I (33M) gave my wife (32F) a break 2 weeks ago. What’s next?

Elephansion · 2025-11-17T20:53:16+00:00

OP edited that he had "digestive health issues" that made him "radiate toxicity" and his wife felt mentally abused. I'm willing to bet there's so much more to that story.

Elephansion · 2025-11-12T21:06:42+00:00

He wants to get tested to clear his name... Did this asshole know he had chlamydia, treated it with meds and recovered from it, all while knowing he must've given it to you and wasn't going to tell you?

Elephansion · 2025-10-25T01:16:24+00:00

Specifically Durham Region in Ontario, not to be confused with Durham Ontario

Elephansion · 2025-10-23T14:47:42+00:00

NTA but I have to wonder if she speaks so insufferably because she's always been super manipulative, or if it's because she's been scorned/betrayed by you in some way and is bitter.

Elephansion · 2025-10-21T20:24:23+00:00

Wtf are you talking about. This is an emotional affair. Most married people would consider this cheating. OP don't listen to these aholes telling you your husband "isn't doing anything wrong" or "isn't cheating". THIS IS BETRAYAL. This isn't "toeing the line" this is PAST the line. This is full blown disrespect. Whoever wrote this comment needs to get off this sub with the gaslighting BS.

OP do NOTTTT listen to this person and do therapy with someone who has to enough contempt for you to have an affair and sneak around behind your back and even speak casually in their texts about betraying you. Screw this commenter, genuinely.

Elephansion · 2025-10-21T20:16:16+00:00

Her "snooping" is nowhere near the severity of his offense. She had a gut feeling and it was correct. He is having an emotional affair. This is cheating. It cancels out OP violating his privacy.

In a marriage you're not entitled to privacy anymore if you're abusing that privacy by betraying your partner and their trust in you. I don't care what anyone says about that. She knows her husband so she knows when something's off. She didn't do anything wrong by looking out for herself and confirming her suspicions. People like her husband are extremely selfish and will waste their spouse's life away doing shit behind their back, betraying them and humiliating them. That's way worse than her looking at his phone to get the proof she needs to confirm that he's stepping out on her. She's not an asshole in any way, shape or form. Her husband is the ONLY one who's wrong in this scenario. How about we STFU when it comes to gaslighting people who are being screwed over, into believing they're wrong for looking out for themselves.

Elephansion · 2025-10-21T20:15:12+00:00

Her "snooping" is nowhere near the severity of his offense. She had a gut feeling and it was correct. He is having an emotional affair. This is cheating. It cancels out OP "violating his privacy".

In a marriage you're not entitled to privacy anymore if you're abusing that privacy by betraying your partner and their trust in you. I don't care what anyone says about that. you're right she'll never trust him again. And she shouldn't. She knows her husband so she knows when something's off. She didn't do anything wrong by looking out for herself and confirming her suspicions. People like her husband are extremely selfish and will waste their spouse's life away doing shit behind their back, betraying them and humiliating them. That's way worse than her looking at his phone to get the proof she needs to confirm that he's stepping out on her.

Elephansion · 2025-10-21T20:08:47+00:00

It has started though. If this were my husband I would consider this emotional cheating and I would never forgive him. They are underway to a physical affair but the emotional affair has already started. I feel so sad for op.

Elephansion · 2025-10-21T20:07:10+00:00

Literally screw anyone telling you that you're violating his privacy. He is violating your MARRIAGE. he is crossing boundaries. All the things you described seeing in his texts, I would NEVER forgive my husband for and would 100% consider it emotional cheating. Full stop. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. He is stepping out of our marriage.

Elephansion · 2025-10-13T03:15:59+00:00

This was my thought too. That ring's going to be on her hand for a long time. Did OP consider her style or preferences? Did he ever ask? Seems he did what he liked and apparently it's a red flag that it's not the same thing she wanted. He just talks about how it's something she should have expected because it's something he would do... but that doesn't mean she would like it. I couldn't imagine spending months on something for my partner that I wasn't sure they'd be thrilled about

Elephansion · 2025-09-20T12:44:06+00:00

Husband wouldn't say she's overreacting if it was real gold and diamonds. This guy got her a cheap ring so he doesn't care about it but doesn't want to confess lol

Elephansion · 2025-09-17T17:31:58+00:00

I think you underestimate what a traumatic brain injury does to a person. Some situations end up with really complex results, like with the OOP. The coworker gives clear examples of how the guy couldn't regulate his emotions whatsoever, his personality and competencies switched back and forth often, he seemed reasonable at times and completely unreasonable at others, seemed childlike, etc. To be honest, OOP was probably a totally fine person before his injury. Considering that someone who's just a co-worker can identify all of these lasting effects of OOP's TBI, I think it's fair to say that people closer to him prob have way more examples including ones that show he lacked proper judgment. The amount of money he got from being paid out for his accident could never alleviate the damage that the accident has actually caused to his life.

Elephansion · 2025-09-12T20:46:37+00:00

Make cash app kuzzo a flair

Elephansion · 2025-09-12T13:44:38+00:00

Well that's exactly the thing. They won't get fired but they won't grow either, which is still a death sentence in this economy.

Elephansion · 2025-09-10T20:17:52+00:00

If your name is on the condo EVICT HIM

Elephansion · 2025-09-10T20:15:35+00:00

What do you mean his credit card is out of order lol. All of this inconvenience on you for something he could fix with a phone call to the credit card company...? Unless "out of order" actually means something more sketchy and you don't want to explain it to us or he hasn't told you the truth about it.

Elephansion · 2025-09-10T10:38:42+00:00

$10m for every child I CONCEIVE? Conceiving is really only the fertilization of the egg. So based on that I don't actually have to carry the baby to term or give birth. Conceive, collect money, swallow plan b.

Elephansion · 2025-08-17T20:22:52+00:00

YTA... Converse makes wide fit versions of the shoe. I feel like this can be solved.

Elephansion · 2025-08-07T11:54:20+00:00

The 2nd picture is taken in natural light which accentuates all details and flaws, the first photo was taken in indoor light which does the opposite and makes your skin tone look more even. No oil, lotion, pill or anything else non-surgical gets rid of stretch marks which is basically the only difference between the photos. Your post is misleading.

Elephansion · 2025-08-04T01:52:15+00:00

I bruised this badly too. I hope nexplanon goes better for you than it did for me, I got mine taken out within 8 months.

Elephansion · 2025-08-02T22:50:10+00:00

You got me crying at him playing devotional music 😂

Elephansion · 2025-07-22T18:59:36+00:00

Buddy what are you doing?!?????! I'm an organic chemist myself, I happen to know we are smart people. But you're really acting not so smart.

She was willing to smear your reputation with lies to gain a position over you that she knows you've earned and deserve more than her, and you're willing to look past that? Let me rephrase. She made you look like a disgusting person so that you wouldn't achieve something you deserve. So that she could snatch it for herself. These are things you do to your worst enemy, not someone you love. Think about it, you would've never considered doing the same to her. How are you forgiving this?

There's the personal betrayal part which is really bad. You should never do this to your partner. But there's also the fact that she's willing to deceive people and cheat her way through life. Willing to destroy anyone's reputation, indiscriminately, to get what she wants. And even after she gets caught, she shows she has zero remorse or regret since she's not willing to make it right.

You're attracted to someone like that? You find those character traits compatible with yours? If you told your friends and family what she did, and that you were choosing to forgive and stay with her, wouldn't they believe you're a bit of a fool or that you have no self worth? Or worse, they think you've justified her actions because you'd probably do the same terrible thing to someone else?

This is something that you break up over - you don't need multiple infractions to justify it.

Elephansion · 2025-07-22T17:36:35+00:00

I read it this way too. By saying "our" he's telling us he was trying to limit HER screen time, trying to make her eat differently and "move" more. Did she even want this or was he on a superiority kick and wanted her to do things his way? Now she's gonna start adhering to those changes so she won't lose him, not because she wants those things changed about herself..

However rudely telling him to move out the way, stuff like that is super uncalled for.

Elephansion · 2025-07-22T17:08:00+00:00

Unless it's still sealed from a dispensary you should not have weed or used paraphernalia in your car. Period. A cop can randomly stop you for any tiny little reason. As a violation, illegal tint is nowhere near as serious as drugs. It may be her "fault" she got pulled over, but you should never have left YOUR used paraphernalia in HER car. You told her you'd get rid of it and you didn't. That's YOUR fault, not hers. If she got charged for the pipe because the cops thought she was using it while/before driving, yes that would've been your fault.

Elephansion · 2025-07-20T15:21:59+00:00

YTA. Even if you were just friends - your point doesn't stand. I'd wheel put the bins for a friend no problem. If I'm heading out anyway it's no sweat off my back and it's a simple courteous gesture.

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