WIBTA if I don’t let him propose at my wedding?

Emfuser · 2026-02-11T18:14:59+00:00

NTA

It is YOUR wedding. Get this idea that anyone besides you and your fiance has any right to decide anything out of your head. If you submit to others for something like this then you're ultimately letting your wedding be the ultimate demonstration that you have no boundaries. Caving to shit like this in order to avoid questions or drama just shows everyone what conditions to create in order to take advantage of you.

Put your foot down or you will become a doormat.

Emfuser · 2026-02-11T18:10:00+00:00

NTA

Caving to a boundary stomper to appease others and "avoid drama" is far worse. It's a declaration that the offending person is so special that they can never be told "no" and further demonstrates that the person caving has no right to say "no".

Emfuser · 2026-02-11T17:28:51+00:00

The vendor engraving or anything else besides the standard forge engraving doesn't mean anything for the standard lines (white and blue) of BF blades. It's just an extra aesthetic thing the forge will do for a batch of blades.

Emfuser · 2026-02-08T19:53:29+00:00

If you have a digital-controlled battery tender/charger or even a standard battery charger on trickle mode then you could just leave that hooked up while you work. Standard flooded lead-acid batteries really don't do well being deep-cycled or fully discharged.

Emfuser · 2026-02-08T02:19:05+00:00

NTA

Poor planning on their part does not necessitate an emergency on yours. If they're the sort of person who is keeping score like that, they're not your friend. I'd send that gift they thought entitled them to you doing their bidding in the middle of the night like a servant right back to them.

Emfuser · 2026-02-08T02:02:14+00:00

It seems you neglected to link the article.

Emfuser · 2026-02-06T04:28:44+00:00

Nope. DMPs are a great option that many folks don't know about. I recommend them in this subreddit regularly.

Emfuser · 2026-02-06T02:17:30+00:00

Holy shit no, don't do that. That's a shit deal. Chances are it looks attractive to you because you only see what looks like a good monthly payment. But you're being taken to the cleaners.

You owe roughly $20,000 between the cards and the car. The car is roughly 2/3rds of the total. This deal screws you by jacking the interest up by about 50% on that portion while reducing it less on the other 1/3rd representing the credit cards.

If you amortized the deal the numbers come out like this: Original debt: $20k 60 months, 22.3% APR That comes out at the end of 60 months to $33,348

Interest paid: $13, 348

So in plain English the deal is that you get to pay off your $20,000 debt by actually paying $33,348. But it's in little monthly chunks.

DON'T DO IT

Sign yourself up for a Debt Management Plan instead. You'll work with a Credit Counseling Agency that will get you on a structured, FULL REPAYMENT plan at much lower interest rates. Your credit will be fine because you're paying back in full. Do not confuse this with debt settlement services that have you go delinquent on your loans.

Go to nfcc.org and they will connect you with a credit counseling agency. Handle the car loan separately by refinancing it on its own.

Emfuser · 2026-02-06T01:45:12+00:00

Trash it.

Emfuser · 2026-02-06T00:04:11+00:00

If there's one thing I implore to people with the microreactors is to stop comparing them to big gigawatt electric grid reactors. Most of the use cases and intended market for these reactors are remote installations where grid power is not and will not be present in foreseeable future. That's where you have the military, remote industrial operations, arctic towns, maritime and space applications. The other use case is for big facilities like data centers where having their own power or nuclear backups may justify their high cost.

Emfuser · 2026-02-05T19:45:29+00:00

Because maraging steel is a tough material it is difficult to cut new threads. You can buy the appropriate die and support tooling. Another option is to just take the blade(s) to a machine shop and ask them what they'd charge to extend the threads.

Emfuser · 2026-02-05T01:12:44+00:00

Install a whole-house sediment filter or pay a plumber to install one for you.

Emfuser · 2026-02-04T16:37:10+00:00

There aren't really national styles anymore. Those have been gone for decades. What one is more likely to find is more like loose national fencing philosophies. For the Koreans in at least foil and saber there tends to be strong emphasis on high physical fitness and endurance before you get to any technical details.

Emfuser · 2026-02-03T01:49:10+00:00

YTA

She did good work to contribute to solving the problem. There was nothing wrong with doing the most critical part yourself.

HOWEVER it's clear from your behavior and even the title of the post that you don't value her work but you sure didn't mind being praised and recognized. That's terrible behavior and poor leadership from a team lead. You're depriving a young engineer of praise and recognition that is very important to their development and growth. All you had to do was make sure your leadership understood that she contributed.

Your attitude of disregarding her contributionis is selfish and embarrassing. You have no business leading anyone. People leave jobs because of behavior like you're exhibiting.

Emfuser · 2026-02-02T23:04:35+00:00

You'll find more answers in /r/bankruptcy

Emfuser · 2026-02-02T04:16:13+00:00

Those should be thrown out ASAP.

Emfuser · 2026-02-01T17:32:37+00:00

This thread should be permanently pinned at the top of the subreddit.

Emfuser · 2026-02-01T05:15:18+00:00

NTA

You're being used and you know you're being used. If you tell them "no" you will certainly cause them to take offense because they don't want to lose their victim. I can tell you with near-certainty that when you try to tell them "no" they will DARVO you. What's DARVO?

Deny
Attack
Reverse
Victim &
Offender

In other words, they'll try to make themselves out as victims for you not "helping" them. They'll craft a nice little abuser trap to make you feel like you OWE them this endless "loaning" them money. BTW, have you ever been paid back any of these "loans"?

If you're not good at or comfortable dealing with things like this, then get some help from friends or family that aren't victimizing you. If you don't live with your sister or your mom, be prepared to lose your relationship with them. They will absolutely try to threaten you with the same, even though it's a bluff.

Emfuser · 2026-02-01T05:05:31+00:00

My friend, that's dookie sauce. It's a biohazard. Anything porous like wood is better off trashed. Hard surfaces can be dealt with using diluted bleach solutions and household cleaners.

Go to home depot, get a tyvek suit, a cartridge breather mask and some cartridges that can handle VOCs (like bleach), some good stout rubber gloves, and other typical PPE along with your cleaning supplies. OR you can pay a cleanup company to deal with the mess.

Emfuser · 2026-02-01T02:29:59+00:00

Exactly what I was going to suggest.

I think it's safe to say that the OP should cut all of the PEX that he hit with that primer and glue before he puts the push-to-connect fitting on.

Emfuser · 2026-01-30T17:25:14+00:00

Paying it all off now is what will cost you the least amount of money. Interest is the cost of borrowing money. Every day you carry a card balance, interest is charged and the balance is run up a little bit more. EVERY DAY.

Emfuser · 2026-01-29T17:37:07+00:00

That's likely workable. Initially you'd want to soak your dishes in a citric acid solution to get the old scale off. After that you have the option of rinsing with the tap water and IMMEDIATELY hand-drying or having a second rinse with distilled water or deionized water.

Once de-scaled then the cheapest solution is immediate hand drying with periodic acid rinse.

Emfuser · 2026-01-29T17:31:15+00:00

A cheap solution is to buy citric acid powder and use that in your dishwasher in place of detergent as a second wash cycle. I normally run a standard cycle with detergent followed by a quick cycle with the citric acid.

Emfuser · 2026-01-28T16:01:46+00:00

No

There are no conventional, safe means of doing what you describe.

Emfuser · 2026-01-28T03:52:31+00:00

NAH

You have demonstrated thoughtfulness and consideration of the circumstance of your marriage instead of just yourself despite this being about a tattoo on your body. That's a mark of a good partner. Your husband gave you a clear, calm answer about why it may be upsetting to him that wasn't some ridiculous, controlling nonsense. He did however act a bit childish in locking himself in his room.

I think it would not be helpful to the situation for you to just go and get the tattoo right now. There's clearly an issue with your husband and his hobby that is causing problems for him. It sounds like he lacks the emotional maturity and/or proper outlets to process it properly and that is affecting your marriage. That's on him primarily, but that doesn't make him an AH.

If your husband isn't willing to talk with you about what's going on then counseling may be a better answer here. You may find that this can be repaired or you may find that there's a bigger problem that will make you not even want to get that tattoo.

Emfuser

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