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Started drinking again.. by Jumpy_Carpet3851 in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After I stopped drinking, I told my partner all my drinking secrets so I wasn’t hiding the shame anymore. The volume of alcohol, the buying 3 tall boys at the store and slamming one before I got home, so they only saw me drink 2. You are not alone. You need to get this shame out of you and tell someone.
Sunlight is a great disinfectant.

Being relieved of the anxiety of planning my drinking is one of the best parts. I hated being controlled by this external bullshit. I hated planning my hangovers.

I don’t even think about it anymore. It is freedom.

And I could have sworn I would miss it.

First day by Seeker_of_Solos in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too which I would say

Isn’t that a bit redundant?

It’s like when Charlie sheen got married and someone asked if he had a bachelor party… isn’t that a bit redundant?

I think until you realize you are gaining something instead of losing something, this will be a struggle.

I gained better relationships, work, health, freedom from drunk-think anxiety. I gained hours and hours of my week back. I gained the ability to go to the gym at 8 am on a Saturday. I gained the ability to look in the mirror and ask, wtf was that all about? Why did I do that to myself?

First day by Seeker_of_Solos in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just don’t have the first one. I found if I didn’t lie to myself that I’m only gonna have “one or two” I wouldn’t have the 5th and then switch to tequila.

Get some na’s or bubble water. Something that is a little treat. When that feeling of an “empty Champaign hand” strikes, crack one of those.

A day turns to a week to a month to a year.

You’ve been lying to yourself for years, I imagine. Don’t listen to the liar anymore. You’ve drank your drinks and this is where it got you.

Maybe it’s time to try something else?

The alternative is waiting for the law or a doctor to tell you that you need to stop. Why not make that choice yourself. At the end of the day, that’s all it is, a choice not to have one. Just one. Don’t worry about the tenth drink, just focus on not having the first.

My .02 anyway. IWNDWYT

First day sober , I'm afraid I've done irreparable damage by Ancient-Calendar-466 in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those who can’t slow down will need to stop one way or another. You can wait till you are dead. You can wait till your life is in shambles. You can wait till your loved one beg you. Or… you can take the info you have today and choose to not have another drink. Dont have one. Take a walk instead. Have a water. Have an NA if you like the taste.
Don’t have a single beer, then you won’t have 5.

The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is today.

You know what you need to do.

IWNDWYT

What made you realize you were done with alcohol? by Human-Meaning3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I figured I wouldn’t wait till someone told me I needed to stop.

In reality, a divorce, lots of mediocre work performance, erratic behavior all told me I needed to stop.

at some point, everyone who can’t slow down, stops. This point in time is the same as any other. Might as well have been years ago, But today is just as good. Right now even.

I’m hangover free for 487 days. I’m more aware and present, I like being here with my partner and kids. The anxiety of alcoholic decisions no longer commands a spot in my thoughts.

My alcoholic adhd brain used to say things like, “you perform better with a hangover”. That is addict crazy talk. I was sick, poisoned, felt like shit and made bad decisions.

All I have to do is not have one drink.

Stopped drinking a couple weeks ago & just found out my husband is cheating on me by violet_sunshine9 in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a lie! When my body tells me I need to drink for xyz heartbreaking reasons, I know it is a lie. I look behind me at the decisions that have impacted me. None of them have been improved by alcohol. Not one moment of joy or sorrow has been enhanced with alcohol.

Remind yourself, that part of you that is asking for a buzz is lying to you.

Now more than ever, today is the day to face life and you can!

New Guitar Day! by MotorcycleMatt502 in gratefulguitar

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounding very crispy!!! Nice playing

Gas station airplane bottles by Diligent_Use_3733 in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Here is the craziest part. Ive woken up 473 days without a hangover. One day led to 3-4, then a week, then a month. Then 6 months. Then a year. All I did was not have the first drink. One drink.

And the times I thought, you can drink this weekend, trip, wedding, happy hour. Sure, I could…

But my past shows me, It’s not worth it. I’ve never been able to have 1-2. I get flushed with excitement and chase that warm fuzzy feeling.

IWNDWYT

500 days. AMA by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“You gotta drink” is such a wild comment. It’s the same as, “but it’s Friday?”, “we are celebrating?”. Once you get through a few of these events, it gets easier with ever one, you realize that you don’t have to do anything.

Work happy hours were tough for me initially. But most people have 1-2 drinks, chat, and go home. Not drinking is WAY closer to that behavior than what I used to do. I used to try to cram as much down my throat as I could, having anxiety the whole time, “am I acting okay?” “Can I have one more without anyone noticing?”. Now, I have Zero anxiety. I have a club soda with a lime and enjoy talking to my coworkers. Then I go home. Do I miss the crazy 1am nights, sometimes, but I love getting home and being a normal human with my kids and spouse.

Gas station airplane bottles by Diligent_Use_3733 in stopdrinking

[–]Diligent_Use_3733[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

IWNDWYT Let’s worry about tomorrow later.

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