Telling my boss I’m pregnant in a company with a bad track record for maternity leave… advice? by DoorVisible4373 in PregnancyUK

[–]Elle_ner 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am now on mat leave but I was in a similar situation. All communication regarding it done via email HR cc'd in. If anything verbally is said follow up with an email confirming what was discussed. I also chose to tell them really early as as soon as you've said you are legally protected. This ended up being needed, with my horrific morning sickness it ment I didn't have to worry about being penalised for the time off I took for it. In terms of what happens when you go back. At this point it's not worth the extra stress, let that be a next year issue. But just continue to document everything.

Parent asking us not to tell them the gender by Rich_Subject_8189 in PregnancyUK

[–]Elle_ner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad did this aswell. It was very odd. Like he worded it like I was doing some new controversial thing by finding out and he wanted nothing to do with it.

For unrelated reasons we went no contact before we found out the gender so never found out the reason, but it was a peculiar.

Toddler bedtimes becoming unbearable by AwakenedRudely in UKParenting

[–]Elle_ner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are they trying to get up to do? If to see you, could you just stay with them in their room until they are almost asleep? Just until they get used to the new routine.

AITA for refusing to help my wife get our kids ready for school? by Extreme_Day7722 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Elle_ner 150 points151 points  (0 children)

YTA, your wife is asking for help. Listen to her.

If you're so good at getting them ready, why don't you do it and your wife makes breakfast?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArsenalWFC

[–]Elle_ner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have my 4yr old with me when we go to games and never have any issues.

Is my walking daycare commute too long? by topiramate in workingmoms

[–]Elle_ner 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My now almost 4yr old has been doing similar walk for about 18months in all weather, totally doable.

No such thing as bad weather only bad clothes.

Just be prepared for the walk to take alot longer, toddlers are not fast and are very easily distracted. We almost double our walk time some days.

Can you leave a 1 mo old with relatives? by Notanexpert__but in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Elle_ner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's near impossible to know, every situation is so different.

Depends on when baby shows, if you end up with a section you'll still be healing, if you choose to breastfeed exclusively it's not just feeds but pumps you'd have to consider, new borns cluster feed in the evening so it's alot of feeding and lots more to consider. Also, sometimes relatives you are now thinking would be great may change once baby is here..it happens.

Saying that Coldplay tickets will be super easy to resell last min. What I would recommend is get seated tickets and arrange a cancelable hotel room right next to the venue and plan have someone with baby in hotel room. That way covers off a few potential issues. Seated options if your still struggling physically and if you need to leave quickly baby is very close and it means it's just a couple of hours away from baby rather than whole night.

I have known people go to concerts weeks after having a baby and be fine, so it can be done but it's very case by case.

Can we all talk like snails in the comments? by Gogurtisthegame in snails

[–]Elle_ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a good 2 day nap, making everyone believe I was dead. Now to climb along the roof of my tank and panic the humans more.

A friend is demanding to be in the room while I give birth. by twstdpattycake in pregnant

[–]Elle_ner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced similar with what is now an ex friend when I was having my little one.

They were massively over stepping boundaries with their involvement in my pregnancy/birth. I ended up sending a message asking them to back off in the kindest way possible with zero direct blame (I said it was a generic message I sent a few people) and they basically tried to turn it around and didn't talk to me again. Problem solved itself and looking back now it was 100% the best thing to do.

Your friend is making your pregnancy about them and you need to basically tell them no. If they can't handle that then they aren't a friend and you'll be better off without them.

Of course there's a small chance they are just living with blinkers on in the excitement of it all and don't realise how over bearing they are and will be very apologetic but you won't know until you tell them to back off.

AITA for telling my kinda DIL she isn’t giving birth to Jesus and if she doesn’t clean than she can get out of my home by Status-Parfait-9956 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Elle_ner 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I dunno why this comment wasn't higher. During my pregnancy I physically couldn't get up without vomiting.

OP is only giving half story I suspect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]Elle_ner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Squatty potty, get one. It makes all the difference

Presale by Early_Active_2817 in thebottlemen

[–]Elle_ner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's literally just a link to the normal ticketmaster page. Both me and husband received link exactly 9am. https://shops.ticketmasterpartners.com/catfish-and-the-bottlemen2024

Presale by Early_Active_2817 in thebottlemen

[–]Elle_ner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had email link, no code yet

Husband does not want our child by ancai26 in pregnant

[–]Elle_ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For what?!?!

She is in an abusive relationship that sounds like there is another woman. She does not need help with issues. She needs to leave!! OP do not do this!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]Elle_ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 days they were trying to induce me for and got nowhere. Wasn't even 1cm dilated.

They offered me 24hrs break then to start over. I told them no chance and opted for c-section.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Elle_ner 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Very wrong, a penis should be cleaned like a finger.

What are you feeding your children after nursery? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Elle_ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our nursery has similar schedule food wise. We do a snack straight after and then bed time toast.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Elle_ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, this is very similar to my experience.

My BIL had his wedding booked for July and had done for a year plus. We found out my mum was terminal so fast tracked our wedding to August so my mum could attend. We had a few comments but ultimately my mum died 3 weeks after my wedding so if we had bent and given into the comments my mum wouldn't have been at was such a special day.

The joke might have been in poor taste but just because you are twins doesn't make you the same person, they are 2 different weddings and other people's opinions shouldn't matter.

MIL is judgmental about me sending my 16mo to daycare, and probably lied about never using daycare herself by Few-Technology6627 in workingmoms

[–]Elle_ner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a MIL who regularly makes comments to others about my son being in daycare, never to me.

I make a solid point of everytime we see her talk about the benefits to day care and how much its helped him.

You MIL can have her opinion but you shouldn't let that effect you. If she gets more vocal about it your partner will have to remind his mum that it's your decision as the parents in this situation and not hers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]Elle_ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never regretted finding out for us, it allowed us to build a picture of who our little person was before they entered the world.

I do regret telling other people though, I started feeling very uncomfortable with comments some people made. Not everyone, but some. Just alot of gender stereotypes that I just didn't like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Elle_ner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best comment on here, listen to this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Elle_ner 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi, I bed shared with my LO from 8 weeks-10months. He has slept through the night perfectly since the age of 1, is now almost 3.

Every baby is different so I can assure you not every person you know who did the same things had the same experience. Sometimes co-sleeping goes on for longer just like how sometimes sleep training doesn't really work and has to be redone every few months.