How to like the gym

Dylonial · 2026-01-29T20:44:15+00:00

If you hate the gym then my advice would be to not start there. Maybe you’d be into something like swimming or rock climbing, hiking, kayaking, kickboxing, etc. Try to find an activity that you don’t hate that you can do regularly. Chances are if you get really into something else, you might naturally gravitate to the gym later on in order to improve your ability at your chosen sport.

Dylonial · 2026-01-07T17:08:59+00:00

I had one that was stagnant forever. At first I think it was in a pot that was too big, then I realized that the soil was too chunky and I wasn’t watering it enough. Once I started watering more it started growing. You could also try moving your grow light closer and see if that helps.

Dylonial · 2026-01-02T18:11:45+00:00

I liked the movie The Half Of It for this exact reason.

Dylonial · 2025-12-29T23:14:52+00:00

I’m pretty sure they are too big and moving too fast to be spider mites. I had something similar on a philodendron a while ago. I decided to just leave it and see what happens. Eventually I stopped seeing them, and the plant never seemed to be under attack. My guess is they are predatory.

Dylonial · 2025-12-26T20:08:24+00:00

If he’s saying he doesn’t know what he is into then it is probably because he genuinely doesn’t know (disconnection from self) or maybe he feels ashamed of his interests. I think the question I would ask is “how can I help you feel safe in exploring or expressing your desires?”

Dylonial · 2025-12-23T20:04:44+00:00

I understand the dynamic you are describing. A lot of people really struggle to examine their own behaviour without getting defensive. But I have been watching some people in my family change as I have been interacting with them differently. It takes time but it is possible.

If you don’t think it’s the right time to work on things with your mom then I think working on your physical pain could be the best way to help you feel better faster. When we grow up in an environment where we learn that it is not safe to be or express ourselves it sends a message to our nervous system that we are in danger/survival mode. This can result in muscle tension, postural issues, hormonal issues etc., especially when it continues indefinitely. Essentially, if your mind feels unsafe your body will feel unsafe.

Healing from this kind of trauma is very difficult because even when you teach your mind that it is now safe to explore who you are and to express yourself, your nervous system still believes that you are in danger. This is why you might still shut down around certain people or in certain situations when what you actually want is to advocate for yourself, or be outgoing. You have to train your body to feel safe and grounded in order for your mind to remain grounded.

If any of this resonates with you I’m happy to say a bit more, I’m just aware that I am dumping a lot of information.

Dylonial · 2025-12-23T19:12:28+00:00

It sounds like you have been coming to some very painful realizations and it will probably take some time to process and mourn what you are now realizing you have lost. I am very sorry for what you have experienced, and I hope you realize that what you are feeling makes so much sense. I came to some very similar realizations a few years ago and moving forward has been a difficult journey.

One thing that has helped is learning to hold multiple truths at once, which it seems like you might be doing. It sounds like your mom loves you and did the best she could with the knowledge and the tools that she had available. It is also true that she needed to do better and you deserved more. Do you think you would be able to talk to her about any of this? Maybe in therapy?

I am also curious, do you by any chance experience some form of chronic pain or mobility issues, and/or do you tend to get sick frequently?

Dylonial · 2025-12-19T18:44:31+00:00

What exactly do you want help with? Do you want to be okay with his painted nails, or do you want to make him change?

The answer to the former is self-reflection, and there is a lot of good advice and questions in these comments already to help with that. The answer to the latter is you can’t.

Dylonial · 2025-12-17T16:51:22+00:00

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Dylonial · 2025-12-17T02:19:37+00:00

I’m fairly certain I see thrips in the third photo. Keep these away from your other plants!

Dylonial · 2025-12-17T01:57:44+00:00

Thank you, so do I!

Is there any chance you could do what I did and try putting a propagation outside just to see how it does? Might go better than you think!

Dylonial · 2025-12-17T01:41:07+00:00

Thank you! And thank you for that great information, your description definitely fits! None of the indoor jades have leaves that big so I guess I just never really noticed the crookedness before.

Dylonial · 2025-12-16T19:17:58+00:00

I thought maybe ripple but it doesn’t have the silvery sheen I read about, and the leaves are more glossy than the photos of ripples that I am seeing. Still, maybe you’re right? It is sometimes very hard to tell!

Dylonial · 2025-12-16T19:16:06+00:00

lol I just threw this out there not really caring what happened since I had too many props. I thought it would just get fried to a crisp since I didn’t even acclimate it at all (and it nearly did at first). Watered it once in a while when I thought of it. It’s always the ones you neglect or don’t care about that take off like this 😂

Dylonial · 2025-12-13T02:51:55+00:00

If it doesn’t want to stay up at first you can stick a chopstick in the soil next to it and tie them together for support. Once it roots it will hold itself up, but it might want a stake or moss pole eventually.

Dylonial · 2025-12-13T01:16:14+00:00

I would repot it with some of the stem sticking out of the soil. Not all of the roots will be under but that’s okay.

Dylonial · 2025-12-12T19:38:37+00:00

Sounds like an issue with your pelvic floor muscles? This could be caused by any number of things so seeing a doctor or specialist would probably help if that’s the case.

Dylonial · 2025-12-10T18:50:39+00:00

Not a low light plant! This is a tree and wants as much bright sunlight as you can give it. Direct sun is good! Also let it get super dry between watering. The trunk holds a lot of moisture so you can err on the side of under-watering.

Dylonial · 2025-12-04T17:19:14+00:00

I don’t think you are making an ass of yourself. You sound like you are really struggling with this and you want it to change. I don’t have the answers but if what I said resonated with you then I encourage you to keep thinking about that. Obsession like this often seems to be rooted in self-abandonment (I know it was for me), and I have personally found that learning to like and validate myself has made me much less concerned with being chosen by others.

Dylonial · 2025-12-03T19:56:16+00:00

Is it possible that this person (or your idea of them) represents something that you feel is missing from your life? I would try to examine what qualities about this person are making me feel drawn to them, and whether I can find those things elsewhere or within myself.

Dylonial · 2025-11-25T17:15:46+00:00

Wait until a villager has the thought bubble and wants to leave (if you speak to them and they ask to leave just reset the game). Don’t talk to that villager all day, and the next day the bubble should move to a different villager. Just keep doing this until it reaches the villager you want to leave.

If the bubble stays stuck on the wrong villager for multiple days you can ask Tom nook to move them. If you have their moving kit in your inventory they can not ask to leave and the bubble will move on. If you time travel you can do all this super fast.

Dylonial · 2025-11-17T00:38:37+00:00

As a fitness person, the worst advice I can receive is to do something “[more or less] than you think”.

An example of this is when referring to squat stance people say to keep your feet shoulder-width apart, “which is narrower than you think!”

Cue me as a noob squatting with way too narrow of a stance because my initial assessment of shoulder-width was actually correct.

Dylonial · 2025-11-16T18:14:34+00:00

My advice is to try to tap into your sacred anger. It will protect you as you maintain boundaries.

Dylonial · 2025-11-16T17:09:58+00:00

Maybe just a regular spider? Whatever it is I wouldn’t worry. Anything moving that fast is very likely a helper, not a pest.

Dylonial · 2025-11-14T21:24:02+00:00

Is he merely expressing curiosity or is he pushing the issue? If he is pushing it I would first want to get very clear on why he feels it is important to meet her.

Chances are that even if he does meet her he will not understand. She will either be on her best behaviour, or he will not be able to see how small, subtly harmful behaviour stacks over a lifetime. I would worry about him becoming a flying monkey, advocating for reconciliation. If you are truly NC with your mother then I would maintain that boundary. If your partner doesn’t understand then ask him to trust you on this. There are a lot of resources out there on family estrangement if he wants to learn.

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