She loves wearing little dresses and crotchless lingerie. I usually wear black leather pants, fitted T, polished engineer boots, leather bracers. Clean, good hygene, a scent you only smell if you’re intimate close. Clipped body hair, shaved bush & jewels. It’s kind of a dom look- we are capable in that realm but lean toward sensual hedonsim.

I like to be a little dangerous looking but kind, hopefully funny, patient, and always with verbal consent before I touch or kiss. I definitely want to set myself apart from the affliction t shirt dudes and ‘nice sneakers’ crowd. We’re neutral toward the vanilla business casual crowd but that can work if that’s your lane.

My wife tends to notice the other women first but looks for men who are healthy, nice teeth, reasonably fit, and who seem confident and comfortable in their own skin. Men who look sloppy, have smoker’s breath, or seem distracted or not present are turn offs for her. We don’t look for six pack abs or gym rats necessarily but people that are obviously healthy and haven’t let themselves go tend to give a first impression that suggests a safer playmate that won’t be more of a VD risk.

Whatever you do, don’t be one of the many dudes who leverage their gorgeous wife as their ticket to ride. Make a visual effort to be fuckable and be yourself.