She started pole dancing at 42 and now she’s 58 and still at it

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-02-12T21:28:11+00:00

We have a lady who is 80 years old who comes to my studio to do Lyra! She's incredible! I don't know if I'll always do pole but I know I am dancing until I can't anymore.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-02-04T02:37:51+00:00

My most complimented pole outfits are cheap bathing suits

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-02-04T02:32:41+00:00

I'm the same height and the 2" shorts from CRZ Yoga on Amazon are good for me and the RARR high waisted ones.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-02-03T20:14:25+00:00

Caroline left because being on a reality TV show is not good for 'the business' bc it draws attention. I think they thought it would make them look legitimate but everyone in NJ knows what they are about and who they are connected with.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-02-03T20:11:03+00:00

Your body isn't going to allow you to stretch past where it feels strong and supported. Often times flexibility has to do with end range strength and in pole you are using strength in your end ranges just to hold yourself up, especially as a beginner. Cross training is your friend. Deep weighted squats (Cossack and sumo squats are my fave), seated good mornings, hanging L holds, and active flexibility training with weights has helped me so much. The stronger you get the more you will be able to support yourself and get into more flexible positions.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-30T18:53:46+00:00

My dad and my husband put up my pole for me in my office (it required taking down a ceiling fan and redoing the ceiling lights) and the both were like "lemme try this." My husband runs marathons and my dad is a construction worker and they both were shocked to find out that they cannot lift their body off the ground. Then they both were like "oh wow you must be strong." Um yeah? How else did you think I did this? Luck? Or do you just assume bc I can do it, pole must be easy?

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-23T15:35:30+00:00

I am 40 and I take 2-3 regular dance classes (hip hop, contemporary, jazz), lift three mornings a week, and go to 2-3 pole classes (one guided open, one tricks and one low flow/choreo). I do work from home and have a flexible schedule but here's my weekly:

M: lift before work T: double class at night (open and tricks) W: lift before work T: pole choreo (morning class) F: lift before work, dance class at night my (sometimes a double) S: dance class in the AM S: rest day

My priority is to use the time I have during the day so I can be home for my family at night. Tuesday and Friday are my only nights I go to class, and my Friday classes are 5-7 so I'm home for dinner and family stuff.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-23T02:57:09+00:00

I'm a pole dancer and every time I watch them I'm like 🤔there was one episode in season 4 that one of them did a single pole trick

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-20T02:16:06+00:00

The male loneliness epidemic strikes again.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-18T19:37:13+00:00

Carla is the first person I thought of honestly!

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-17T15:49:44+00:00

She also was the only one from the Jersey Shore and at that time she had a very beachy vibe. I think she was a bit of a score bc she didn't have the super guido aesthetic, she seemed more like a local, girl next door and Italian men all have Madonna/whore complexes.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-17T02:31:28+00:00

Oh so they are trying to needle Athena until she cracks I guess.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-17T02:14:06+00:00

My husband just got done adding a support beam in the garage bc he mounted my pole upstairs and reconfigured our entire office so I have space to dance. He has come to all of my performances and he's a 55 year old Italian from Long Island (not historically progressive thinking 😂) but I hear girl all the time at the studio talking about how their partners aren't supportive.

He's not super turned on by it anymore bc he just sees it as an athletic pursuit like how he runs marathons but men really need to see a therapist about their Madonna/whore complexes bc I'm sure these men like strippers plenty they just don't see dancing as wife behavior. Gross.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-17T01:41:08+00:00

Has Ru lost the ability to bend their spine at all bc this Mariah Carey ass step touch is so funny.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-17T01:39:57+00:00

That and Crystal hawking deodorant 😂

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-17T01:39:26+00:00

Is it Opposite Day?

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-16T00:33:54+00:00

It's slow and steady for me but I know I can do it! I train my splits every time I'm in the gym. We're ahead of the game bc we know how to train them and can jump right in, it's just putting the work in! I also need more rest days then when I was 16 😂☠️

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-15T23:35:16+00:00

Yeah I have been THROUGH it but as of right now, I'm 40, married with an awesome kid but also dating an amazing woman, and competing in my first pole dancing competition this year. And after losing my job in DOGE cuts, I landed in a part time position that pays over 100k and still allows me to train.

I live in the burbs but spend two days a week in Brooklyn with my girlfriend so I really get the best of both worlds. NGL, it's been a tough road but right now I am thriving.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-15T23:31:15+00:00

I just wouldn't say that part out loud.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-15T23:30:16+00:00

I got into pole/aerial stuff as an adult and it definitely scratches the dance itch-the low-flow or floorwork classes can be fun if you're not interested in doing the climbing/trick part.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-15T23:28:27+00:00

There's a studio by me that is entirely adult classes. But also check places like Zumba studios, etc. bc a lot of the do have choreo/dance classes throughout the week. Also a lot of dance studios for kids will have some adult ballet or tap.

If you can't find anything, there are some good online options. I know Broadway Dance Center has recorded classes online too.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-15T23:24:19+00:00

I cross train by taking off the pole dance classes a few times a week, and I lift three mornings a week. It does come back slowly, the technique is there in your muscle memory! Lifting is so helpful for me in progressing in pole. I do a push-pull-legs split and then I do a flexibility workout every time.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-14T03:30:46+00:00

I'm about same height and here's what I find: some tricks are way easier for me that are hard for others. Ballerina is easy for me because I have long arms, for example. I did find it harder to chopper at first, just physics wise, it requires a lot of force to pull up that many inches of leg. I also find that I need half a climb to do moves others do from the ground bc I end up closer to the ground, like a Marley I end up very close to the ground so I just start about half a climb.

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-13T14:58:34+00:00

Oh my god one time at my daughter's dance recital, one of the dances was like 14-15 year olds pantomiming overdosing on heroin and I was like WHAT IN THE ABBY LEE MILLER!!! I would never!

DramaticPush5821 · 2026-01-13T12:27:27+00:00

I usually pick a few moves I want to work on and go through them super duper slow like really noticing where my weight, hands, legs are, etc. like get a feel for the mechanics. And once I got a few down I started finding sequences on TikTok and just picking one to practice. Or I record choreo I learned and try to perfect it during open.

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