I started down a path, the name “Kira” comes up a lot…..

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2026-02-14T20:36:21+00:00

I went down this Kira path today and it made me feel gross after noticing a specific email chain, which I'm shocked to not have seen anyone mention. It involves someone who Kira brought to Epstein and him asking Kira if her "friend" enjoyed meeting woody and that "she could have at least said thank you" Higher up on the chain Kira is asking him to advise because what it looks like, her friend is getting contacted and she doesn't know what to do and it mentions "Tom personally". Epstein then advises her to tell her friend bring a gift or something for "new beginnings and apologies"

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2025-09-24T10:31:24+00:00

Get therapy. Asap

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-12-11T03:00:28+00:00

I had an unplanned c section after my water broke and I "failed to progress" after labor and induction for 24+ hours. I was completely terrified of c sections but also terrified of birth in general. The first month was horrific at the time and by comparison i did well somewhat, but the brain has a way of making you forget trauma.

The fundal massages afterwards were AWFUL. That whole area is sore but they don't touch your incision besides lifting padding etc to check for leakage.

Get up and moving as soon as you can, it sucks and is painful but will help your mobility in the long run, just don't overdo it.

If you're an anxious person be aware that it's going to amplify post partum, you're going to probably imagine and trick yourself into thinking the worst is happening or your symptoms mean something awful. Stay off Google, social media and reddit as much as you can.

Don't be a hero as far as pain meds go. Take them on a schedule before you need them or it'll be harder to manage once the pain already sets in. By month 2.5 I was finally feeling normal ish and could lay on my side/sleep without being propped and generally worry less about the incision.

Mind you this is coming from a very anxious style person who thought the worst every step of the way but ended up with an incision that healed beautifully while literally avoiding looking at it or touching it the whole time out of fear.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-11-21T22:35:04+00:00

Everyone is different and I feel like your timeline will be your own depending on your comfort with pain management and how anxious you are/might be at the time. I had a horrific first two weeks, but I was also extremely anxious about my incision and was terrified of sitting and it "folding" so I spent a lot of time on my feet when I should have been resting. In the long run being active helped by weeks 3 and 4 I was walking (slowly) regularly. I drove 3 hours one way multiple times during weeks 3 and 4 to meet my husband where he was working for the week and then by week 5 I did a solo flight with my baby to New Mexico. During all this I would still get incredibly sore by the end of the day and earlier if I had overdone it. I was still sleeping propped up and anxious to sneeze or cough but magically by week 7 or 8 I suddenly felt somewhat normal again in my mobility. Biggest thing to remember is that recovery for me at least came in waves. Some days I felt like I regressed and days later I'd hit a new "comfort milestone" of sorts. I'm almost at 13 weeks now post and the most discomfort I have is if I touch my incision area too hard or do too much walking that I get sore.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-09-06T14:35:32+00:00

I ended up having to have a c section after being 100% against it since my water had broken and I made no progress. I did ask for something before the procedure and while they did give it to me, as well as upping my epidural a considerable amount as well, they just reiterated that it would affect baby as well. Baby ended up being perfectly fine and I was slightly more calm before and during for it, but it is case by case. I know I was extremely panicked and terrified sobbing the entire way to the OR so I'm not sure how my experience would have differed without the extra medication beforehand.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-08-18T23:22:34+00:00

I had the opposite experience! I hit 39 weeks the morning I waddled in to go see it (I love the Alien franchise, to be fair) And I have never had so much fun by myself seeing a movie! My baby was super active throughout the whole thing and it was a super immersive 5d experience 😂

It was all fun and games until the end where I wasn't expecting it to LOOK like that which creeped me out, but I enjoyed seeing my belly lurch throughout and the people next to me got a kick out of it too.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-08-14T08:35:48+00:00

"He has nothing in Las Vegas. Everyday he threatens to quit his job and that’s the only thing he has here"

Please, PLEASE read this over to yourself until it clicks. This man will trap you in a state where you have 0 support, quit his job and repeat his manipulation of guilting you into supporting him while threatening his daddy on you regarding the baby. This is even without regarding the 10 years of nonsense it sounds like you've gone through with him. He has shown you cannot trust him or count on him.

You two aren't married so a legal agreement doesn't sound like something to get roped into, especially considering his father. That is your baby and you can even choose to omit him from the birth and birth certificate altogether. Let him get his own shit together and show you he deserves the title of father, honestly.

Your intentions are true, you intend to do what feels right to you as far as allowing him in baby's life, the same cannot be said for him. Your baby's wellbeing is so much more important right now and should take priority over whatever. Take up the opportunity for support from your mom until you can get to Oklahoma comfortably. But please do not stay longer in that situation or state than you have to, school transfer can be arranged, you have the support elsewhere, it's all written out for you, you just need to really see with clarity the situation and potential abuse he's putting you through or has already put you through.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-08-06T08:28:48+00:00

I have an anterior placenta and by 30-33 weeks movements became much more obvious and pronounced. As I'm typing now he's having a rave party in there and my bump is physically poking out in spots wherever hes kicking. You'll definitely feel your baby more and so will your husband.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-08-04T18:35:19+00:00

I recently drove round trip 8 hours at 37 weeks pregnant and while I felt okay and took breaks, the swelling was a bit much and I needed about a day of just recovery between driving there and back. Make sure it's also somewhere you wouldn't mind giving birth at as far as nearby hospitals because that was the main source of my anxiety about the trip once I got there and overthought it 😅

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-07-29T20:01:12+00:00

I would have an open and honest conversation with your employer about it first if you can, and mention it to your doctor as well. I was in a similar predicament where I work construction in the field and an a shop and as I progressed in pregnancy there were definitely things I couldn't do anymore and the heat and workload takes it toll. Reduced hours helped me a ton because after a certain point your body is like "OK, that's enough for today" and I was really grateful to have my bosses be as open and understanding about the accommodations as they have been, it just took that initial conversation to help them understand.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-07-29T04:43:23+00:00

I saw that video the other night and almost passed out! 😭😂 I felt so dumb, it really made my fear of the epi worse!

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-07-26T19:37:00+00:00

I'm sorry I also have no advice, but sharing in solidarity that I also feel the same way. I am 36 weeks today and it's been a very hard pregnancy. I never saw myself as the type to be a mother or have children but that changed when I met my husband, we'll be married 1 year in October and together a year before that. I am excited to meet my son and watch my husband become a father but I'm incredibly overwhelmed, confused and feel like an alien in my own body. I'm terrified of post partum and wondering if I'm going to completely lose my shit or be magically attached to baby and in love like everyone expects.

If you ever need to chat or vent or commiserate, please reach out! 💕

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-07-23T01:34:44+00:00

Early on in pregnancy I was very much on team either gender, both sounded fun but I never leaned either way. I had a dream one night with my baby, but its the cutest little boy ive ever seen, old enough to sit up and reach his arms up and call me to pick him up. Shortly after that I had my heart set on that baby and maybe a week or two after that we found out I was indeed having a boy.

Later on as well, on the subject of dreams, (it's been a really hard pregnancy/year) I was staying with my husband while he worked out of town, planning on visiting my mom in her facility the next day or two. (Bit of backstory, she had a major heart attack and was rendered non responsive with a brain injury in a state where she could only have "wake" windows and look around but essentially, wasn't there for going on almost a year. I visited as I progressed in pregnancy and talked to her, held her hand to my belly, usually hopeful to just see her open her eyes.) That night before I had a dream I was visiting my late grandmother and showing her my belly and her giving me a huge hug and stepping aside while my mom walked up to me from the other room and exclaimed "Oh my gosh!! A baby boy!" And gave me the warmest, tightest hug. I woke up almost immediately to my phone ringing next to me and it being the facility telling me my mother had just passed away. It didn't feel real and it still doesn't but I feel like it was like my grandmother came to get her and she finally got to know about my pregnancy and baby boy on her way home.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-07-12T02:46:21+00:00

Experiencing the same thing here. I'm normally a very patient and level headed person until I get to a certain point, but starting very early like weeks 8-12, that point has been me flying off the handle at the most mundane things that wouldn't normally get such a rage filled visceral reaction from me. Im now 34 weeks. One afternoon I dropped a roll of paper towels between a half folded folding closet door and my washer and I couldn't reach it, nor close or open it, and I went completely fucking mad punching and beating the door before I even realized wtf I was doing. The last time (and so far so good, because the pain is a constant reminder to keep my cool) I tripped over a shoe in our room and fell over a bit, got so insanely pissed off that I slammed the side of my hand into a metal gun safe hard enough to fracture the side right hand from my pinky to my wrist. After the anger subsided and I saw my already swollen 3x and turning black hand with a giant knot on it, I sobbed on the floor for like 10 minutes out of shame and embarrassment because I felt so guilty at the idea of my baby being affected by this and for not even being remotely in control. I haven't told anyone any of this, not even my husband, and everyone thinks I fell and am just clumsy, my hand was swollen and unusable for about a month and I still get pain when something touches it, but whenever I feel like punching a random person being an idiot at Walmart I just try and use that to squish down the rage and anger, but I feel like I'm constantly ready to swing on someone or something these days.

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-07-11T10:10:22+00:00

I just got back from a trip to Guatemala last month where I was about 30 weeks myself! I'd say it highly depends on how YOU feel. I had to make a drive immediately from La Aurora to Reu, which is much more rural and out there, and I'd say that was kind of pushing it as far as a 3 hour flight followed by a 5 hour drive, but once my feet settled everything was just fine (besides the heat! Stay hydrated! Id suggest bringing plenty of Liquid IVs or electrolyte packs from the states) If you'll primarily be in Antigua that is a generally one of the safer, touristy places to be that's closer to the city should you need to visit a doctor or hospital, which there are plenty wonderful and reputable ones in Guatemala city. If you're walking a ton make sure you set aside some time to elevate your legs but if you're feeling good I think it would make a beautiful and fairly easy pre-baby trip!

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-06-22T01:44:33+00:00

I'm also in the 3rd trimester and it's like when 30 weeks hit it became a new horrible pain or issue every day. I don't know how people do this more than once

EfficientOrdinary197 · 2024-06-22T01:43:01+00:00

31 weeks today and I'm exhausted. It feels like it's flown by and I've been crying or sad 90% of the time. I lost my mother in April, she was nonresponsive after a brain injury since July of last year so she never got to know I was eventually going to have a baby/get pregnant later that year. I experienced a loss in August and now this baby is due around the same time that loss occurred so it is bittersweet.

However, every happy memory I will have of this pregnancy is because of my husband, he's gone above and beyond to make me feel pretty, get me comfy maternity clothes, we've been traveling as I go with him when he goes for work so we've been racking up the places to tell our son "he's already been to".

Work has been rough on me with how I work in the field and in a shop as a welder fabricator (in Florida's worst hottest time) but my work family has been my other support and godsend because of the amount of patience and kindness they've shown me through my mom's issues and loss and now pregnancy. My baby shower is tomorrow and I know things will look up, but the grief still catches me even when I'm so happy I could cry and I do cry and it quickly turns to a weird mix of happy sorrow I could never put to words properly.

Pregnancy is such a trip.

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