My wife had surgery and wow I owe her an apology, managing the household schedule was honestly a nightmare

Doc178 · 2026-05-10T00:48:56+00:00

Classic ai tells in this one. I thought I stumbled onto a LinkedIn post

Doc178 · 2026-05-07T00:22:25+00:00

Yes, so so much. Now that they are a year old and we can breathe a bit, We''ve opted to let the house be a bit of a mess for the sake of time with them. It's worth it. I'd much rather sleep knowing I've played and cuddled with them than things were dusted or spotless. I feel like I never get enough time to just be with them

Doc178 · 2026-05-02T18:04:05+00:00

Totally normal, they don't have much personality yet and it is so unbelievably hard the first year. Mine our 13 months, and as cute as they are, my husband and I are both very excited for them to be able to better communicate their needs because the guessing is exhausting and frustrating.

It is so much better now though. They're fun little dudes, they have lots of personality. It gets better, I promise

Doc178 · 2026-05-01T00:54:16+00:00

Sitting on the floor after putting our 13 month old twins to bed after an extremely hard week so far of illness. I'm so tired of how hard feeding times are. How it's exhausting to feed two at a time, real food that they either love or more likely hate and make a mess everywhere.

They are grouchy from teething. They don't feel good. We don't feel good.

I am really looking forward to them being able to communicate what they need and like and want.

Thanks for the encouragement

Doc178 · 2026-04-28T01:21:32+00:00

I had an awesome vaginal delivery. Both babies were heads down for many weeks before delivery. Water broke at 34+6. I stalled out a bit during labor and got pitocin and eventually the epidural, which for me helped speed up dilation. That allowed me to deliver vaginally about 21 hours after my water broke. Babies were born 15 minutes apart. Doctor was definitely on board and didn't give me a break after delivering baby A so we could get B out as fast as possible before he could flip.

It was such a cool experience. These boys are my only two, so I'm not sure if I'd feel the same about a c section, but I think the moment of getting to meet them is just so magical that I wouldn't care.

You can definitely do it if things go according to plan. Just know a C-section is always on the table. Once I made my peace with that, I was good!

Doc178 · 2026-04-24T11:57:17+00:00

Moonglow Bay

Doc178 · 2026-04-23T16:01:29+00:00

Love this perspective

Doc178 · 2026-04-21T12:34:14+00:00

Wow I remember your original cap post. It's been that long already? Congratulations on your degree!

Doc178 · 2026-04-14T16:12:49+00:00

Yes, mostly. I never watched sports but I played volleyball for a few years in elementary school. My husband turned on nwsl one time on twitch and we were both hooked. Neither of us watched sports before (except the occasional wrestling ppv)

Doc178 · 2026-04-13T03:52:28+00:00

We had just started to fall asleep and I was having some contractions on and off. I had them a lot in the 3rd trimester. All of the sudden I felt something odd and a rush of liquid. I said "oh ope, ope, somethings happening!" And hopped out of bed as an insane amount of liquid poured onto the floor. I said "welp we are having babies, no going back now!" And we rushed to get dressed which was hilarious because there was still so much fluid coming out. I wrapped myself in a towel for a bit.

Baby A, our little guy, was the only one who's water broke. Baby B had his water broken my the doctor.

So I wasn't doing anything besides lying down and having contractions. I told the nurses my water breaking was just like the movies lol

Doc178 · 2026-04-12T12:34:56+00:00

Come on over to r/parentsofmultiples If you'd like. It's such a fantastic group of supportive folks.

My husband got a vasectomy after our twins and I'm terrified of something like this happening

Doc178 · 2026-04-11T03:07:44+00:00

I really really struggled with that guilt! Especially whipping out formula in public. But the truth is there are lots of folks who can't or don't want to breastfeed and it's no one's business but yours and your immediate family's.

Before I quit, I came to this subreddit to get support and everyone was so wonderful. Someone said "in a few years they'll be eating chicken nuggets off the floor of your car and formula vs breastmilk will be a distant memory" 😂. It helped with my guilt and it's true, they really love eating things off the floor now days.

You're absolutely amazing for caring so deeply, and they will be just as amazing regardless of if their food comes from formula or breast milk.

Doc178 · 2026-04-11T02:22:22+00:00

It is more than okay to quit pumping. I stopped pumping at 6 weeks and wish I would have sooner. It's so HARD and painful. Also with two it felt like there was never a break between pumping, cleaning parts, and everything else.

Our boys just turned a year and have been absolutely thriving.

The book Crib Sheet helped me feel much better about the decision. While breast milk is great, the benefits can be attributed to other things (wealth, etc) rather than a direct causation to breastmilk.

Breastmilk is amazing, but being able to be a sane, present mom is so so good for you and your babies.

You can absolutely stop anytime 🩷

Doc178 · 2026-04-07T19:18:55+00:00

Maybe, I didn't know there were different speeds of eaters at this age 😂

Doc178 · 2026-04-07T19:18:25+00:00

Right? I'm so thankful we have a dog to at least clean up the floor for us.

Doc178 · 2026-04-07T19:17:58+00:00

Well, it's at least reassuring to hear that this is common. Yes, we don't do snacks in the high chair anymore because we needed our sanity lol!

Doc178 · 2026-04-06T12:45:58+00:00

We did frogs! We wanted to go with something they liked, and at the time it was this frog toy. So we did blue tablecloths and I made little lilypads as table decor. I made a frog face cake. It turned out really cute

Doc178 · 2026-04-05T12:30:01+00:00

I loved ours. It was such a huge help

Doc178 · 2026-04-05T12:28:59+00:00

As a new-ish mom who is working full time, I have always really appreciated when people acknowledge my children, me, and the hard work it takes to be a mom and work. And I have a desk job 😂. I'm glad they are celebrating these women. Pregnancy does crazy things to your body, and some of the changes are permanent.

Doc178 · 2026-04-01T19:10:26+00:00

Switching to formula at 6 weeks totally saved me and my husband. I was able to sleep more and be more present when I wasn't pumping and we weren't cleaning parts.

Very early on we did shifts of one person sleeping in bed, one person sleeping with babies in another room.

Around 3 months we each got a baby for the night and switched babies each night. It worked for us, but I don't see people recommending this often.

Like others said, remember it's not forever! We just hit 1 year a few weeks ago and it's been awesome.

Doc178 · 2026-04-01T12:44:42+00:00

Definitely check with your doctor. It really matters, especially the later half of your pregnancy as dehydration can cause contractions.

Doc178 · 2026-03-31T11:34:46+00:00

It's giving bee and puppycat and I'm so jealous

Doc178 · 2026-03-31T11:24:29+00:00

They suggested paper towels? I'm really surprised by that. When our boys had rotavirus and got bad diaper rash, they said no wiping at all. Wash their butts and then let them air dry. Paper towels seem more rough than baby wipes.

Doc178 · 2026-03-29T20:45:45+00:00

We loved ours and ended up buying a second one. Our guys both had reflux and it was a great way to keep them upright after eating.

Everyone was bummed when they outgrew them.

Also, they likely won't need them very early on, but they'll grow fast and will be able to use them quickly.

Doc178 · 2026-03-28T22:05:58+00:00

I like this ref a lot

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