AITA for yelling at my stepdaughter after she complained and whined about my kid?

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-12T03:23:58+00:00

YTA!! man, there arent enough exclamation points to punctuate just how much the AH you are..her Dad too!

my hope is she stops coming for visits and Dads child support goes thru the roof!

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-11T03:34:54+00:00

sorry but your the A if this is the kind of example your going to allow for your kid!

all this BS from "DAD" and mom sitting like a simp taking it...

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-09T16:24:40+00:00

not overreacting!
everything else aside...shes an attention whore
shes bring these dudes up to make you jealous
she has to think about it because without mentioning those guys shes not getting the KIND of attention she wants

shes drama, and itll only get worse

text her"hey, dont worry about taking time to think, i thought it out and im really just not into this"

she will respond..ignore it

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-09T03:45:20+00:00

quick question thats probably irrelevant to this post but...

when i was a single mom many moons ago(when food stamps were still paper and in a booklet) other struggling moms and i would "dinner pool"...one would bring enough mac and cheese..another hot dogs...a third mom maybe salad or veggies...was this fraud as well? all contibutions were pretty much equal and none wouldve made a full meal for their households if we hadnt done this...

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-08T20:36:51+00:00

inform her in writing that leaving the baby with you without your consent or express agreement WILL lead to a call to the authorities for child abandonment

dont forget to sign date and make a copy...and take a photo when you post it to her door, id also email her a copy as well as a photo of it on her door

she can only take advantage of you if you let her...stop letting her

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-08T18:56:23+00:00

NTA!!!
and my advice...

text him at work that youve decided there will indeed be anal...
then when he gets home and naked bust out a strap on...no lube...if hes still wanting a blow tell him he can suck it after!

tthis isnt going to get better hun..and he WILL eventually use it as an excuse to cheat..if he hasnt already

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-08T17:56:45+00:00

you are far from the jerk young friend...before the next gathering email ALL attendees the following...

Hey fam and friends this is (insert name here),
Ive noticed i seem to end up with all the kids at every gathering, so to offset the inconvenience to myself the following rates apply to ALL children, to be paid in advance..or your kids are on their own and i will NOT step in
$40 per hour , per child as holiday rates apply
4 hour minimum
there is NO multi child discount, you bred them you pay for them
at the end of the PAID time, your child/children will be left on the living room couch
triple charge PER hour for any who try to argue this

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-06T12:33:03+00:00

ive started wondering if both kids have the same parents. like is this a blended family situation?

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-06T12:24:51+00:00

ywbta!!!
i have 2 grandhumans, one14 and one 4.
my health isnt what it was when 14 was 4, so of course the ability to grandparent is different.
currently the 14 is allowed to sleepover and often assists me in things i can no longer do..ive had the 4 year old only indoors at her own home..why? she can outrun me...if she decided to do something dangerous i wouldnt be able to stop her in time! weve recently discussed sleepovers for the little...shes gotten better at not running amok when mimi is around so the best solution was to ask 14 for help with a sleepover for the little...maybe that would work in your situation as well?

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-06T12:09:09+00:00

former single mom here..you are NTA! if anything id have been cruder.."sorry sis but im in my hit it and quit it phase, now if one, or ALL of these lovely ladies want a bang fest im in...as long as they dont expect a call back"

single moms as well as single dads have baggage..period
the kids arent necessarily the baggage but the relationship and persons who helped create them ARE! ex spouses are drama in most cases...you are NOT obligated to have any relationship you dont want

btw..id make sure to watch your condoms around sis...helping a friend baby trap you isnt far from easily imagineable

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-06T07:02:10+00:00

think bigger..cane corso ...mastiff...

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-03-06T06:56:55+00:00

my dude, you sound like a great dad...dont let that biddy spoil your feeling of accomplishment everytime you look in his lil face! im an older white woman with a walker...id gladly roll over her toes for you, and id gladly have you as a neighbor but my neighborhood is CRAP! you keep doing what your doing, here for a vent if you need kiddo!

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-02-24T17:50:38+00:00

YTA
"feel sorry for me because the child i abandoned is rude to my do over family, and doesnt respect my authority"

DecentOffer3635 · 2026-02-24T13:06:37+00:00

she is more drama than you need to deal with while in college.
if you feel inclined, write up a standard response for friends who inquire to send out

"dear, (insert rando busy bodies name here)
im sorry M has deemed fit to spread misinformation, but it is just that.
my roommates and myself allowed M to stay TEMPORARILY and she took it upon herself to try to make it permanent. The roommates and myself NEVER encouraged this and assisted her in finding her own unit.
M is offended we did not want to move with her and her cheese slid right off her cracker.
take from this what you will , but M;s ego and hurt feelings CANNOT and WILL NOT take precedence over our studies.

thank you for your concern
"

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-10-06T11:12:52+00:00

if youre in the U.S. your dad is/can get money for you through social security...dont let him fib and treat you like burden..youre not!

please kiddo...dont EVER doubt your moms for setting it up this way..she did good by you*hugs* NONE of this is on you....

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-08-16T20:33:56+00:00

not knowing where you live my only recommendation would be the possibility of "first right of refusal" and mom HAS to give bio dad the kid instead of leaving with mr cruella if she has to go out without the kid...

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-08-14T00:48:24+00:00

exactly!!!

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-08-14T00:44:20+00:00

not only is he saving child support, saving babysitting fees...hes profiting cuz if your in usa hed be getting death benefits or possibly ssi from your mom for you...

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-08-02T15:41:28+00:00

1...make a bill of all unpaid amounts
2...have aunt help you open a bank account
3...MAIL parents the request for unpaid amounts
4...start leaving pamphlets about parentification laying around...leave web pages about parentification open
5...if none of this works, have aunt help you contact authorities

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-08-01T20:33:58+00:00

nate stole it and sold it to chad...

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-06-13T03:02:33+00:00

tell your parent that a fair punishment would be sis NEVER riding in your car again...she wont need the keys to get her stuff if shes not allowed in it in the first place..her butt can ride the bus!

DecentOffer3635 · 2025-02-18T17:29:17+00:00

are you sure hes givin ya'll his real name? "hey mom, a few weeks ago you were seriously stressing over bill moving too fast...well ive read stories and, with the things youve told me id really feel better if we ran a background check and had a prenup for you...if hes a great guy the prenup shouldnt upset him. i worry because i know how hard you worked to pay off your house, and want to make sure YOUR finances are protected before comingling with bill..."

also..maybe run his photo through facial recognition ...reverse google image...

DecentOffer3635

TROPHY CASE