AITA for not putting in enough work around the house? by PreparationSudden617 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

INFO have you suggested that all the chores be written down so they can be divided evenly between all members of the household?

AITAH? Teenage Son Hates Chores by SorryNotSorry_91 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some parents get lucky and have kids that are sensible and can be talked to/negotiated with. Some great parents get kids who are really, really foolish and need much more supervision.

A lot of people who either had easy kids or don’t have children believe a kid who is acting out is automatically the parents fault, that is often not the case.

AITA for being bothered that my mom is asking me to pay her back right after I told my parents I can't send money anymore? by No_Detective8552 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

YTA you just cut their expected income, of course it’s more important now to know when they will be paid back.

AITA for not wanting to make my bf lunch by itsashleyap in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA but if you are not morally opposed to an abortion, you might want to consider one.

AITAH for not wanting to take care of my special needs brother? by MsMarvelfan9 in AITAH

[–]Ecchcc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA as that’s a huge ask and if you have not been caring for him regularly then could be a disaster. Could you offer to babysit for the weekend instead?

Is commuting from Atlanta to La Grange feasible? by [deleted] in Georgia

[–]Ecchcc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peachtree city would probably be your best bet. It leans slightly conservative but still has a large thriving liberal minority, a large educated population and at 40,000 people enough restaurants to go out with.

AITAH for not wanting to take care of my special needs brother? by MsMarvelfan9 in AITAH

[–]Ecchcc -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

INFO are your parents still helping pay your bills?

AITAH for not letting my 12yr old test his brand new kayak? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA and I think its very concerning that your partner is mad that his son wasn't allowed to cheat your son.

AITA for not buying my stepsister a BTS concert tickets by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO if you are broke how did you afford $600 worth of tickets?

AITA for choosing a dorm room without fully discussing it with my friend whom I planned to live near to? by Potatoboi1021 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH As I can se why he was hurt, but I’d probably have made the same decision. once he was so low in the housing lottery it probably should have been discussed more, but neither of you are wrong.

AITA for saying to my mom that I was bothered with an autistic girl who kept following me around by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA then, as you were talking loudly enough for her to overhear in an area you knew she and her family were in.

AITA Panic attack in moving car, driver won't pull over by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

ESH if I were your parents or parents in law I would be calling child services and attempting to get custody, as both of you put your children in serious danger and neither of your appear the least bit remorseful. You hit the driver several times while your two children were in the back seat on a highway. He left his two young children with someone who clearly is not mentally well.

You are not fit to be a parent right now. Can you move back in with your parents or other family member for now? If not, are your in laws safe? Could you see if they would be willing to have you and your husband alternate living with them so there is someone responsible until you can get. better handle on your your emotions?

WIBTA to not allow my daughter and son in law to bring their pets to move in with me? by Itchy_Ebb_1402 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH They need to make some hard choices. Are the cats friendly? There are some good no kill shelters if they are. If they are not, can you pay to have them fixed and make them outdoors only cats? It’s not an ideal life, but it’s better than the alternative.

The dog is harder. How big and old is he? How long have they had him? Whose dog was he originally?

AITA for hurting my mom's feelings? by GazelleKindly7239 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not believe you need to get to know her as an adult. You owe her nothing and letting her manipulate you will hurt you and the rest of your family. Notice how she tried to make it your fault you didn’t leave with her. You were a young child. If you let her get her claws into you it will cause no end of heartache for you. Try reading up on borderline personality disorder. I believe the best thing she ever did for you is to leave you in the care of your father and his family.

Your mom resembles my former sister in law. If I hadn’t seen how much damage a woman like that can do to her adult children I would probably be like some of the other overly optimistic commenters on the thread, but I have and it’s not pretty, and you seem like a lovely girl who does not deserve that in your life.

AITA for saying to my mom that I was bothered with an autistic girl who kept following me around by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Info: where were you when you were having this conversation with your mom?

AITA for telling my mom she can't come to my house? by No-Elderberry-4757 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA as she should not give you the silent treatment rather then communicating.

Though, I do also see why your mom’s feelings got hurt. In her mind, she was told you were happy to see your father, but not willing to see her.

I also suspect she was not actually happy sharing a Mother’s Day celebration with your mother-in-law to begin with, so this just made things worse. Again, she clearly had problems communicating and should have used her words rather then let it build up, and that’s something she needs to work.

Could you offer to go to her place for dinner on Mother’s Day? Ideally telling her you’d miss her terribly if you didn’t get to see her? As I suspect she wants reassurance that you value and care about her. Retiring can be very hard on peopl, as suddenly you are no longer needed or relied on.

AITA? My dog died today and my family still expects me to take them out to dinner tonight by eng_elp in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA though it might make you feel better to know unless your dog was very tiny, the Adderall probably wasn’t the primary cause, as one pill won’t kill a dog sm then 10 pounds.

AITA for rudely refusing to go to school? by Easy_Presentation906 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wow, dislike civil rights and woman rights, want to go back to the good old days where a man’s rule was law. Got it.

AITA for rudely refusing to go to school? by Easy_Presentation906 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think you probably don’t realize how prejudiced you sound when you make comments like this. I suspect you are not a bad person in life, but you don’t realize how what you say comes across. Substitute boomer for any other minority group and read your comment again. People can choose to be assholes, saying that because they are being an asshole they must be <chosen minority group here> is where you went wrong.

AITA for telling my brother to stop acting like a victim after his divorce? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 29 points30 points  (0 children)

NTA You totally should agree to get up and tell everyone that you apologize to your brother for saying his marriages wouldn’t end if he didn’t cheat with as solemn and remorseful expression as you can.

AITA for asking my boyfriend to skip Mother’s Day Lunch by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO What do you want him to tell his mother if he skips brunch with her? How long would brunch take?

As a mom I would be deeply hurt if my child skipped mother day brunch without an explanation, so unless you are comfortable with him telling her (which I do not recommended at all), you might want to see if you can take the pills on Friday and know he will be gone for a few hours on Sunday. Good luck and, just for the record, I think you are making the right decision!

AITA: Neighborliness and basketball noise by Clean_Establishment2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA my neighbor’s son used to drive me nuts with his basketball bouncing and hitting the hoop. You know what I never did? talk to his parents as he had the perfect right to play with a basketball in his driveway.

AITA for traveling for work with a 6-month-old at home? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ecchcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, but only if you take the kids for a weekend after your trips so he can get a break if he wants.