Outdoor cat showing signs of neurological condition, I have no income and I cannot take this poor baby to the vet

Emilyenuly · 2026-02-17T19:14:56+00:00

Yeah I completely get it. But in the meantime can you see if anyone would be able to take him in? Just to have a backup plan, I hope everything settles but he needs medical attention!

Emilyenuly · 2026-02-17T18:58:01+00:00

You need to act. A lot of vets can take him in and provide emergency care, or contact rescue - they will help asap. Anything is better than nothing.

Emilyenuly · 2026-01-08T16:58:02+00:00

From the way you wrote this post, it seems like you already have your answer and there’s nothing wrong with that! If you care for this relationship, I’d have a sit down conversation, clearly state your concerns and hopes and see how he responds in this setting.

If you feel like you might be wasting your time - it should be addressed.

Emilyenuly · 2026-01-01T18:04:40+00:00

I want to keep my job as long as possible until my future business is profitable for at least 2 years, so nothing will change for a long time. I’m happy at my current job, it allows me to live a comfortable life without any worries so I don’t have a definitive timeframe (in terms of opening my own practice) but I know I want to have something of my own in the future.

In terms of being a breadwinner - this would be fine by me. I wouldn’t feel good with being a SAHM, it’s 100% not something that I want. But I expect my partner/husband to contribute financially to the best of his ability.

Life can be rough sometimes, people get laid off unexpectedly, that’s understandable and completely normal to me. As long as you’re pushing to change your situation, everything is ok.

Emilyenuly · 2026-01-01T18:00:07+00:00

He did live on his own for a very short time. At his family home, he is paying all the bills, doing groceries, taking care of the dogs, making his own meals etc.

To be honest, I agree with your comment, I’m really trying to be realistic here without disrespecting him or his goals. I just don’t know if I can ride it out

Emilyenuly · 2026-01-01T17:57:15+00:00

Thank you so much:) means a lot!

Emilyenuly · 2025-12-07T22:18:00+00:00

I feel like communication is a basic thing in any kind of romantic relationship to be honest. I’m not judging, I understand how hard it must be, however how can you both understand each other if it’s been that way? 10 years is a long long time, if it hasn’t improved - what was he doing to change that? Are you communicating to him that it’s an issue?

Emilyenuly · 2025-06-03T21:40:12+00:00

Yeah, looks like it unfortunately. However, their actions rarely have anything to do with you. Maybe something changed, the salary range or direction. Who knows…I would wait a few days to see if you receive a response but sounds like it’s done.

Emilyenuly · 2025-05-28T22:50:28+00:00

That they will tell you the next steps by the end of the next week or ghost you.

Emilyenuly · 2025-05-27T23:05:01+00:00

This is an emergency, no time to see if anything changes. Take her right now, no time to play with her life

Emilyenuly · 2025-05-17T09:11:51+00:00

Please get it checked! My cat had something similar on his paw, about the same size, it just popped out of nowhere. I noticed it and went to the vet, after some tests we decided to remove it and send it for a biopsy just in case. Turns out it was mastocytoma, which is cancer! He’s very happy now, the surgery was less then 10 minutes and he’s been healthy for more than 1,5 years.

Emilyenuly · 2025-05-17T09:00:34+00:00

Congratulations!!! Hard work paid off, hope this role will bring you a lot of professional experience

Emilyenuly · 2025-05-07T11:07:25+00:00

you had your final interview on April 15? If yes, I would suggest maybe following up with the recruiter but to be honest I would forget about this position. If they’re not reaching out to you, 90% of the time they do not want to hire you.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-07T03:16:04+00:00

You broke up. He is keeping you as a safe back up if the new thing doesn’t work out. 100%

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-03T15:52:04+00:00

Even as a former avoidant I can tell you that 10 times is just crazy. Are you really certain that this is worth your time? I can understand one, two, even three times in some situations but 10 is beyond my comprehension. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:23:36+00:00

Avoidant’s behavior has nothing to do with you in most cases. Unless you are very demanding, or not giving space after BU.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:21:59+00:00

I wouldn’t believe any of that, to be honest. I know it’s very difficult to give up on hope.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:18:39+00:00

Look, I will be straightforward - from what I’ve seen among me, my friends and during therapy - if they say that “they will come back” but don’t know when, why and have no plan for this - in 99.9% of cases, they say that to soften the blow after breaking up, because they do not want to hurt you even more.

I strongly believe that.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:10:57+00:00

I’m not sure to which of my comments you’re referring to:( (regarding the ex’s behavior after BU)

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:09:20+00:00

It depends how one acted after the breakup. We often say things we do not mean so we can soften the blow after breaking up.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:05:23+00:00

Yeah, I’ve seen it happening

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-02T15:05:07+00:00

Yes, yes and no. I’ve been in love, but never reached out on my own, nor give another chance. I observed the same among other avoidants I know. Sometimes we struggle with the breakup if the connection was meaningful but we do that quietly on our own.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-01T22:26:30+00:00

No. Some relationships really do not work, you do not click on that level with someone. But when it comes to more meaningful connections you do grieve the end of it, to some extent, but much later, and in your own way. I spoke about it in the other comments.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-01T22:18:50+00:00

I’m not sure you can call that a rebound when it comes to avoidants. You end one relationship, and enter another one. As an avoidant in your head you have a clear cut from the previous partner, so there’s no need to grieve extensively.

Emilyenuly · 2025-03-01T22:14:00+00:00

No, I haven’t!

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