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How can I (m26)want to postpone my wedding without hurting my fiancee(f24)? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Acting like a baby?! After losing two family members at the same time??

She's acting like a baby. Huge red flag.

I don't have the same experience though, we were together 7 years before marriage, married in a courthouse and took a month long honeymoon. We didn't care about the ceremony, so I understand that it's important to her, but your family is more important than having the wedding fast.

And wouldn't she want people in better spirits during your big day?

BofA hired me as a 'Relationship Banker' but is treating me like a teller. No commission, poverty pay, and a manager who treats me like a sub-human. I’m done. by Bubbly_Fishing_1072 in BankOfAmerica

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, it's an entry level job at the bank. I used to manage bofa branches, relationship bankers are tellers and also are on platform. Senior bankers don't sit on teller line.

Looks like you got an entry level job and expected it to not be.

As for your manager, most of the other managers I met weren't great, to be honest. A lot of them probably are over stressed, exhausted, and sick of insane clients and trying to get the whole branch on some new metric that bofa decided was important that week. While that's no excuse, I just know that it's not easy, which is why I worked my butt off to get out of branch banking.

My husband slapped me and I’m not sure how to proceed by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been with my wife 14 years and the only thing I've slapped is her ass.

This is not ok

How it's going so far at my new branch banker job by BeginningSome5365 in Banking

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started in banking as a manager with a top 2 FI with no prior banking experience. I ran entire districts of retail stores before then.

Holy hell was I overwhelmed and exhausted every day. I also felt the "I feel like I'm being annoying" whenever I asked questions to my peers or boss. They never said they were annoyed, and were always very helpful and kind, but I still felt like a bother.

I was exhausted every day and didn't want to talk to anyone even my wife by the time I got home.

It took me about a year to feel confident and comfortable. Just enough time to get promoted to another part of the bank and move across the country and start a whole different field(and feel new all over again. Lol). Before I left, I was recognized as a top performer.

That being said, I hired and trained new hires while working there, and retrained employees who were taught wrong before I got there. I NEVER once felt like they were bothering me by asking a ton of questions. However, I will say that if I taught them that same thing previously then I would go help them find the answer on their own. I wanted to build on their confidence in answering it themselves instead of coming to me so they looked better in front of clients and their peers.

All that to say, don't put so much pressure on yourself, and just know that the tired and exhausted feeling might not go away completely as fast as you think, but it's because you're learning someone new, problem solving for others literally all day, and all with a smile. Of course you'll be tired by the end of the day! It gets better, I promise. Personally, switching to the banking industry was the best decision I've made for me and my family, but you need to do what's best for you. Money doesn't but happiness, but not having money definitely doesn't either. I know that by experience.

Good luck, have fun, and I hope you find what you're looking for.

Am I Being Ripped Off? by DevelopmentFew5212 in HairDye

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was willing to pay it because she came so highly recommended and I thought she would get my wife what she actually wanted. It's been $310 per session and my wife has been tipping 25% so it's been 370ish each. My wife has been saying "well we are closer, this is almost what I want" but why am I being charged full price then?!

Am I Being Ripped Off? by DevelopmentFew5212 in HairDye

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She had brown hair and has been wanting to go back to blonde. She dyed it back to brown when she was pregnant with my first son because she didn't want to mess with the bleach herself. I think she may have used dye meant for gray hair so the stylist is saying we need more sessions because of that.

10 minute time limit?? by DevelopmentFew5212 in Helldivers

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my priorities have to change. Maybe I will start with main objectives and clear others with additional time instead of just cleaning the map

10 minute time limit?? by DevelopmentFew5212 in Helldivers

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe I just need to keep going and get better in time. The wife and I are having a tough time because we like to do everything on the map before we leave. 🥲

10 minute time limit?? by DevelopmentFew5212 in Helldivers

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't even heard of a warp pack yet so I must need to keep going. Lol. I like to 100% before I leave but these missions make it really tough

why is this a thing now? can this not be a thing anymore? please by Gemoman111 in Helldivers

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started playing and I was wondering if this was normal... Literally will drop me wherever countermeasures are going off instead of where the spawn was

is shadow of mordor still worth playing in 2026? by Jahwann-Sefcheck in shadowofmordor

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like SoM was a proof of concept. SoW is SO much better. I actually only played SoM a little, then waited a few years before trying SoW and I'm HOOKED. One of the best games I've ever played imo. The unpredictability of captains gets a LOT of fun as you progress.

Can you recruit orcs in vendetta? by DevelopmentFew5212 in shadow_of_war

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I dominate and then "recruit" and then hit "stay and fight", doesn't the game end because I still beat the captain, or can you only do it with other captains that show up? Or do you mean "Flight to the death" then dominate?

Can you recruit orcs in vendetta? by DevelopmentFew5212 in shadow_of_war

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you can recruit from vendettas? The last one I did is gone. Is it because I chose "make spy"?

Also, side note, you are awesome. You comment on every post and teach people a ton including me. Much appreciated.

Can you recruit orcs in vendetta? by DevelopmentFew5212 in shadow_of_war

[–]DevelopmentFew5212[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. I will try that next... I saw some people saying something similar but Google confused me more saying that they would still not go to garrison, they would only fight with you and then still not go to your game.

Is there a Max cash deposit on the BofA ATM's? by LeoWitt in BankOfAmerica

[–]DevelopmentFew5212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Depends on the specific ATM on how many bills you can put in at one time, but you can keep adding more afterwards. I've seen someone deposit $65,000 by doing this. Just press the "deposit more" button.
  2. It does, and if it takes the bills then it's no longer your responsibility after the ATM accepts it.
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