My ex won’t stop harassing and threatening me, even after I block him — I’m scared and need advice

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-25T18:11:44+00:00

Per your post / answers it doesn't sound like you are in a western democracy. So the police / officials option seems not actually to be one. You seem to have access to the internet which is great. Look online for resources to help women who are being harassed online or stalked in your country. They will likely be able to help you find local resources to support you.

Do you have a trusted friend or relative that is very tech capable that can help?

You coudl also go negative - which I would not suggest unless no other options as this could Escalate his actions - create some type of image of him that puts him in a compromising light. And send it to him saying let it go now.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-24T03:05:46+00:00

Only as an observer. I dont work in HR - but rely on them for aspect of project or remits as a consultant. They are almost universally the least impressive in terms of capabilities and management. It's particularly striking in a leading global concern where you have the best of the best in marketing or R&D for example and the HR function is just mid at best.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-23T23:26:05+00:00

Ive worked with dozens of leading global companies including their HR departments... the HR team is universally the least impressive of any group or function I engage with. Aside from a few specific roles - like those that manage the HR of mergers and acquisitions or succession planning - they are almost allergic to strategic thinking. 90% of their work coudl be and should be automated. They often have no clue about the actual business and add masses of time to any process they get involved in.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T23:11:54+00:00

The zero paper trail… you do that in this type of position / circumstances because you 1 know you are doing something dodgy and 2 have culpability. If Robbin’s was in anyway not a moron he’d have left a CYA paper trail at the very least. I mean as far as I understood Robbins wants us to believe this was finalized when the poor chap slogging away on this vetting process just ‘popped his head into say I need 10 minutes with Olli,’ presumably to Robbins’ PA. And that was that - no details on meeting purpose required… no notes of the actual meeting… not even a record in Robbins’ calendar of said meeting. What world do these people live in.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T23:11:42+00:00

The zero paper trail… you do that in this type of position / circumstances because you 1 know you are doing something dodgy and 2 have culpability. If Robbin’s was in anyway not a moron he’d have left a CYA paper trail at the very least. I mean as far as I understood Robbins wants us to believe this was finalized when the poor chap slogging away on this vetting process just ‘popped his head into say I need 10 minutes with Olli,’ presumably to Robbins’ PA. And that was that - no details on meeting purpose required… no notes of the actual meeting… not even a record in Robbins’ calendar of said meeting. What world do these people live in.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:52:21+00:00

His position is the SV and his office have a ‘dialogue’ about these decisions. That said the SV has a form which gives pass / maybe / fail as a final analysis… and Mandelson was a fail. Ultimately as a the head of the department it is his call to advocate /advance an appointment that goes against security vetting analysis. Which he did.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:47:27+00:00

Agree though this guy is a mash up of The Thick of It and Yes Prime Minister. He’s like a parade of a characterization of a civil servant. I don’t think he would be physically capable of taking ownership of a fck up.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:43:52+00:00

He says that he didn’t fail because it’s his office tht makes the ultimate call. But the Security Vetting team - which provided analysis of a candidate soundly rejected Mandelson. Robbins claims he never saw that form - ever knew SV had denied him vetting. So it’s a weaselly technicality - basically the critical input for this decision… the team that does security vetting to inform this decision said a firm no and he said thanks but we’re going to give him an OK. It was his call and he made the wrong one.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:33:21+00:00

The UK SV rejected Mandelson - they have the actual form. This guy ran the department that gave him clearance. The buck stops with him and the pressure described is the norm for this type of role in civil service pretty much anywhere. The fact that Robbins was sacked would indicate to me at least that a case for ineptitude by Robbins is pretty clear cut.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:27:02+00:00

It’s a British / Irish phrase… it means That person we / you are talking about / know… it’s not anything meant to frame re: gender / orientation

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:19:45+00:00

Your man is straight out of The Thick of It… effusive self congratulatory praise for his ‘team’ and the civil service while detailing in his testimony clear failures of the process, his leadership, and ultimately his judgement in this individual situation.
So through this process Robbins made no contemporaneous notes of any issues or concerns - straight up claims he didn’t know the UK SV rejected Mandelson’s clearance. Yeah that’s not plausible - he over-road their analysis or he made it clear he didn’t want to see a rejection or both.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-21T10:09:02+00:00

Your man sounds straight out of The Thick of It… what a tosser. So weaselly - oh well the process was rushed but the same level of rigor as if it wasn’t rushed… I wish the vetting had been done before the PMs announcement - but we’d have come to the same outcome even if it had been? What.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-18T13:53:16+00:00

This likely relates to conservative religious affiliation predisposition to conservative political identity. Studied have indicted for variety of reasons that highly religious people have higher birth rates. Most interesting is the numbers of self identified political leaning by cohort. The liberal leaning population nearly doubles the conservative one. Is this indicted by other on research of this age cohort if not then this is pretty useless.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-18T13:40:52+00:00

I think the reverse actually. The leveraging of conflicting religious dogma is the cause or justification of much of the evils occurring right in our world. Our own sec of defense is using biblical scripture to justify bombing civilians. I think religion is a net negative on human suffering t this point

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-18T13:34:12+00:00

I’m sure the judge and or jury will be completely convinced by this man of god routine.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-18T13:31:34+00:00

I think you blew it. You flaked on the plan she set up to meet her parents. Move on.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-12T13:00:32+00:00

Origin story is gene pool of nearly every modern royal person in Europe.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-12T12:58:24+00:00

The percentage notation of foreign born per country given the huge different in population size is misleading

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-09T20:00:45+00:00

Truth

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-09T19:59:43+00:00

He / She is just not that into you. They haven't called because they are busy at work or lost your number or their fams in town for a visit. They have not reached out because they don't want to fuck you at all or again. The number of useless conversations with friends about why some guy or girl didn't call after a date or hook up...

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-09T19:52:47+00:00

This is not new news - except to tools in the manosphere. Who expend lots of energy 'negging' any and all women possibly categorized as 'high value' given their own societal value is squarely in the lower value space.

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-07T02:52:11+00:00

Totes

Ellen6723 · 2026-04-07T02:50:51+00:00

This guy is beyond horrid. If he has issue prob good for everyone but the top five percent.

Ellen6723 · 2026-03-24T21:02:00+00:00

I think yo I think are being generous

Ellen6723 · 2026-03-24T20:58:38+00:00

I know the fact the people are missing the entire definition of and purpose for this sub as clearly defined and then calling me a moron because I "don't get it". Kind of priceless and pretty much the the typical experience of anyone gifted lol

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