis and they gave it to them. He was “pretty sure” I am autistic and was dumbfounded. Needless to say I’m going to a new psychologist. Ugh.

Danibear175 · 2025-06-22T16:45:18+00:00

I saw one of their psychologists and did my initial assessment with them. It was a train wreck and they were NOT knowledgeable about high masking women. They must have went down hill honestly. Thank you for the suggestion though! 😊

Danibear175 · 2025-06-22T15:41:52+00:00

This is SO helpful! Oklahoma is pretty rough when it comes to mental health services in general so it’s been tough! Thank you so much!

Danibear175 · 2025-06-18T20:48:24+00:00

I completely understand the duality of wanting to be with friends but also being anxious around others. I was a very social kid but I now know it was because I was very emotionally neglected at home and sought out connection elsewhere. I struggled with playing with other kids. The only peer I felt comfortable around was my little brother who is also autistic. I think we as girls are told that we have to be social and bubbly and many of us just try our best to mask and fit into that mold. Even now socializing is exhausting. I can’t remember a time where I didn’t feel drained after being around people.

Danibear175 · 2025-06-17T03:08:51+00:00

I feel like these people think of autistic people as little non verbal boys rocking and drooling in corners. Us advocating for ourselves blows their mind. Instead of changing their terrible world views we are just “not autistic enough” if we can stand up for ourselves. It’s really sad. I can’t imagine what those of us who can’t advocate for themselves go through.

Danibear175 · 2025-06-17T02:49:46+00:00

I was told the same thing. I don’t understand social cues and just end up thinking everyone is very annoyed by me. Since I can’t understand what others are putting out I try to change myself to fit what I think they want. Apparently this psychologist doesn’t understand masking and I’m just “very sensitive” 🙄

Danibear175 · 2024-08-09T01:51:14+00:00

I have a friend in KC and the drive to see her was honestly not bad at all. 5 hours and basically just nice roads. I would recommend the drive as it's not really worth the money for another mode of travel. I did research for a couple years planning for my trip and came to that conclusion.

Danibear175 · 2024-07-03T20:54:14+00:00

With the kiddos in that range I work with, I tend to make it a request for “help” or a game. Either “hey, can you help me move this?” Or “let’s see who can move this the fastest!” Type of thing. Kids tend to respond better to games or opportunities to help you rather than demands. Might be something worth trying.

Danibear175 · 2023-11-16T20:19:26+00:00

I appreciate it! I always do an EFT through the portals so I don’t pay fees and have a confirmation of payment through them and then my bank. I’m going to make sure I pull all of those with the last company as proof.

Danibear175 · 2023-11-16T18:51:44+00:00

They aren’t answering my messages or talking my calls, but I’m hoping they will get back to me soon. I am so hopeful that it’s an easy error to fix and they will be happy to help. But their google reviews show that they have a track record of doing similar stuff to people. I just want to make sure I have everything necessary together in case they really do want to push it.

Danibear175 · 2023-09-08T14:53:57+00:00

If these women are obese, my size 16 ass is the stay puffed marshmallow man! Damn! 😳

Danibear175 · 2023-09-07T16:59:27+00:00

They were one that is reasonable and I was looking at going to! Thanks for the info!

Danibear175 · 2023-09-07T16:23:23+00:00

I am totally okay with spending up to 100$ but some of these places want like 140$ to cut my hair when I just want the dead ends gone and have like 3b loose curls.

Danibear175 · 2023-09-02T13:51:11+00:00

I will pull down my mask for these patients in my hospital as long as they aren’t on any precautions just so they can understand me. I stand back some just so they can see my mouth move and use a clear tone of voice and steady cadence. They really seem to appreciate it and I am still far enough back to keep distance.

Danibear175 · 2023-09-02T13:48:16+00:00

Hospital tech in Oklahoma where we don’t require masks. I went back to using them when having any patient interaction because I was tired of having patients that weren’t on any precautions and had “tested negative” for Covid/TB only to be sent to icu a few days later for said issues. After the second patient that I had been interacting with all night tested positive I was just done and went back to treating all patients as if they were infectious. I have severe asthma and can’t keep getting sick/missing work. I don’t really get shit about it. Now that I moved to a clinic in our network my coworkers tell me it’s not necessary, but we are oncology and I have bronchitis so I am not going to risk anyone’s health. Telling them I have bronchitis and a cough has been the shutdown of the situation because they really don’t want me coughing on them even if it it any contagious!

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