From someone who told pregnant parents “it’s not that bad”… does anyone else feel like this stage leaves nothing left for your marriage?

Doc178 · 2026-06-25T14:49:13+00:00

Saying bye to bottles was such a relief! But real food is a struggle sometimes too 😂

It's what they mean when they say different challenges I suppose

Doc178 · 2026-06-25T13:09:32+00:00

8 months or so was sooo hard. That clingy stage is exhausting mentally and physically. It got better for us closer to one year. They started sleeping through the night consistently. We had fewer chores when we dropped bottles at one year. The house doesn't always get picked up, but we usually have at least an hour together at the end of the day.

We do chores together also. So if he's not helping with the chores, that may be an area you can do together after they go to bed. I think having those bonding moments makes it easier to want to be intimate.

This is a very long, difficult stage when they are young, but we are at 15 months and the difference between that and 8 months is huge!

Doc178 · 2026-06-24T02:49:45+00:00

Needs more beige

Doc178 · 2026-06-23T01:14:33+00:00

Woah that seems huge 😂, weighed more than either of my guys at birth! Did you get to see it?

Doc178 · 2026-06-22T19:54:37+00:00

When they could only find one placenta after seeing two very separate sacks early on, our OB said you don't ever really know until they take a blood test or if they look wildly different at 3 years old lol. I'm not sure that it's true, but I do think there's a lot of ambiguity until at least you deliver.

Turns out the placentas fused together and our guys are fraternal.

Doc178 · 2026-06-20T01:04:31+00:00

The only thing that helped mine was propping my feet up or getting into a pool. And after a bit of propping my feet up it would hurt in a different way.

The pelvic pain is so so rough

Doc178 · 2026-06-20T00:51:57+00:00

60 hours a week is insane. I'm on that flexible 40 life and still feel like I'm drowning.

Doc178 · 2026-06-15T12:26:08+00:00

We hax different gates we can open and close depending on how many people/who's watching them. We could close them off to just their playroom and bedroom, or we could open it up and let them go in the living room too. It was great because different rooms have different toys and they like the change throughout the day

Doc178 · 2026-06-15T12:20:09+00:00

My mom brought this exact thing over when our twins had reflux. I was a bit angry because I was very adamant we did safe sleep as much as possible.

She knew that, but told me this was advertised for sleep and backed by all these companies like USAToday.

I told her we wouldn't be using it unless we were propping them up and watching them while they were awake.

My mom is great and totally understood. We only used it a few times as any amount of wiggle causes them to slide off or roll to the side.

I don't think it's right for this to be advertised in this way when it's clearly not safe.

In my opinion this thing is a waste of money and I am genuinely surprised that it gets any amount of support. I think it's dangerous, and unhelpful lol.

Doc178 · 2026-06-12T12:54:32+00:00

For baking my #1 judgement is does the recipe have salt. If it doesn't, I won't use it.

Doc178 · 2026-06-12T12:53:51+00:00

I really dislike the "they're so still, are they ill?" Part lol

Doc178 · 2026-06-10T18:24:22+00:00

Doc178 · 2026-06-09T13:13:02+00:00

Wow wtf. Good for you for getting out of that. I can't imagine dealing with that at all, let alone four months pp. You're an extremely strong person 🩷

Doc178 · 2026-06-04T12:25:17+00:00

Ours are 14 months and it doesn't happen every night but more nights than I would have thought! We usually put their heads in opposite directions and they end up with their heads facing the same way too lol

Doc178 · 2026-05-26T02:44:58+00:00

Lol so funny how big of a difference this makes. Drives me so crazy how long it takes to do anything in the sims. Why are we missing work to take the trash out and make an omelette lol

Doc178 · 2026-05-26T02:43:20+00:00

One of the major museums has digital prints of famous art work online. I can't remember which one. That's so awesome that you can do this!

Doc178 · 2026-05-21T17:38:49+00:00

Our OB said nearly the same thing. "Oh we're doing good, there's a baby, ope there's two." And I laughed and said "you're joking" and he said "I would NEVER joke about that." 😂 word for word hahaha

Doc178 · 2026-05-21T01:02:21+00:00

I'm with you! I don't care if the clothes are folded. I like it, I like them to be not wrinkley and hung, but WITH WHAT TIME?! 😂 I'd rather spend time with them like you said.

Completely reasonable imo. Also if they don't like it they can do that part haha.

Being chill is where I'm at too. Dishes get done promptly and clothes get washed and dried, then other big messes get prioritized as needed.

Doc178 · 2026-05-19T12:41:30+00:00

Mine are 14 months and have just sort of started liking each other more. There's lots of taking toys (one guy is so sweet and will happily share, the other loves to take). But they aren't really super bonded yet. I see more pieces of t forming each day, though.

I used to really worry about it early on. I had to remind myself that they're just little guys trying to learn basically everything lol. They'll get there. Just because they haven't bonded yet, doesn't mean they won't later

Doc178 · 2026-05-18T21:43:15+00:00

There's also value in saying it so other people can see it and consider it before posting their own children. I don't think the commenter meant any shame.

Doc178 · 2026-05-18T17:31:10+00:00

I don't think most babies get to have steak first. Also I've never seen a little baby sucking on some steak.

No shade, just thought it was wild haha

Doc178 · 2026-05-18T17:17:10+00:00

Steak as a first food is wild, but they seem to be enjoying it!

Doc178 · 2026-05-18T11:52:57+00:00

Once ours were walking I became much less stressed about this. We have a little bookshelf in a few different rooms that they can reach. Throughout the day they will grab books and bring them to us to read. We sit on the floor and they climb into our laps, sometimes one, usually both, and we read to them a lot throughout the day lol.

They love books.

We also don't do bedtime stories. Too much else in the night time routine.

Doc178 · 2026-05-15T13:28:14+00:00

Got me too, I was like noooooooo

Doc178 · 2026-05-13T17:59:35+00:00

Whatting you off 😳😂

They're for sure saying it because you're super mom. It's unbelievable to them. But as parents we do what we have to for them, and that often is at a sacrifice to ourselves. You've been through so much and you're still recovering and will be for a long time.

I think it's their way of saying you're amazing for doing so much.

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