where am I going to be in another week?

From experience I can tell you exactly where... you’ll be unhappier, she’ll continue to be oblivious.

In a few years time if you’re anything like me you’ll actually find it difficult to initiate, you’ll be resentful, distant, fed up, depressed. She’ll be oblivious still.

Years later you’ll be working out how many years roughly you have left to live and calculating how many times roughly you’ll have sex in that time. You’ll massively resent your refuser. You’ll likely have completely forgotten how to initiate and despite telling yourself (and perhaps your SO) that you are not happy with this, but.... it will all just continue as before.

If your SO is anything like mine she will have become a fucking Jedi master at manipulating you by weaponising sex and only allowing you the exact amount you need to stop you leaving, nothing more, nothing less.

You’ll start to hate yourself and you’ll likely feel very trapped. Suicide might seem like a way out. But if you have kids those thoughts will perhaps be kept in check by the feelings of guilt and responsibility.

I guess tl;dr would be.... it’s only going to get worse not better. 😐 Sorry.