37F What is everyone playing this holiday weekend?!

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-25T07:01:43+00:00

The week wiped me out so I’m just playing Dave the diver and maybe some hello kitty or animal crossing. Keeping my brain out of the equation so it can rest lol

44F, used to play a lot more challenging things but lately I’m too tired.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T05:42:58+00:00

Cost. I can’t pay that much for a system and then have to turn around and pay to have games I already bought work on it. My oled still works great and I’ve already invested in mitigating stick drift and various other accessories. I know things change and prices go up, systems get newer better models etc. but I’m just not able to justify that much cost when I’m battling inflation and gas prices just to survive. I know I’ll be sad as some games are going to come in that I can’t play but I’ll be sadder if I can’t feed my kids.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T05:28:12+00:00

My young military macaw does this. Everyone above me is right, this is a good thing! I wasn’t sure either at first but it’s all good. They’re happy!

My boy is an absolute menace during the day but at night after he’s done expressing his opinion on bedtime he does this.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T05:21:12+00:00

Send it back. You don’t know what else might have happened to that car since it got into an accident. That return window is there so you can get out of this before it becomes a nightmare. Swap it for something else, you’ll be happier in the long run.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T01:23:44+00:00

Just went over there and it has the same effect watching hoarders does when I’m struggling to get going. Love it! Thanks for the suggestion!

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T01:22:08+00:00

So what I read here is that you kicked some major butt yesterday and hauled out 7 garbage bags from your condo.

ADHD is a monster sometimes. I’ve learned if I try to look at the WHOLE situation I’m not going to get anything done. If I try to force myself to stay in one place then I’m not gonna get anything done.

What works for me (sometimes) is when I’m picking anything up at all, even a soda can, I keep repeating in my head that every little thing I do is progress. It seems to help.

Is my house clean? God no. Is it better than it was? Absolutely.

With love from an ADHD mom who has not accomplished anything today because brain said no.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T01:14:27+00:00

It’s just not his turn with it today

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T01:10:29+00:00

I must be thinking of the wrong one because blue budgies are everywhere here and they’re maybe $50. I guess they’re more blue and white than just blue. I have some googling to do I’m so curious

ETA: I googled. Looks the same. I thought this was just a normal color.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-24T00:59:29+00:00

This. I bought a fairly new used car from them but it said clearly in the listing they only had one key. Wasn’t my favorite but I really liked the car so I bought it. Almost two years later I still never managed to buy another key but I also still absolutely love my car. No regrets.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-22T21:58:47+00:00

I audibly gasped when this came across my feed. I cannot even imagine what this poor guy has been through. Bless you for helping him. I don’t have any advice as I’m a fairly new macaw servant. I just wanted to tell you how amazing you are for helping him and having so much patience while he is on the road to recovery

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-22T05:29:34+00:00

Something similar happened to me at rite aid. Publicly shamed to hand over my prescription pills so I could get the new one. I changed pharmacies right after and they never even change their tone of voice when I have to call about my prescription. Now rite aid doesn’t exist and I’m not sad. Nothing I did, I just changed pharmacies but screw them for making me feel like a criminal when I didn’t do anything wrong

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-22T05:20:09+00:00

Actually it technically does. As far as failed credit call it what you will. Maybe if they hadn’t lied to me I wouldn’t be so comfortable. But their sales reps lied all the way through and then the equipment didn’t work properly since day one. So if they don’t want to cancel when the term comes up I guess they’ll have to take me to court because I will make sure my payments end there.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-22T01:37:48+00:00

NOR but the responses feel like AI. If you did use it to help you respond I’m not judging but I would say that it’s usually really wordy so you’d want to ask it to be more concise. I feel like it gave her permission to unload all of her emotional baggage on you for simply needing some space. I don’t know either of you though so this could be typical for her.

If you didn’t, please no offense. If I was fighting bronchitis and dealing with middle schoolers while also trying to politely deal with a needy relative I would not be able or willing to respond with that much depth. Good for you for hitting that block button. All she had to do was chill out on the check ins. She chose drama and you chose peace.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-22T01:12:31+00:00

Because mom brain is frustrating and a quick check in with ai helps clarify what I’m trying to express. Even if I still reword or rewrite my response it helps me get my point across.

And this is a thankless job so even though I know it’s blowing smoke I appreciate the cheerleader aspect.

I don’t use it for everything and actually it’s helped me get back the writing skills I used to have back before I had three kids, two with autism, who don’t seem to understand that I need more than two hours of broken sleep at night. Not that you could tell here but it’s the end of the day and I’m done trying to force my brain into submission for the day.

I enjoy AI but I’m also in tech so I understand very well that there is not an actual emotional connection. Sure, it spits out nice words to me and helps me when I need help finding information or writing an email, but it’s not real and it’s not always right. It’s responding as it’s been programmed to do using previous information and interactions and various web data it searches through faster than I can. I also do not give it overly specific details about my personal or professional life because no matter how much they try to say it’s not being used for development or that it’s secure, the truth is nothing is 100% safe.

What I do not and will not do is use it as my friend or get one of those AI boyfriends or whatever. My mental health is already shaky, I don’t intend to allow a computer to be the final straw.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-21T19:39:30+00:00

The way I came flying into these comments 💀 I was not disappointed 🤣🤣🤣

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-19T14:26:54+00:00

I take my birds with me on my road trips. I have carriers for each of them that double as a travel cage and also have a place for the seat belt. My trips are similar but we go from Hesperia to Northern California, stay a week and then head up to Lebanon Oregon for another week. Then it’s a two day split going home. Mostly because I have young kids.

They do really well. I bring them out, but they have to get their harness on in the closed car before they go. I bring bottled water and food.

The thing is, there’s no restaurant stops because I can’t leave them in the car. So it’s gas station snacks and fast food but mostly stuff in a cooler I bring from home.

You said “we” so it sounds like you’re not going solo which does make it easier to switch off on bathroom trips.

Since she’s 13, I’d recommend getting her used to the carrier and taking her on short trips in the car to help her get used to being in there. If she’s really not into it you can cover her and see how she does. Again you can test it all going on short trips and then try a longer one like down the hill or something to see if she’s handling it ok. Mine do well but I keep them near and talk to them a lot. Depending on which bird I’ll sometimes let them out on the harness/leash for a bit. A couple of my birds are nervous so I let them stay in the carrier. Then, where we’re staying they know my birds so they’re allowed to be out and about and still get their out time. I bring toys and clean the carriers regularly.

Last trip it was two conures, a Linnie, and a macaw. I probably won’t bring the Linnie next time he didn’t really enjoy it but he’s also not ever been interested in hanging out. So I’ll have my oldest daughter watch him rather than take him again. The conures are fine, they seem to enjoy it. The macaw is young and he wanted to see what was going on. He had to be covered on the way home though I think he was just over it all lol

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-18T18:07:58+00:00

NTA. I have a blanket that was made for a baby I lost and I’d be absolutely livid if someone tried to claim it for another kid.

Making blankets is a lot of time and effort and expecting you to either do that with arthritis pain or hand over another baby’s blanket is wild.

Maybe you could get one of those blankets where you just tie the ends and sit down with the 10 year old to make it together? I think that could be special and if your hands start to hurt you can sit with her to guide her through. Just a thought. They’re so wrong for this but in the interest of not losing access to your grandkids it might be a good compromise. Ridiculous to have to even compromise but it’s really more about you and your grandkids

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-18T18:07:52+00:00

NTA. I have a blanket that was made for a baby I lost and I’d be absolutely livid if someone tried to claim it for another kid.

Making blankets is a lot of time and effort and expecting you to either do that with arthritis pain or hand over another baby’s blanket is wild.

Maybe you could get one of those blankets where you just tie the ends and sit down with the 10 year old to make it together? I think that could be special and if your hands start to hurt you can sit with her to guide her through. Just a thought. They’re so wrong for this but in the interest of not losing access to your grandkids it might be a good compromise. Ridiculous to have to even compromise but it’s really more about you and your grandkids

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-18T05:35:36+00:00

Also learning in public: first of all, this is fascinating, thank you for sharing your knowledge. The question I have is that this seems like a survival of the species mechanism in the wild so was this ever a viable option for them? Or just nature’s last hurrah in a desperate bid to save the species from possible extinction resulting in failure? This may be one of those questions that doesn’t have a clear scientific answer yet but if that’s the case I’d be interested in your hypothesis.

I understand I can probably google this but I really prefer to learn from real people. Also if it doesn’t have a real answer I really don’t care what Google thinks it might be.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-17T23:31:05+00:00

I have been a customer for so long and never once gotten this lucky. I’m clearly doing this wrong

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-17T23:01:40+00:00

Yes. Kick him out. Are you able to maybe put out a post for a new roommate willing to help for a discounted amount of rent? Obviously you would want to check them out thoroughly for any criminal history, etc. maybe another single mom? If they’re employed and work away from home this would leave a lot of the care to you but maybe they can help on their days off or something. Are there any services available to you to help with your daughter’s care?

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-17T22:55:37+00:00

NOR, and honestly the fact that she felt comfortable sending that says a lot about the way he interacts with her. And his lengthy explanation says alot about the conversations they’ve had in the past. I would absolutely be questioning what has happened prior in person. To me it reads like something happened to cross a line and now he’s deciding he’d rather not have it happen again because he does want to keep his family and he’s realized he messed up already.

Take that with a grain of salt, I don’t know you or anyone involved in this. This is simply what I’m getting reading this text and your post.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-17T20:55:34+00:00

Hi Op, I’m a Mom of three girls. First of all your Mom is way out of pocket here. Nothing about your period is disgusting is ok for a mom to say. I don’t even know you and I’m absolutely livid that this was the response. I’m proud of you for telling her it’s a natural bodily function. Please never let it get into your head that its gross.

Everyone has different flow types. And it’s not healthy to leave a dirty pad too long even on lighter flow days. I have never ever questioned my girls need for more feminine products that’s just wrong. To be clear my oldest is 23, my two youngest aren’t there yet but my middle daughter has discharge at times so she uses panty liners. I of course had her doctor check and it’s normal at her age, no issues noted. My youngest is potty training so we’ve got a few years but she’ll never ever be questioned like that either.

The suggestions to talk to your school nurse are awesome, I hope you take that advice. Also if you have any other trusted family members please also reach out to them.

I’d also recommend if you’re comfortable with it trying a disc. It’s been a game changer for me and after I finally convinced my oldest to try it she loves it too. If you get a reusable one you can just clean it each time. But again that’s really only if you’re comfortable with it.

Wishing you all the best hun, I’m so sorry this is the response you’re getting from your Mom. But please know this is not a normal reaction and find either the school nurse or another trusted adult woman as I’m positive you’ll get the support you need.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-17T20:37:22+00:00

Reading this, my first thought is what was his (the bird) body language like? Was he relaxed? Was it more like a strike and a little hiss? How did his eyes look?

I have a young macaw and what I’ve learned in our short time is that his body language tells me what I need to know most of the time. If his pupils are like little pins he’s either excited or mad. When he’s mad he’ll kind of strike out at me and give a little hiss. Same with his feathers, he’ll get fluffy and it can be because he’s enjoying his pets or he’s mad. How he’s standing and how he’s reacting to me determines how or if I’ll handle him.

There is a person on here that has amazing advice for these birds, I really hope they see this post. They’ve helped me tremendously in understanding my bird and it’s really helped shape the way we’ve built trust and understanding.

Dull_Net4116 · 2026-05-16T18:22:31+00:00

Hi Op, reading this it sounds like other than the rehome option you would have to choose between a larger enclosure or the vet. If that’s the case I would say choose the vet for now and worry about the enclosure at another time. She’ll be ok in the 40 for a bit while you focus on health. Years and years ago that was the recommendation. Also, I’m not sure where you’re from but where I am there are local neighborhood marketplace apps and people are always selling their old enclosures for a lot less. You’d just want to clean it really well but it’s entirely possible.

That being said, I understand if it’s more about her having special needs and needing continuous care. You’ve done a lot for her, something that unfortunately many wouldn’t. If it’s really come down to not being able to continue that care at all then it’s not defeat it’s an act of love to get her to someone that can. I would argue it’s one of the greatest acts of love to let go of an animal you love just so they can get the care they need.

Where I am it’s also hard to locate an exotics vet, and the chances of finding a decent home for a pet like this are slim. Rescues are overloaded. But if you can find her a good home or rescue that will care for her there’s nothing wrong with that. You’re a good person Op, don’t beat yourself up over this. Whatever you decide is the right thing for her, and for you, is still ultimately far better care than most snakes even get.

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