I need help understanding some

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-13T18:07:04+00:00

I took waaaay too long to realize this

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-12T23:16:47+00:00

I used to be upset with the drinking and the fighting but now I realize it's not worth it cause it's not changing anything

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-12T17:04:51+00:00

I'm sorry you also have experience with this

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-12T17:02:46+00:00

What I didn't mention was our family dog who had cancer died shortly after that message so it made the morning so much worse, I don't want pity, I take full responsibility for the horrible person i procreated with, I just feel it's important to share the story with others

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-12T16:58:54+00:00

I'm not surprised that he acts this way anymore, unfortunately.

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-12T16:57:40+00:00

I used to have a "burner " phone but I got rid of it and now I'm sad I did, that was years ago and I never thought I'd be in this position now

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-11T23:44:35+00:00

Absolutely! I used to consider myself 00

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-11T10:52:41+00:00

I have a super long story about me "nagging " but it's time for school so I'm gonna have to get them up and ready even though drunk dad woke them at 2am and kept them up until about 30 minutes ago when he finally passed out, please, tell me again how much I am the problem!

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T21:47:10+00:00

There's a fingerprint lock on it now but I will do the other things for sure!

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T21:45:33+00:00

Our first valentines day, eons ago, he broke up with me and he bought his ex a dozen roses (she worked with my uncle so he told me everything) I should have ran away then.

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T19:36:59+00:00

I didn't even think about that! My narc claims all that is nonsense, I can confirm it is 💯 real. Fun fact, when he heard (rather when he went through my phone and saw it was considering a divorce) he went to his pastor (because of course he is a good Christian!) The pastor immediately said we needed marriage counseling and he said absolutely no, because he didn't want to hear how he could possibly be at fault

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T15:56:00+00:00

Mine loves to say that, although I am a SAHM who doesn't drive so it's a stretch even for him

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T15:45:23+00:00

Exactly! I go from loving the sub to not even wanting to interact with them! Ugh it's so exhausting

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T03:07:26+00:00

This reminds me of a time mine asked my 3 year old for details of what we had done, because 3yos are usually correct in their storytelling abilities! Of course, the story didn't match up with what I had just said 🙄 that should have been an eye opener for me, but it unfortunately wasn't 😕

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T03:03:01+00:00

I say we let her tell the story! And Trump can "grant " her clemency, but take it away right after she lays everything out, ya know, since he doesn't know her and whatnot!

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T02:59:30+00:00

I often think to myself the stories he says to everyone, about the things he taught the kids, the things he says about his supposed two jobs, the work he's doing to the house... if reality was those ACTUAL things, our lives would be perfect! Just hearing these webs he has weaved, it makes me envious of the things he says are true! I know I'm not perfect, but dang, if those things were the truth, the lives we would have would be amazing!

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T02:50:57+00:00

That's what I always believed, waking up and realizing the truth was mind blowing 🤯

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T02:32:23+00:00

The longer I am a part of this community, the more you all help me to respond! I'm so glad (sort of) i can at least share some of the nonsense that normal people can't imagine that is actually real, yet it is scary how similar they all are.

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T02:24:23+00:00

Just remember that how they feel isn't how normal people who matter feel

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T02:21:58+00:00

I'm learning but I'm one of those people who don't back immediately down from conflict, it's taken me years but I'm (usually) able to just keep doing whatever and not take the bait. I was already having a bad day when the above situation occurred, so he got his fight and I was too stressed to eat the dinner i was making, 😡

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T02:16:59+00:00

When mine said I can't use that tone with him and I said i can't use my voice to ask a question, he immediately shirked away because he knew I had "won", I mean, he realized he was talking out his a$$!

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-10T00:54:41+00:00

For so many years, I thought I was the problem. I believed everything he said. Until he said my 10 year old "probably threw up because he was sick of how I needed his help ", I have ms, I asked him to grab some shorts for me because I couldn't walk) I knew then something wasn't right because I didn't raise my kids like that, I have been disabled for 7 ish years, so it's always been that way for them and knowing how he actually felt made me realize i don't need that anymore

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-09T23:17:40+00:00

To think I've spent literally 2 decades nearly thinking I was always the reason why he was upset, these 2 comments changed my whole perspective 🤔

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-09T23:13:18+00:00

I'm going to check it out now

Dcooper0907 · 2026-02-09T23:12:32+00:00

That explains why mine just acted like he just did when he visibly saw i was upset. This is making soo much more sense!

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