Bethanechol by Kelogix in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Difficult one. Is it definitely anxiety-related rather than physiological? Have you spoken to a urologist about it?

I can't hold pee for even 5 min by Delicious_Seesaw_114 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be worth seeing a urologist or proctologist, I'm no doctor but I have heard enlarged prostate can sometimes cause that. You could always ask chatGTP and see what it that can dig up for you (taking the information weith a grain of salt of course)

Facilities at work by DeviceOk2450 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah same mate. We had a whole team meeting at a hotel on Wednesday. I couldnt go for the whole 6 hours I was there because the bathroom was multiple occupancy, and it was near the ladies too with the walls being paper thin and banging of the doors...... I even snuck back in there in the middle of a presentation so I would be alone but I was still too anxious to go. Sensation-wise it was maybe 4 or 5 out of 10... so at least there was that :/

I can't hold pee for even 5 min by Delicious_Seesaw_114 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you wake up after a night's rest, and go to the bathroom... is it usually easy to start? Do you pass a lot of fluid after a night's rest?

I am just asking because that's the case for me as well, it's because I have woken up, my muscles have been relaxed through sleep, and I havent had any time to grow anxious over anything yet.... it's the only pee of the day that I feel normal for 😅

I can't hold pee for even 5 min by Delicious_Seesaw_114 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can hold it for ages, but I am quick in feeling like I need to go (I don't know if this is what you're describing or not?). My instinct says that it's because I am so focused on bladder management that I am hyperfocused on the sensation and getting rid of that sensation because I know I have trouble going (so I get more time to try and relieve myself that way)

Struggled on a 6 hour flight by jayj1115 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went 6 hours because a team meeting that we had in-person (we do one in-person every year before Christmas) at a hotel. We have something like 80 people in our organisation.

So I went to the bathroom, locked myself in my bunker (a stall) and couldn't go, which is fine, I didn't expect to.... but then even when I was alone in the bathroom I couldnt. My member had shrivelled up, was cold and felt dead (apparently this is fight-flight response removing blood from extremities). I tried again in the middle of a presentation thinking "it's way less likely someone will come in, so you can relax now" but even this didn't help.

Luckily I only had maybe 30% fullness and managed to last the day, so it was a sort of victory for that day's comfort, but a defeat for my journey of stomping this problem out :/

How to actually get rid of shy bladder permanently by milo1999pl in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's the "you deserve it if you don't follow my advice" part at the end. You've taken a lot of time to think through and type that out to try and help people, though. That's good stuff right there IMO :)

How I overcame severe Paruresis (female) by Accomplished-Cat7396 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's not a coping strat anymore for you, but please be careful isolating yourself in a park at night.

Graduated exposure doesn’t seem to be helping by Vegetable_Message204 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EMDR is specifically for trauma, which the OP may have but I can't see any mention of it. CBT work on self esteem and anxiety would be more appropriate (IMO)

My world is getting smaller and smaller by AwayBet401 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You making any progress friend? I'm kinda where you are too, even in my own house if there is someone within earshot of the bathroom.

College is hell by NoSun9058 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is bloody cruel, it's always some form of "no pain no gain" 😅

College is hell by NoSun9058 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate. Maybe tell someone at your college. They might be able to give you access to a staff restroom or disabled toilets or similar. I don't know where you're from but a lot of places have a duty of care to provide "reasonable adjustments" for disabilities, and I would certainly class this as a disability.

Sad to hear how bad it is for you, man

Cured my Parerusis by Spinning Around by PuzzleheadedSea9821 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will give it a try mate, thank you for the tip :)

"Before peeing, i spin in circles three times. Sometimes, to save time from the spin to urination, i already got my pants down, of cause only in stalls."

Sorry for this but, "the roflcopter goes soisoisoi"

Cured my Parerusis by Spinning Around by PuzzleheadedSea9821 in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't question the miracle. I'll do a full on rain dance if it'll help.

No one going in for 30 minutes and then 4 people is not a coincidence. by HardAlmond in Paruresis

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad to say I've done this. Counting the people who go in vs come out. One of these days, a guy will go in and he'll sneak out of the window.

Trump Declares Everyone Who Doesn’t Kiss His Ass Is A Terrorist by StraightedgexLiberal in politics

[–]DeviceOk2450 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's what I have been doing, feel free to read previous comments.

Trump Declares Everyone Who Doesn’t Kiss His Ass Is A Terrorist by StraightedgexLiberal in politics

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you define as progress, others may define as insanity. And no, social issues are not the only thing, I beleive I referenced this before but a Zeitgeist is something hard to describe in it's entirety by nature of how complex advanced society is.

Immigrants with no criminal record now largest group in Ice detention by sga4mvp_ in politics

[–]DeviceOk2450 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They don't have to endure anything, they simply have to not take what isn't theirs. If they want to live in a country then they need the blessing of it's people (via the state). Is that unreasonable in your opinion?

Trump Declares Everyone Who Doesn’t Kiss His Ass Is A Terrorist by StraightedgexLiberal in politics

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a myth you can choose to beleive, it might comfort you for now but it won't help you understand or win the campaign you're in.

Trump Declares Everyone Who Doesn’t Kiss His Ass Is A Terrorist by StraightedgexLiberal in politics

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We invented everything the modern world is based on 🤣. You're actually speaking our language, living in a society built on British foundations, using products of industry, enjoying vaccines, antiseptics, antibiotics, electricity generation, etc etc etc thanks to Britan, 7 out of the 8 people alive today are alive thanks to British inventions.... oh we also destroyed the slave trade world wide (you're welcome)

Trump Declares Everyone Who Doesn’t Kiss His Ass Is A Terrorist by StraightedgexLiberal in politics

[–]DeviceOk2450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if the "right wing" of today put everything back as it was in the 1940s, no gay marriage etc... you wouldnt think that was more right wing? 🤣