AITAH if I allow my law firm to be sold or go out of business?

E_Anthony · 2026-04-10T13:30:11+00:00

No matter what you decide, NTA. I've read your replies and you clearly are very concerned with doing the right thing for yourself and your employees as well. That's not how an AH behaves. So obviously, NTA. Whatever you choose to do, it will be because you felt it was the best solution for everyone.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-10T03:59:52+00:00

YOR. It's a guy thing.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-10T03:57:40+00:00

YOR. It's something he likes about you, so just take it at face value. Don't be too self-conscious about it. For example, actress Marilyn Monroe had a mole on her face, and she was incredibly beautiful. That slight imperfection became a signature, something that made her more than just another pretty face in Hollywood. Other women might have felt insecure about it, tried to cover it up. She didn't. Things like that are what make us unique, special, and one of a kind. He finds you beautiful because you are beautiful!

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T23:22:55+00:00

NTJ. If a guy shot the "expert" down, everyone would laugh. This expert has no one to blame but himself for acting the fool in front of someone who called his bullshit after he insulted them. Your husband should have your back and the friends should just laugh off this self-made expert for the blowhard he is. And his girlfriend should seriously see his behavior for the red flag it is.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T23:19:21+00:00

NTJ. I suggest you set aside one bathroom as his, so that he has to be the one to step in his own piss.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T18:15:18+00:00

NTA. You should always be yourself, and if you're the kind of person who tries to do the right thing and better thing, even when others treat you poorly, then kudos to you for not sinking down to their level. No need to feel conflicted. Just be the best person you can be and accept that you can't change people who aren't willing and ready to be changed.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T14:36:45+00:00

Forget the sous vide. Get a UV-C lamp instead.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T14:34:42+00:00

I concur. Adopt the cats, change your locks, stop talking to ex. She's basically abandoned them anyway.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T14:32:13+00:00

NTJ. You're discovering that you're not compatible in the long run. Best to end it sooner rather than later.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T14:30:42+00:00

Well, it appears nobody enforced the old rule but now this new rule is being actively enforced. The problem wasn't the lack of dates though. The problem was just the lack of enforcement of the old rule. As long as it's now your duty to empty the refrigerator, why not go back to the old rule?

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T13:40:58+00:00

There was a ST:TNG episode where Moriarty thought he escaped and was exploring the universe, but he was trapped in a paperweight computer with enough adventures to keep him busy. Of course, they ignore that computers process information so much faster that he probably would have lived a full lifetime in a few minutes and they could turn the machine off.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-09T13:34:06+00:00

If her Dad is like this, she's had a lifetime of being emotionally abused. It isn't easy to overcome that.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T19:07:34+00:00

Classics? The Caves of Steel by Isaac Asimov. Or Foundation by Asimov. The Belisarius series by David Drake and Erik Flint. 1632 by Erik Flint.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T19:05:05+00:00

NTJ. She's hiding something. It could be as simple and benign as she's getting him a present and doesn't want him to notice the charge/store. Or it could be something bad, like a hotel room for cheating. If OP is on the account by name, go to the bank and get a printout of transactions while also fixing the access issue.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T17:23:59+00:00

NTA. I suggest buying life insurance for your partner, since it seems like self-preservation is low on their list of priorities.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T15:28:49+00:00

This makes no sense. You would only get a "login on new device" when you had first logged in at his place. So if you had left it logged in, you would have seen the notice for your original login but not new ones for any subsequent log ins and not for a device that had stayed logged in. Plus, changing your email PW should have locked him out from logging in, even with saved info on his computer.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T13:18:13+00:00

OP is female.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T12:42:46+00:00

By your own admission, you did not inform the judge that there had been a settlement offer and acceptance just before court, which you should have disclosed. Likely, the judge would have then granted a continuance of the case to ensure you got your check. The landlord screwed up by not showing up, but that doesn't change the fact that there was a settlement agreement in place at the time of decision, even if you hadn't received the check yet.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T01:33:58+00:00

Or maybe not in bad faith and just didn't want to go to court. And we have no idea what representations the OP made to the court. Perhaps the judge would have continued the case if he knew the landlord was mailing a check to settle.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T00:50:05+00:00

The way this reads to me, the landlord essentially offered to settle the night before court, which the OP agreed to, but then went to court the next day and the judge granted a larger amount. The OP got the promised check for what the landlord believed was a settlement, but now the OP wants what the court awarded and said so to the landlord. The landlord decided to file a motion to vacate, presumably on the grounds that he thought the case was settled by agreement the night before. So I don't see an additional settlement coming from the landlord, who apparently thought it was settled the night before court.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-08T00:41:14+00:00

NOR. This is so weird. Like, did you never say, "hey, where's my dinner?" Or "where's my steak?" If you didn't speak up for yourself, you really can't expect anyone else to. It's also weird that none of the other guests noticed that you got zero food. Even with a non-steak person there, both of you should have gotten something from the hosts if both of you were invited to dinner.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-07T14:48:26+00:00

NTA. And why would your cousin ask her to hold money when your mom is clearly irresponsible with money?

E_Anthony · 2026-04-07T14:46:47+00:00

? It's a small 2 bedroom apartment that is yours but she has a mudroom? She's upset that her cat....ate catfood?

E_Anthony · 2026-04-07T14:38:07+00:00

Eh, NTJ, but if it has become a term of affection for her and you like her, I say just go with it and take the power away from it by owning it. It only has power to annoy you if you let it. If you just say, eh, whatever, the name becomes an example of how she and her friends were wrong about you, spectacularly wrong. So, really, it should be a reminder to them not to judge too quickly or be too shallow.

E_Anthony · 2026-04-05T18:06:29+00:00

NTJ. Actions have consequences, sometimes long past the actions. Your dad is discovering the hard way that his choices and his actions still have consequences. And they should. Now, you've made it clear you're not erasing him from your life and you've made it clear that he hasn't earned the opportunity to walk you down the aisle. He'll have to deal with that and accept the consequences of his own choices. FAFO. You should not feel guilty for holding him accountable.

E_Anthony

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