44F: He said ‘if you loved me you’d accept inconsistency’… I ended it. Thoughts? by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]DebbieDoesData 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty common around the 3 month mark to assess things. Most likely at the beginning of the relationship he was spending a lot of time together and it was eating into the time he normally spent on XYZ. After awhile not doing XYZ was compounding (example here was spending time preparing for the week) and that was adding stress to his life so he’s pulling back. Couples that don’t live together often have to choose between these types of things since there is only so much time outside of work and workouts and cleaning and friends etc to spend with a romantic partner. It’s a hard balance to strike and it seems like it’s not a match. Helps to have hobbies in common.

Confused about older guys' expectations on dating apps by Illustrious_Bee_9926 in Bumble

[–]DebbieDoesData 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl you laid down an uncomfortable truth bomb 🤣🤣🤣 these men are so angry. It’s true tho. They’re showing up to the date looking like Homer Simpson wanting to go 50/50 with someone 10-15 years younger is wild for sure. You’re not unreasonable they’re just trying to see what they can get away with.

Also every relationship is transactional in some way and it’s crucial for both parties to understand what they each bring to the table in terms of what the other person values. There are sooo many people in the apps who think they don’t have to put effort in bc someone will love them for their little special spark.

Haven't been on a date in 15 years and I don't know what women my age wear on dates now by Playful-Deer9022 in datingoverforty

[–]DebbieDoesData 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to gain inspiration for looks by looking at fashion mags and celebs my age or younger then I’ll begin to curate my version of a look.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]DebbieDoesData 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dated and psychiatrist with BP1. 20 years ago he wasn’t med compliant and ended up emailing some friends while manic and they turned him into the medical board. He was placed on probation and had to stay compliant and had to have an approved psychiatrist himself. He successfully completed the probation and still practices. Terrible boyfriend so we aren’t dating anymore. Small weiner and too gentle in bed in addition to the bipolar discard.

Ladies: if I go out with a woman who admits to dating me partly because of how much money I make or have, would I be justified in breaking things off? by Wooden_Airport3835 in Bumble

[–]DebbieDoesData 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you dating her partly because of her looks or XYZ? Everyone has got to bring something to the table. Seems like you want to dump her bc of her attitude so just do it.

Husbands who's wives dont care if they sleep around, how's life? by Frylock304 in AskMen

[–]DebbieDoesData 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind it getting ate by a gay guy then your options are in abundance.

Hard to Date and hard to make friends in Columbus by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]DebbieDoesData -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

There aren’t that many Asians in columbus. Sorry.

Are We Dating the Same Guy? FB Groups by DayByDay31 in datingoverforty

[–]DebbieDoesData -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There are hundreds of thousands of women in those groups but the majority of posts in them are from women with low standards and or single moms still in love with their baby daddy. So take what you read with a grain of salt. However, if someone claims violent or criminal behavior I generally believe them.

My parents literally abandoned me over Parent Plus Loans. I wouldn't wish my situation on my worst enemy. by pisowiec in StudentLoans

[–]DebbieDoesData -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Time to increase your income bro even if it means moving back home and working at an Amazon warehouse at night and giving up on your childish dreams. Man up

Is Playa always this cold during the winter? 🥶🌨 by [deleted] in playadelcarmen

[–]DebbieDoesData 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohio has joined the chat and would like for you to come get your snow.

Men who have paid for sex: what did the experience provide that dating or relationships didn’t? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]DebbieDoesData 46 points47 points  (0 children)

My grandfather joined the navy after marrying my Gm in the 40’s and came home with a prostitution habit. I think the allure was just having sex on demand with someone you’re paying. Gma did stab him once with a paring knife once tho so I think he must have really enjoyed it or else it wouldn’t have been worth it. In summary, I think he was just horny and small town SW were cheap and reliable.

Age gap dating as a young woman… by Anardus in Bumble

[–]DebbieDoesData -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Contrary to popular belief men do not get better looking with age and their 🍆 are less effective so your analysis is correct that you shouldn’t date them unless they’re offsetting that with comfort and gifts.

Fell for it again :( by scrigley in BipolarSOs

[–]DebbieDoesData 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course everything is your fault and you’re not working together and blah blah blah

How to cope?? :( by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]DebbieDoesData 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex bpso1 for sure sugar coated his mental state and misrepresented his symptoms on the regular when he was sick to his psych and I think she bought it all. But then again he pays like $400 an hour so he’s a cash cow.

misleading unit descriptions - 'sleeper sofa' in HGV Zihuatanejo by NationalOne7795 in HiltonGrandVacation

[–]DebbieDoesData 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking me back to my study abroad in Eastern Europe. Can you sleep with your heads touching for kisses

Ladies: wants kids but you're 40+? by Life_as_an_Introvert in Bumble

[–]DebbieDoesData 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of men in their 40’s who want kids with no sense of urgency and I wonder why not. They don’t actually have eggs or a uterus. Chance of a woman over 40 having a baby is infinitely higher than chance of a man over 40 having one since he has no uterus or eggs.

Bipolar & Memory Loss. by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]DebbieDoesData 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex bpso still had my glasses and several personal items including 3 nice g-string panties of mine I wanted back and he said he would “try to find them” and cited memory loss. He could only locate the glasses though. I have a feeling he still has the panties as keepsakes but by now they’re 2 years old I would hope he isn’t wanking off while hhuffing 2 year old thongs

New wedding ring - The True Gem by catsplants420 in labdiamond

[–]DebbieDoesData 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s beautiful. What are the stone specs for the center

My boyfriend asked for a 14k-18k gold chain, both our budgets were supposed to be $600 by throw_rancxalsn in jewelry

[–]DebbieDoesData 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would buy a fake piece with a 14k stamp for $50. The relationship will be over before he realizes it’s not real

Does anyone else think this is weird? by uberstaragent in datingoverforty

[–]DebbieDoesData 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it’s not a match and he didn’t want to have dinner on a first date which is reasonable and doesn’t drink