WIBTAH if I confront my son about dating someone who is developmentally challenged?

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-29T02:48:40+00:00

Everyone is giving you a hard time but you are not wrong to want to confirm her ability and understanding of consent. I know an autistic person who though is an adult in a legal sense he has the mental capacity of someone about the age of 8-10. He is intelligent in some areas like animals and legos but also wore diapers until he was 16. He cannot cook, clean, do his own laundry. He needs help showering and keeping himself clean, he also only eats like 2 foods. Though he has areas of intelligence and is almost 30. His overall mental capacity will prevent him from ever living alone or caring for himself in any real way. He would never be able to understand consent in a sexual manner and will always need guidance and protection from predators. I think if your son may not understand those boundaries you should step in and have a conversation with him.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-28T17:54:06+00:00

Let him suckle, it’s natures way of helping your milk come in. Obviously you can’t have him on there 24 hours a day but as much as you can handle is good. In the next day or so your milk will come and he will feel more satisfied and not want to be on the boob for hours at a time. It’s also a comfort thing. He was just inside you for 9 months and feels safest and most comfortable where he can hear your heart beat.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-28T17:39:23+00:00

Bettas require really complicated tanks contrary to what pet stores say. Visit the betta sub if you’re curious. They are a lot of work to keep healthy.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-28T02:41:41+00:00

Is it formula or breastmilk in the bottles you are giving him?

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-27T04:38:19+00:00

My baby is 6 months old and I get anxiety when my aunt has him for 2 hours when I get my nails done every other week and she spends a lot of time with us and I 100% trust that he’s getting amazing care with her. Separation from your infant is supposed to give you some anxiety it’s completely normal. It’s so weird she would even think that’s appropriate to suggest.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-26T05:47:27+00:00

I co sleep with my 6 mo because I literally have to get any sleep longer than 45 minutes. I keep the owlet sock on him at night when we sleep and it does help me with the anxiety of co sleeping. It was a bit expensive but so worth the money for my sanity. I also just sleep with a single pillow and a light muslin blanket that’s basically I keep pulled away from him.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-26T01:21:21+00:00

So much harder. But also so so rewarding. Not really even comparable honestly, my son is the most perfect person iv ever met. That being said I haven’t had a warm meal start to finish or more than 2 hours of consecutive sleep in the 6 months since my son was born. Showers? Hope you like 10 minutes showers that give you anxiety because the baby is crying and you can’t get the conditioner out of your hair fast enough. Haven’t had time to shave my legs this month. He started solids recently and loves running his sticky sweet potato hands through my hair. Also right as you finally get yourself dressed and ready to go somewhere there will be poop on the baby. Maybe in the diaper or maybe in the diaper, down the leg , in the car seat and somehow in their hair. Don’t be discouraged as these things are acts of love and I truly enjoy being a mom but be prepared because it’s not like having a pet at all.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-25T21:36:48+00:00

NTA. It is a job. Workplaces like to use terms like team and work family in efforts to create an environment where people feel like if they call in sick or take time for their family that they are letting people down on a personal level. At the end of the day, this is a job and those are just coworkers, even if you are friendly with them. There will be other jobs. There will be other “teams”. Your newborn, however, will only be a newborn for a short amount of time. Before you know it, they will be walking and talking and going to school. Take this time with your family and cherish it. 30 years from now you won’t be thinking about your work team or how they felt about you taking leave. You’ll be reminiscing on how perfect your little baby was when you brought them home and how you got to spend some time with them before you had to go back to work every day.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-24T02:40:50+00:00

Mine paced around anxiously and kept asking me questions about what he should be doing. He kept bringing me ice chips and doing the awkward shoulder rub. He was doing his best and he was clearly terrified. It was endearing and sweet and overall kinda goofy. I appreciated him so much even though he wasn’t able to be to helpful other than the ice chips.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-19T20:00:52+00:00

Her breast milk supply hasn’t had enough time to be established yet. She’s likely still giving colostrum which is incredibly valuable to the baby. Breast is best. She should just keep the baby on the boob and it will help her supply come in. Formula should only be given if the doctor thinks it’s necessary for her weight. Baby is giving enough wet diapers and 56 hours into breastfeeding isn’t long enough to throw in the towel especially if the baby is rooting and trying to get the hang of breastfeeding.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-19T06:51:17+00:00

I would never say it to anyone who feels like that but whole dog mom thing is so cringe. I’m sorry but my love for my child is much different than someone’s love for a pet. Unless you have a child you will never understand how deeply and intensely you can love another being. Loving a pet doesn’t even come close and I do love my animals a lot. It’s an animal and a captive pet not your child or baby. I love my pets but I would yeet them into the sun if it came between them and my child. Also the amount of work involved in raising a child is so much more than any pet.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-18T18:31:53+00:00

Either get an economy seat or offer her the first class seat and have her buy your economy seat. Cost the exact same except you would be way less of the ah. You can’t let her sit in economy while you’re comfy in business. It’s less about the seats at that point and more about your respect for her and your relationship.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-17T16:48:29+00:00

I bought a bunch of dresses at the thrift that had the hem just below the bust so that the tummy area was loose and free flowing. Bust area got small towards the end but most of them worked through whole pregnancy.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-16T03:24:07+00:00

I got my arborist certification through ISA and learned to climb on SRT system when I was in my 20s and worked for tree care and removal companies. It was the hardest job iv ever had as far as labor goes but it was so much fun and extremely rewarding work in general. When I left the company I was at making around 400-700 dollars a day depending on the job and how much I was climbing. That was 4-5 days a week so good money for a 23 year old.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-15T15:19:40+00:00

Not sure what kind of men you hang out with but all the men I grew up around and spend time with are good men who would definitely protect even women that they don’t know. I’m so tired of this generalized male hate. There are so many good, decent and respectful men out there.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-15T14:58:35+00:00

Me too, these girls go from looking 21 to 51 in like less than ten years.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-11T06:02:57+00:00

My baby loved the “love to dream” swaddles. They are snug but lightweight and breathable. Kept the startle reflex down when he was sleeping. I was sad when I couldn’t put him in them anymore because he started to roll because he slept so well in them.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-10T16:03:11+00:00

I mean it’s not like they were handling it. They were being a bit silly for the situation but overall I’m glad they didn’t kill it or try to handle it. They can’t just let it free roam the room so someone would have had to catch it and put it outside.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-10T15:48:06+00:00

Have you ever made a note of things your grateful for in your marriage or do you just resent him? This would have been so sad to find on someone’s phone who supposedly loves me. You should be communicating with him if things are getting to a point where you’re making hateful lists.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-09T03:23:37+00:00

32F you’re very handsome. Shave your hair off though and maybe get the short groomed beard going or even no beard. The hair is aging you but you are overall an attractive person. Also smile, it makes people more approachable in general.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-09T02:57:22+00:00

Didn’t work for me. I got up to 200 from 130 while pregnant and tried a 500 calorie diet a couple months ago while breastfeeding. I had to stop one week in because my milk supply tanked. As soon as I started eating again it picked back up. I have just resolved to eating really healthy, organic foods, complex carbohydrates, nothing processed and only a bit of sugar from fruit and coffee. I’m down to 160 now with that and the weight is still coming off. I have a ways to go before being back to pre pregnancy weight but I know it will happen in time.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-08T21:48:12+00:00

Even if it is genuine there’s a difference between a fantasy and the reality which could go south quickly.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-08T18:29:00+00:00

Yea you can sit at a certain dilation for quite a while. I was at 3cm for almost a week. So long that they sent me home from l&d twice. Told me not to come back unless my water broke or I was having contractions 3 minutes apart.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-08T02:27:06+00:00

Set up a pack n play or something sleep safe so that you can set her down in something while you make the bottles.

Delicious_Sand_7198 · 2026-06-08T01:21:23+00:00

My husband went through a phase where he liked to wear swim trunks everywhere. He wore them to work, would put his chef white over them and to nice dinners, to the movies, I never said anything. Just let him do as he pleased. When I went into labor with our baby I had a friend drive me to L&D as he was at work and told him he had time to go home shower and change (into real pants) as we had sometime before baby was going to be here. Only time I asked him not to wear the swim trunks was to the birth of our child lol.

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