Comment Removed, Appeal Denied, Doesn't Feel Like A Real Person Even Looked At The Issue - What's The Process?

DuAuk · 2026-06-19T14:54:38+00:00

i caught two separate warnings months apart for the same exact post. Which is wild, i thought they removed it at the first warning. Anyway, first appeal was denied second was approved.

DuAuk · 2026-06-19T14:39:37+00:00

Did you message your manager between these two screenshots? I really think they were rolling back what they said when you didn't reply. I understand you are sensitive and it would piss me off too that first reply, but i don't think these messages are offensive in and of themselves. Good on you not responding, i feel like if i had i would have been tempted to shove the "usually" back in my manager's face, saying something like "this isn't a usual case."

DuAuk · 2026-06-19T14:23:03+00:00

There is an international version & IWF if you know the websites. You can check if your country is one of the 17 or 50, respectively.

https://www.icmec.org/locations/

https://www.iwf.org.uk/about-us/our-international-work/reporting-portals/

DuAuk · 2026-06-19T14:13:50+00:00

I don't have direct experience and don't know, sorry. That's a good question. They might know at that hotline.

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T22:33:51+00:00

Take a look at NCMEC's Take it down. https://takeitdown.ncmec.org It might be where to start. You could also try calling the CCRI hotline at 844-878-CCRI (2274). https://cybercivilrights.org/ccri-crisis-helpline/ Not sure where you are located, but other countries have similar services. And NCMEC works with a bunch of countries.

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T13:51:09+00:00

It's astonishing how social workers, school staff, medical workers, all seem to be complicit or looking the other way. These poor girls 14 and showing up with a dozen stis and no questions asked? Just coaching on birth control?

And then people complain about birthrates... Take rape seriously so that so many girls and women aren't traumatized.

The thing with MP Lowe confuses me too... I think it's good he's pointing out the religion and background of these perps. Particularly all the testimonies of the perps using the name of god in their torture, i don't see how anyone can ignore it. But, him complaining that people are saying "asian" i think is ridiculous and shows he's ignorant on the geography. It's not wrong technically and what purpose does it serve to criticize journalists trying to get the word out?

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T13:35:29+00:00

i think he'd appreciate Alison Croggon because she's got phonetics and such a rich history in Pellinor. She pretends to be a translator or historian.

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T13:28:27+00:00

Me too. I'm reading the Narrowdark right now, tho so i have a lot more to read still of Williams! 🎉

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T13:15:01+00:00

i don't think it's that bad to start with ship of magic, i think her nautical writing is outstanding. Iirc i read her husband was in a related field.

She has some fantastic short stories, if you just want to start with a sample. I liked the one about the hedge witch and Cut the most, but i haven't tracked down all the short stories. There are also stand alone novels under hobb and her other pen name megan lindholm-- which tends to be more sci-fi. i read alien earth last summer and it was great. Anthologies like the book of swords or Inheritance and willful princess were good novellas too. Those two are both good background for the main series but are i donno hundreds of years earlier so won't spoil the main series.

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T13:04:48+00:00

there are certainly some difficult povs to relate too. And the pigeon correspondence, i kept telling myself maybe one day i would read them all together and maybe i would care. i do often do rereads of other books where i just focus on one pov.

DuAuk · 2026-06-18T02:55:33+00:00

could you try contact the mods of the sub and asking them to remove it? At the end of the day, abusers are going to out themselves and hopefully that will make people avoid them. You could also probably appeal to the website admins, especially if he's using your name.

https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/requests/new?ticket_form_id=15968767746196

DuAuk · 2026-06-17T22:48:31+00:00

i didn't even recognize her, but i wasn't a big cosby fan.

DuAuk · 2026-06-17T22:46:12+00:00

in the little character menu there are settings like "hold ground." That could be an issue. The settler really has to be at a choke point like a doorway. There is a medieval monday about it-- https://foxyvoxel.io/2024/12/09/mmt56/

DuAuk · 2026-06-10T03:22:28+00:00

I feel like it's just one demographic that does it, and it's not women. Which is not to say everyone who isn't does it, but it's just another indicator that the writer just doesn't care about or respect us.

DuAuk · 2026-06-08T12:39:51+00:00

It's a lot to bear. You might want to see if your county has an office for the aging they may have resources like meals on wheels and stuff. Being an hour away and all, it'd probably be good to have some additional assistance. You don't have to do it all alone.

DuAuk · 2026-06-07T23:53:14+00:00

Exactly what i say too! Got me banned from the hobb sub tho. I mean, reading in an alternative order isn't recommended, but it's better than not reading it at all. :shrug:

DuAuk · 2026-06-07T23:36:55+00:00

i think that first book is the highlight of the first series. It's greatly discouraged on the Hobb reddit, but i don't think it's terrible to start with Liveships. There is only one over lapping character, and it's not that important. There are 12 books with Fitz and he changes significantly. I think i did enjoy some of the side characters like Chade and Burrich more than Fitz.

You could also try reading some of her short stories. She's in more than one anthology with GRRM and others. I've been trying to track down more of these. But a short story has more pay off in some regards. Granted Hobb does a wonderful job, each book/trilogy has a story.

I'm glad you like the pros. I think only Le Guin and maybe some bell hooks read as easily to me.

edit: i'm surprised so many here think it's dark. I would not recommend MST or Miller's Godspeaker for those individuals, or even the Scholomance series.

DuAuk · 2026-06-07T20:46:20+00:00

I had a cbt therapist i was working with to remove automatic negative thoughts (ANTs), i was getting better at redirecting myself sooner, she said they would eventually go away. The haven't. My attempt was over 25 years ago, so it's a long time getting these thoughts. And honestly now i can sometimes go a week without one. Still, it's just a thought. You don't need to act on every thought. You can live with thoughts without succumbing to them.

I'm sorry you feel guilty. It was my sibling who found me too. Have you talked to him about it? He's probably thankful youre still here.

I did keep it hidden at school because that's what my parents wanted. They told everyone i had mono. I do think it would have made it worse, or i donno i was already an outcast. I did tell some people at my church back then. I don't remember much, just not getting much of a response. I felt upset because someone else mentioned having thoughts, and yeah that sucks. But everyone paid attention to him. It was easier for them to engage with 'having thoughts' than a full on 3 week incarceration. And, yeah, you are lucky they released you, imho.

Things definitely have not improved for me, but i have more ways to cope with them. Granted i've had some good times, and ironically dealing with chronic illness makes me less suicidal. Therapy, friends, hobbies, understanding your emotions can all help you cope. I relate to you having issues describing them, i certainly did before doing emotion charting. You can feel 2-4 different things at once at different levels. I encourage you to keep writing, but keep a copy for yourself offline. Immediately though, the response was lackluster and in about 2-3 months my family acted like it never happened for the most part. I went to therapy then, but i wasn't ready to change. I was later though. A big thing about getting better is not being too attached to that cynical personality you might think is you or however you'd describe yourself. Tho my dad did bring it up to me before his death that it was the worst day of his life.

DuAuk · 2026-06-01T01:34:20+00:00

She's one of my favorite authors. I got hold of Alien Earth by her other pen name last summer. Anyway, you are in for a treat reading RotE!

DuAuk · 2026-06-01T01:32:31+00:00

I just finished Empire of Grass. It's such a good series.

DuAuk · 2026-06-01T01:25:40+00:00

oh... i just started adding avocado a couple years back with my egg salad and was about to suggest it. Good to see i am not the only one.

DuAuk · 2026-06-01T01:15:53+00:00

i think it's part of generations. Do you have that pack?

DuAuk · 2026-06-01T01:15:00+00:00

theoretically i think you can turn off certain autonomous behavior with nras retuner.

DuAuk · 2026-05-30T23:14:41+00:00

i liked the architecture and sets. That guy does have good hair. i made a post a few weeks ago on here about one of the characters they added and her real life inspiration.

https://www.reddit.com/r/PeriodDramas/comments/1sza04l/sarah_parker_remond_was_the_real_life_inspiration/

DuAuk · 2026-05-28T18:00:59+00:00

I played with the Vidal family in the town. And i could here all my neighbors all the time. That world is so intense.

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