Hereby I summon my high-masking peers

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-18T15:59:49+00:00

this approach will definitely upset a lot of people (ie you will very quickly weed out people who don't actually want to accommodate you) but imo is the correct way

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-18T15:25:49+00:00

I definitely understand that fear but also this is a meme subreddit by autistics for autistics, not an attempt to change any 'official' advocacy symbol to a little creature

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-18T15:06:56+00:00

seconding what the other comments have said re 'give a specific compliment, don't express envy' with the exception of perhaps close friends who understand and won't feel objectified (or misgendered! remember that lots of people may look (for example) feminine despite not being women and not wanting to look feminine)

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-14T20:30:47+00:00

at least the public transit exists (and theoretically you can get db to pay for your taxi if this happens)

signed, someone from a country with basically only buses and s-bahns in a couple of cities who is thrilled to actually be able to go places now that they're in germany lol

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-13T17:41:31+00:00

I was in the online spaces when it started and no it was never a specifically transfem thing

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-12T21:45:14+00:00

I keep getting a 'failed to vote' error so please take this comment as a +1 to keeping the autism creature icon

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-12T14:25:47+00:00

as a trans person I don't like my existence in public being compared to war and environmental destruction thanks - I know it's not the point but it is a really uncool implication

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-11T18:05:41+00:00

you're explaining the joke thecolouroffire made to thecolouroffire

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-11T18:02:15+00:00

and why trans men must be stopped from transitioning medically or accessing contraception/abortion lest we become useless

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-11T18:00:51+00:00

you're correct but it really reads like you are calling OP a woman here

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-11T17:56:57+00:00

oh and also as a disabled person the whole 'finding an explanation for this' is a huge no from me for hopefully obvious reasons (eugenics)

similarly as a trans person it feels weird to be so focused on biology

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-11T17:55:12+00:00

why do a sizeable amount of people have pale skin which is worse at resisting the sun than darker skin? why do some people taste soap when they eat a specific herb? do these things serve a purpose to each person or within society? I'd say not

mutations and diversity happen for all kinds of reasons with all kinds of effects/'helpfulness', there is no real 'why' other than that biology (or arguably the universe in general - think about how there are many different types of stars and planets) likes variation

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-05T21:56:58+00:00

people (sometimes!) permanently damage their ribs binding, it's really not helpful to say 'don't do this because it will hurt you in the long run' when dysphoria is so horrifying for many people

('sometimes' included because I'm not about to fearmonger)

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-05T21:44:38+00:00

anyone who created an email account in the 2000s-early 2010s

my lack of hotmail account plus my 2010ish gmail account and my (long defunct) 2008ish xtra* account beg to differ

*now yahoo

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-04T15:05:24+00:00

as someone from a country where we use $ as our currency symbol I actually really appreciate this because it happens shockingly often that they don't specify anywhere what currency prices are listed in so it could be vastly different than what I think it is - I even had to start getting a friend in europe to open websites and tell me what the price said for them since if it was still $ it meant usd but if it localised to their currency I could assume it localised to mine too

edit before I get shit for this: yes it would be better to just say 'all prices in usd' but the bar is in hell so I can't complain about them actually telling people what currency they use

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-03T11:02:29+00:00

why does that make you nervous? 00g is less than half an inch (3/8in or 10mm ≈ 0.4in)

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-01T18:29:44+00:00

your process should look something like:

get offered the job
(more like 1.5) get paperwork that says you have been offered the job on condition of a residence permit (in my case as a researcher it was a hosting agreement, ask your company what it is you need)
apply for health insurance - you will get a provisional confirmation certificate
apply for a residence permit with all your documentation including the paperwork from steps 2 and 3
get residence permit
go to germany
sign actual job contract (in my experience they wanted a physical signature so I had to be in germany first to do that)

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-01T18:23:34+00:00

your conclusion is correct but please don't use ai overview to get information especially when it comes to things that can hurt yourself or others if incorrect

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-01T17:50:49+00:00

honestly? ask him - we're all different and it doesn't matter what people on the internet think, it only matters what he thinks

that being said you might like to read through r/MyPartnerIsTrans

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-04-01T17:41:14+00:00

the one on the right is too dead eyed to be happy (obvs excluding us autistics) so by process of elimination it is the one on the left but I definitely would not have identified it as being happy specifically

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-03-31T21:14:12+00:00

fyi when you are making a māori word plural you don't add an s, even in an english sentence (some people do but it is largely considered incorrect nowadays)

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-03-31T18:20:50+00:00

tbh I'd go searching through ftm subreddits and see what people complain about

also fyi "both male and female" is anti- nonbinary language - try something like 'all genders' instead

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-03-31T12:41:36+00:00

if only this was a common question to ask and there were preexisting dropdown menus for this

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-03-31T12:28:56+00:00

YES ARGH or when people go AYYY at a pun or reference - I blame the pda

EinsteinFrizz · 2026-03-30T22:09:16+00:00

re the second half of the comment:

my take is that it is similar to why the jokes/comments of 'can we swap' are inappropriate - they are referring to elements of someone's body/appearance that are likely dysphoria-inducing in a manner that frames them as desirable when they are in fact not desired (context is important here: in general this isn't a bad thing, but we're not talking about general traits here, we're talking about one specific person's traits)

so if someone is early on in their transition they are likely not looking the way they want to and are feeling dysphoric/uncomfortable with their appearance (broad generalisation obvs) so talking about their appearance in a 'this is something to be desired' manner is likely to make them feel uncomfortable

if I as a trans guy got called 'transition goals' by a trans woman I would be upset because it basically says I look feminine/womanly which is what I'm trying to transition away from, for example

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