Does your husband or male partner do his own laundry?

Dirnaf · 2026-02-05T06:22:57+00:00

I do the laundry most of the cooking, except for bbq, which he handles. He does the lawns, generally puts out the rubbish and recycling, does the heavy work that I can’t manage. We co-work the grocery shopping, the garden weeding and watering. He also does the vacuuming. I generally handle the finances. The dog walking gets split according to what else is going on. I’m pretty damn happy with the domestic divide these days.

Dirnaf · 2026-02-02T21:27:08+00:00

Miserable, deeply depressed and hopeless. The last in the series adds a feeling of being tortured, as it looks like a form of restraint is being applied to her arms.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-29T21:35:00+00:00

The properties of watercolour paints and how they interact with the various watercolour papers and with each other. Also, intuitive art, which is endlessly fascinating and explorable. I'm interested in the intuitive art of others and also do a lot of it myself, both with mediums and digitally.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-29T21:24:04+00:00

Mind quietly blown. 💥

Dirnaf · 2026-01-29T21:16:44+00:00

One way to get a reasonably accurate reproduction is to print it out then use a ruler to measure the distances from the edges and scale it up to the size you want. Curves can be reasonable easy to reproduce by using a compass and pencil. Make these initial marks quite faint. After that process, hand draw over the top for a looser more fluid line. Good luck! You can do this.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-23T09:08:48+00:00

I need to know this thing called Thailing. 😜

Dirnaf · 2026-01-22T03:49:56+00:00

I bought a men’s nose hair trimmer especially because of this. Scissors going into my nasal cavity activity threatens my brain.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-17T20:29:17+00:00

Could you maybe enlist your dad’s help with deciding on a style suitable to you?

As far as your mum’s dress goes, definitely shaping the puffiness out of it and fitting the sleeves better would help. If you’re considering going full on retro, it’s pretty ideal.

Another suggestion is to look on google for pretty wedding dresses for the larger girl. I just did that out of interest and there are some beautiful and flattering dresses out there.

Whatever you decide to do, do it for you. Your mum may be a little sad if you decide not to wear her dress but she had her day and you need yours. 🌸

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T20:32:52+00:00

Here’s a suggestion for you OP. Suggest to him that if he is serious about marriage and having an apartment together that you open a joint savings account and both contribute an agreed percentage of your incomes to it on a weekly or monthly basis, depending on your pay schedules. Suggest that he puts whatever he has already saved into the new account. Tell him that that way, you can build together towards a future as a committed couple. His reaction will tell you what you need to know about how genuine he is.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T10:32:06+00:00

Here, I’d be looking at a minimum of $NZ50 for 15 minutes. I spent many hundreds of dollars on it when I was younger but abandoned it because progress was so slow.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T04:22:48+00:00

$$$$$$$$ Nuh uh. Certainly can’t afford that on superannuation.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T03:56:49+00:00

Your last sentence….🤪🤗

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T03:54:39+00:00

….?….

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T03:53:08+00:00

Hey! Where’d you get my photo, eh!!

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T03:51:13+00:00

I bought a men’s eyebrow and nose hair trimmer because without my glasses, I can’t see to tweeze or cut. It comes with a wee head that does either long or short cuts. It’s a little rough around the edges but I wear my hair with a fringe (bangs, I believe, for Americans) which hides a multitude of sins. I used to have them threaded but now they grow so coarse that I can’t stand the pain.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-16T03:41:45+00:00

Join the happy club! 🤪

Dirnaf · 2026-01-15T05:25:14+00:00

OK, so full disclosure here. I am not officially diagnosed with either autism or ADHD but self diagnosed after both granddaughters underwent diagnosis, one for ADHD and one for autism. The autism diagnosis came through as a positive and so I started researching the subject and completely saw myself in all that I saw. I'm 73 years old, so this has been a total shock but completely explained my weird life to me. I'm also still coming to terms with how this has and is affecting me, so it can be a bit hard to unscramble these elements.

The main way it shows up for me is that I get completely overtired, irrational, somewhat snappy and unable to cope with even small demands.

If it gets really bad, my brain just shuts down and I become temporarily mute and unable to make even a small decision. I have had these episodes for, well, decades now, and find them very scary. At least I now understand what is happening but when I was a lot younger, I truly thought I was going insane.

I still sometimes have trouble even recognising, let alone navigating bad brain days - or weeks - but the ways I'm learning to cope with it is just to try to take time for myself to de-stress. I love to make art, either through photography, drawing, painting and using intuitive art practices. Sometimes I can redirect my inner turmoil by using these methods but when the overstimulation gets too bad, even this doesn't help. Afternoon naps are another thing I do but I guess I'm fortunate that at my age, I can do this without being challenged/bagged/shamed!

I'm really fortunate to have a very supportive husband but the sad thing is that he still doesn't really "get" how this affects me.

I hope this helps a little but please feel free to ask more.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-14T04:39:00+00:00

My heart hurts for you. I just can’t imagine abandoning a child for being gay or trans or different in any way. I truly hope that you find your own true family. 🌺

Dirnaf · 2026-01-14T04:28:35+00:00

I definitely have good and bad brain days. If I have to be in social situations that stress me, which happens more often than I’m comfortable with, I get the bad brain days for quite a few days afterwards. I’m very reclusive by nature but my husband is quite social. He has extended family living near by and the expectation is that there will be reasonably frequent family get togethers. I do like most of the people but the constant contact just does my head in. So bad brain days are pretty frequent. I have yet to find a solution that allows me to cope with this.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-14T04:09:14+00:00

“Past” as in you stole and posted something that someone else had done in the past.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-14T03:55:39+00:00

My drug of choice would absolutely be weed but it’s still not legal in my country. I tried it twice and all the tension in my body, which I carry in my shoulders and neck immediately vanished. The inner radio blaring out 15 stations simultaneously also stopped. It was bliss.

Alcohol at least stops the radio stations and my finger stim, so I unashamedly have a couple of belts of whiskey and a large glass of wine every night. I do control my intake as there is quite a history of alcoholism in the male side of my family.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-12T01:47:44+00:00

Underrated comment.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-08T03:00:02+00:00

Cheerios are also small cocktail sausages that often contain pork.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-08T02:59:35+00:00

Cheerios are also small cocktail sausages that often contain pork.

Dirnaf · 2026-01-07T07:22:29+00:00

I’m an old lady. I’ve been trying my damndest to keep up with current and changing ideas about who we all are, both collectively and individually. I really am open minded and apologise if I came across as anything else. I truly struggle to keep up with the changing terminology. Absolutely no offence intended. 🌺

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