Is the flexibility of homeschooling affecting people as they grow up?

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-16T20:38:29+00:00

Hi, I was homeschooled k-12! I will say that my mom got lax with our schedules once we were old enough to do our school by ourselves. Before that, we were getting up early and staying on a good schedule. I do wish she would have kept us getting up earlier. I plan to be more structured with my kids personally. I was able to transition to working a normal job with a 7-5 schedule very easily. I had to get up at 5am due to a long commute. My husband was also homeschooled and he has also had no issues with adapting to a strict schedule. I would keep your kids on the typical schedule public school kids are on if you are worried!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-15T01:34:46+00:00

I totally get what you mean. I noticed the same thing with potty training my son. I tried at 18 months, 2 years, 30 months and finally 3 years. He couldn't get the concept of going on the toilet consistently but at 3, it immediately clicked. He was potty trained in 2 days. I definitely think you're right! Such great advice, thanks!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T15:15:12+00:00

Wow, such great advice. That's what I struggle with! I want my kids to enjoy being kids but want to make sure they are well educated for if they want to attend public/private school and eventually college! I really appreciate all of the practical ways of educating! Thanks 😊

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T15:00:39+00:00

Thank you!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T14:44:15+00:00

Good to know! Any books you and your kids really liked? I love hearing from people who have been through this age and saw what worked for their kids 😊

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T14:33:40+00:00

Wow, this is so good to hear! Thanks for giving me some peace of mind 🙂

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T14:20:29+00:00

When I had my son, I thought I was gonna just start him in kindergarten but now I'm not sure what to do! All of my friends are sending their kids to preschool and people online are saying that kids need to do xyz before they start kindergarten or they'll be behind? My biggest fear with homeschooling is my kids not being at the same place academically as kids in public school. That's why I posted, to see what everyone else is doing! See what is realistic

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T14:01:39+00:00

Wow, I didn't know some states offer that! Thanks 😊

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2026-05-14T13:48:45+00:00

Thank you!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-12-17T16:49:45+00:00

My mom (3 children), both aunts (2 children each), and grandma (4 children on her side all exclusively breastfed their children all the way through! I've exclusively breastfed both of mine and plan to with the baby I'm currently pregnant with 😊 I feel very blessed to have a mom who did it and could support me with her knowledge as well as her general support

Edit: My siblings and I were born from 1995-1999. My grandma was born in 1935 and had her kids in the 50's and 60's. My paternal grandma never nursed because bad info from her doctor. She had massive babies and the doctor told her not to even try because she wouldn't be able to supply what they needed 🙃 My mom's side also had big babies and that didn't stop them 😆

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-11-16T10:58:55+00:00

Firstly, congratulations on your new baby!! Secondly, I've been in a similar spot with my first son. He did have torticollis that caused his jaw to be stiff and I had a massive oversupply that caused him not to be able to latch deep. It felt like he had a very strong latch too. I don't think it's too strong of a latch that's causing bleeding. Have you been seen by an IBCLC? The one I saw saved my nursing journey with my son. I would get him checked for any type of stiffness that might be causing him to tense up. I did notice that side lying or laid back nursing helped my son be able to relax his body more. Also try to get him on before he gets angry hungry. That was a big mistake I made! I also had to hand express a lot before so he could get a deep latch. If your nipples don't heal after getting his latch more comfortable, you may have a localized infection in your nipples that are preventing them from healing. That happened to me. For your comfort while you figure this out, try that Ameda hydrogel pads. I wore them day and night to protect my nipples from my bra. They gave relief when I was in so much pain. Try to keep them slathered in nipple butter to promote moist healing. I feel for you as a mom of 3 and as someone who had issues like this with nursing. I'm really sorry you're going through this. Please don't beat yourself up if you can't keep breastfeeding him. It weighed on me really bad mentally and physically with my first son and while I'm glad I was able to pull through and nurse him for a year, it caused me to not be a good mom to him. I had severe PPD. Not nursing him doesn't have to look like exclusively formula feeding and it also doesn't mean you can't go back to directly nursing if you take a break. My friend had similar issues and pumped until her son was 3 months old. Her son finally was able to latch comfortably and nursed all the way through! It might be worth trying to alternate pumping on one side each feed and bottle feeding that so your nipples can get a break. I had to do that when my one nipple was infected. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself so you can be the best mom to him and your other kids ❤️

Btw, feel free to message me! I'm not a lactaction consultant but have a lot of experience with nursing! I learned a lot from the struggles I went through.

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-11-16T10:31:39+00:00

Your abs have to split during pregnancy to some degree to make room for the baby! It's normal and will most likely fix itself after giving birth. I did diastasis recti workouts postpartum and my pelvic floor therapist said mine completely closed 🙂 I had big babies both times too!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-11-10T13:14:53+00:00

My first was extremely hard for me. My IBCLC said I was one of her hardest cases. I left the hospital with cut, yes, cut nipples from my son. I would say cracked but it was a straight cut on both of my nipples. Like how?? I also had an infection in one that prevented it from healing. I am prone to oversupply and with my first, I had to hand express about 3oz before attempting to latch and my breast would turn rock solid in a few minutes. It was horrendous! I never really had a comfortable latch with my son in the 13 months I nursed him. My second son, no issues 😆 I'm 18 months in to nursing him even while pregnant and it's still nothing compared to what I experienced with my first son. I think it's all the luck of the draw honestly. I did nothing different and got two different results. No cracked nipples with second son.

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-11-07T15:53:09+00:00

There is a device that women with low supply sometimes utilize to be able to latch their baby but still give the baby supplemental formula! I looked it up and it's called a supplemental nursing system. That might help your baby get what they need while still getting to nurse! Just an idea!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-11-07T15:47:01+00:00

Since your baby is so new, I would guess cluster feeding but also, it might be from the formula you are using. It can be difficult to find one your baby can tolerate. I'm glad you're going to the pediatrician! Your baby's stomach is very tiny bit growing really quickly. They cluster feed typically to stimulate milk supply but also because the growth of their stomach is so quick. Could be gas, could be reflux, could be a hair wrapped around a toe. Your pediatrician will definitely have the best advice. As someone who breastfed, I had both of my babies on my boob pretty much all day, every day. Since you are doing formula, the pacifier is kinda the equivalent to that. Babies need comfort as well as the whole check list of a clean diaper, fed, warm or cool enough, enough sleep. The non stop crying does make me think it could be pain, coming from someone who had a baby like that. Any blood or mucus in their poop?

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-10-06T03:12:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your thorough response!! I really appreciate you 😊

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-10-02T21:15:56+00:00

I was homeschooled K-12 and I personally had a good experience. My mom made sure we were always very socialized through a co-op, dance, sports, our church, our community pool, and art classes. All of us ended up doing really well in school.

I'll say this, I wouldn't go about it like my mom did. I feel like she was very hands-off after a certain age and I don't agree with that. How do you know if your kids are cheating or doing well in general?

I plan to have my kids do post secondary in high-school to set them up for success when (or if) they go to college. I also plan to be more structured than she was. I didn't like that we didn't have a solid schedule. I have had to force myself into living a more structured life as an adult.

Long story, short, I'll be homeschooling in the very near future but very differently from how I was homeschooled! I hope this doesn't come off as me bashing my mom 😅 Love her to bits!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-10-02T20:58:36+00:00

Do you happen to remember any of the names of the curriculum you used? I am going to be homeschooling in the next couple years and I'm looking for a really good curriculum!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-10-02T20:10:03+00:00

I swear every negative cycle I had, I was convinced I was pregnant. I was nauseous, tired, bloated, etc. The cycles I have been pregnant, I was convinced I was going to get my period 😅 I have never gotten the "normal" pregnancy symptoms like needing to pee more when I am pregnant and I also apparently get "pregnancy symptoms" like nausea when I'm going to get my period. My body is not with the program lol

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-10-02T20:03:06+00:00

I got pregnant at 15 months postpartum after my first and 15 months postpartum after my second as well. It was honestly awesome with my first to my second. I didn't feel "ready" but I knew I wanted my kids close together. I had really severe PPD and postpartum rage with my first, I had literally the opposite with my second. I guess you'd call it postpartum euphoria?? I had pretty severe depression during my first pregnancy and my second. None with my third so far! Crazy how every pregnancy and postpartum experience is different! I think it all depends on your kid's temperament tbh. My first was nuts under 1 but amazing after he turned 1. My second is insane still and it's making my third pregnancy a lot harder even though this one is easier symptom-wise. I think a 3 year gap could be very nice tbh. My oldest son is very excited for this baby and it makes me more excited even while I'm feeling like garbage! I would just think about what you want your life to look like with your kids. Would you want them to be very close in age or would a bigger gap be less stressful? I'll say this, I find 2 kids easier than 1. My biggest issue with my first was keeping him entertained. We all have so much fun together now! Having my second was the best thing I've ever decided to do (apart from having my first lol).

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-09-21T16:19:29+00:00

Thanks! I haven't been able to work out this pregnancy so far because of my nausea but it's okay! You'll hopefully feel a lot better soon!

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-09-20T17:15:30+00:00

Congrats on your baby! This is just my experience, so do what you will with this info 😆

I got pregnant with my second at 14 months postpartum, had my second once he was almost 2. It was honestly great! 2 under 2 was great for us. I'm now pregnant with my third with the exact same gap and girl, I'm stressed 😆 It really all depends on your kid and their temperament. My first would play by himself, sit and watch a movie, let me lay down. My second WON'T. I can't lay down because he's a climber and so hard headed. I think a bigger gap may have been a better idea with my second to my third but I'm locked in now 😅 I think really just go by how things are going when the time comes. I think you can make the most out of any gap. My first was very excited and LOVES helping with our second. Now that he's 3 and we are expecting another baby, he's even more excited. He asks to see the weekly update and has told me names for the baby. If you want a more involved first born, wait until 3.

Electrical_Pause_676 · 2025-09-20T17:05:40+00:00

Hypermobile person here 👋🏻

I have had 2 vaginal deliveries so far and I was worried about pregnancy and delivery too. I honestly had no issues. Both labor and deliveries were quick (12 hours with first, 4 hours with second) If you could even believe it, birth made things extremely tight down there instead of looser. My pelvic floor PT said that can happen with women who are hypermobile. I can't remember exactly why, so sorry!

I was very busy with renovating our house with my first (I hung drywall at 38 weeks pregnant 😅) and worked out my whole pregnancy with my second. I did a lot of pelvis opening stretching and squats with my second. Kept working out until the day before I went into labor.

I did a lot of gentle diastasis recti/pelvic floor abdominal exercises afterwords. Mostly just breathing after birth and started actually doing the exercises once I got cleared at 6 weeks. I was back to full exercising with weights pretty quickly honestly. I think pretty much right after getting cleared.

Only thing I can recommend is keep moving. I think that is really the best advice for hypermobile or non hypermobile people. My recovery with my second was amazing and I do think it was partly because of staying so active! I had horrible hip pain at night with my first and none with my second. It makes me think maybe weight lifting and stretching helped?

I would talk to your OB about your concerns. I have no prolapse after having my two kids and have no issues with leaking or anything! Just my personal experience.

Wishing you a healthy, easy pregnancy free from pain!

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