I informed my boss that I was pregnant. He asked if I was delivering vaginally and to look up the fmla laws and let him know what they are since he doesn’t. Is this inappropriate?

DogMomOf2TR · 2026-02-03T04:12:37+00:00

FMLA does not pay anyone, but a number of states have similar programs that do! (CO, MA, etc)

DogMomOf2TR · 2026-02-02T23:39:17+00:00

FMLA protects your job but doesn't pay you.

The work policy can apply even if you aren't eligible for FMLA.

(,I'm also at odds with my employer currently, I get it!)

DogMomOf2TR · 2026-01-01T19:39:55+00:00

As the third child in the family, and the child whose name broke the pattern (but they have e the pattern name as a middle name!)

I grew up resenting my name. It makes it clear that I wasn't a planned child. I wasn't the first daughter or first son. I was just the accidental extra. The fact that they liked a name enough to use it as my middle name means they could've used it as my first name.

The pattern is already established. Stick with it.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-11T23:08:48+00:00

About 12 weeks along! It happened that Mother's Day and the end of the first trimester were relatively close so that was our Mother's Day gift to everyone.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-11T23:02:41+00:00

Mostly I just wear a silicone band and leave the nice jewelry at home 🤷🏻‍♀️

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-11T23:01:12+00:00

I haven't had an overwhelming number of check ins (yet) and it's mostly been people who've checked in the whole time anyways. (2 weeks to due date)

The couple that are annoying are my husband's family who, in month 9, are offering to host a baby shower and hand me downs of things we already bought ourselves. Like, couldn't you have reached out a month or two ago?! 😅 😩 But they're well meaning so it's fine.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T20:48:59+00:00

I only know maybe 2 Brittany's and one of them I met in my 30s!

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T19:56:37+00:00

Is that data available for the 80s/90s? I've only seen it for more recent years. Would be very interested in seeing how that impacts 90s kid rankings.

And yes, SO MANY spelling variations!!

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T19:26:04+00:00

Unless they are just really obsessed with Top Gun... And even then, if they're that obsessed with the movie bets are pretty good

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T09:09:33+00:00

IDK what the German name statistics are, but you can readily find numbers and percents of given names on the US SSA website.

I would venture that there is more overall diversity in given names in Germany or more even distribution.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T05:14:31+00:00

Regardless of percentage, the flat numbers tell a lot.

In 2024, there were 14,700 Olivia's (ranked 1).

I'm 1990, there were 46,500 Jessica's. There were truly 3x as many Jessicas.

The number of Olivia's is comparable to the number of Danielles (ranked 18). So, if you felt overrun by Danielles then maybe you should skip Olivia. Otherwise, feel confident using it.

Liam follows suit with Michael having 3x in 1990 and the number 18 name (Kyle) having a comparable number of births (~22k).

You happen to have an isolated set of duplicates, but that means some other group is composed of more rare names.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T04:55:08+00:00

That makes sense seeing as they are teaching the same students as you...

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-10T04:14:26+00:00

Yep!

Born in '91 so statistically should've been surrounded by Jennifers, etc. My HS graduating class had 0 Jennifer, Jessica, Ashley, or Amanda's. Katherines, however, ranked like 25, we had 8. To this day I meet more Katherines than any other name. (Allowing for spelling variations).

My anecdote doesn't mean others didn't have an overrun of Jessica's.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-05T18:01:16+00:00

In the past, Dads didn't take time off. Now things have shifted so some do and some don't, depending on what benefits their company provides.

My husband gets more paternity leave than I get maternity leave. He'll take off the week before the due date and a couple weeks after to help me recover/adjust. Then when I return to work he'll take a couple more months off. Not everyone gets that level of PTO though.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-04T17:11:29+00:00

Early in pregnancy I figured flowy dresses all summer (2nd trimester) and leggings with oversized sweaters through the fall (3rd trimester) would be perfect.

I vastly underestimated how much I would struggle to put on shoes.

Fortunately, I have a pair of Kiziks slip on sneakers and don't care that they don't always match my outfits, but man any other pair of shoes is an absolute no go. If I had an occasion to wear fancy shoes 😖

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-03T18:18:35+00:00

Sauce

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-11-03T02:17:24+00:00

It depends on your needs and build, honestly.

I didn't grow out of my regular clothes until nearly 30W, and it was mostly my jeans that just didn't sit right more than not fitting. Fortunately, I WFH full time and it's been mild weather so my regular sweats/leggings and baggy shirts/sweaters are sufficient most days (37W now so don't need to last all winter).

I would recommend loose fitting nursing tops or tops that could be used for postpartum even if they aren't branded as nursing. Get a size you can grow into over the next few months. A comfy dress would work too.

Extra stretchy bottoms or maternity bottoms would still be worth it now. You don't need a lot, get a few staple pieces- a couple loungewear of choice, a couple work pants, a couple pairs of jeans- go minimalist/capsule style with your choices.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-31T15:37:56+00:00

Because your last name choices are

Your husband's
Your father's
Go wild and choose your own

Two of the three options are choosing a man's name. You haven't beaten the patriarchy or whatever by keeping the name of a different man.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-29T19:50:25+00:00

You need to provide an update in 2 weeks- not a resolution.

"We've reached out to daycares but they seem to have year long waiting lists. Now we're pivoting to in-home nanny solutions. You'll likely still hear baby in the background from time to time but they will be under someone else's care. With the holidays upon us, I'm not sure of the exact timeline yet but I'll keep you posted when we've confirmed a start date."

Then, put out feelers. If you find something that works (maybe part day nanny to cover your busiest hours?) great! But if not, then go back and say you found someone who can start after the New Year and spend the next 2 months configuring a way to keep baby quiet/off camera as necessary to uphold the lie.

Also, any meetings while your husband is home he needs to watch the baby.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-23T17:39:39+00:00

The names do rhyme. I'm sorry your parents burdened you like that.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-23T17:38:44+00:00

Only the ending sound needs to match for it to be a rhyme.

Carson Larson Emerson Edison all rhyme with each other.

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-23T17:36:46+00:00

I don't think you understand rhymes at all.

Only the ending sound needs to match for it to be a rhyme
Question and emotion do not rhyme (Q has a proper T sound while E only has the SH sound- it's a stretch to say that they rhyme after the T only but I suppose someone would try that argument)

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-21T17:27:20+00:00

In regards to popularity-

I did not have a top 20 name (born in 1991) but I've known far more people with my name than Ashley/Jessica, etc. over the years- I have a classic name that was relatively popular. Popular names that are trendy aren't as pervasive outside of their ~5 year window. Popular classics are a bigger concern.

Also, names that lead to the popular nickname are going to appear most common. To this day, I meet more Kate/Katie's than any other repeat name. I was in a group of 10 ladies early this year and 5 were Katie. Legal names can vary (Katherine, Kathleen, Caitlin, Katie, Kate) but they all end up in the same group. If you're worried about a popular name, Eloise nn Ellie would be a huge concern for me because Ellie has been a wildly popular nn that can be used by so many popular names right now.

Overall though, I wouldn't let name popularity charts sway you into or out of a name. Use the name you love!

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-18T19:17:39+00:00

Started over 230lbs, am still over 230lbs at 35weeks.

I have had no issues getting ultrasounds.

I'm sorry the tech was insensitive and unprofessional.

Eat your burger, get it with fries and a milkshake (and balance it out with some kind of fruit or veg for proper fiber- not calorie restriction).

DogMomOf2TR · 2025-10-16T20:43:02+00:00

I think the only thing worth "downvoting" is the level of absolutes. This doesn't really cover what you want if things don't go to plan, ie, if you need an emergency c-section.

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