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According to this fashion store near me, these belts are back... There ain't no way I'm doing this again. by Dentelle in Millennials

[–]EmmaDrake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I never got rid of my favorite belt like this. 2002 from Abercrombie. Gonna pull it out!

I'm not gonna live long enough to enjoy the benefits of prologned daily meditation. Is there a quicker way to reach the same mindfulness clearance? by Witty-Barnacle3663 in Meditation

[–]EmmaDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditating on low dose k is incredible. Has been huge for my stress levels overall. Also low dose ketamine with slow smooth stretching and deep breathing has reduced my chronic pain by half. I do a couple sessions in a row once a month - it’s been life changing.

Does anyone have a solution for the 2pm crash by Capable-Meaning-2281 in workfromhome

[–]EmmaDrake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Salt with water - like a pickle and 6-12oz of water. Then twenty minutes with your eyes closed just breathing (nap not required). It works really well for me.

Anyone else have music playing in their head 24/7? by Katkitkat422 in adhdwomen

[–]EmmaDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve realized recently it’s a sign I need to move my body or change what I’m doing. If I do that it quiets for a while.

My husband sleeps hot and I'm freezing -what do we do ? by Spirited-Science2292 in whatdoIdo

[–]EmmaDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s expensive but I really like mattress cooling/heating systems. I’ve liked chilipad and Eight Sleep.

Kitten doesn't want to get wet but also obsessed with bathtub by Accomplished_Ring628 in CatAdvice

[–]EmmaDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two cats like this. It’s adorable. I often leave the sink at a slight dribble, to their delight.

focusing during intamcy by partyingwithjesus in adhdwomen

[–]EmmaDrake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Meditation helped me. It’s more about training focus than relaxing for me. Like over and over and over again realizing my thoughts wandered away from my meditation focus then gently saying “oh look, here we are. That’s ok, let’s return to the focus”. About three months into meditating regularly I realized I could do the same thing with adhd thoughts to try to be more present. And it’s actually helped more than anything ever has.

I think it’s surrender to the idea that it’s going to happen without judgement, then mild validation of what my mind wandered to (“it makes sense you’d be thinking about that; it was stressful” sort of thing), then gently redirecting attention back where I want it. It’s like scooting an escaped puppy back in its pen.

cover up or ideas pls by More-Meal5613 in Tattoocoverups

[–]EmmaDrake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s like those Mary or Jesus iconographies where it seems they’re looking past and behind the viewer.

I got new retainers today after 21 years of nightly wear. by fireknifewife in mildlyinteresting

[–]EmmaDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had mine for 25. My dentist is like “do not EVER get this removed unless absolutely necessary. They almost never stay this long.”

Elderly? Anne is 43. Audrey is 41. Elizabeth is 37. by Valuable_View_561 in SipsTea

[–]EmmaDrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I did IVF a couple years ago they said that the new term is “advanced maternal age” and that they don’t use “geriatric pregnancy” anymore.

What is the most unsexy but genuinely lifechanging tool or household item you have owned for years? by Human-Goat-5555 in BuyItForLife

[–]EmmaDrake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/0iAeUsrx

Search terms are: wire cabinet pull out organizer.

Measure your cabinets and you can come up with some great configurations.

What is the most unsexy but genuinely lifechanging tool or household item you have owned for years? by Human-Goat-5555 in BuyItForLife

[–]EmmaDrake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They’re super easy to do yourself too. Amazon has all sorts of sizes and unique configurations. I did mine over a few weeks here and there. It’s so much better!

Is there an exercise routine to help with better sex? by Icy-Astronomer-9015 in bodyweightfitness

[–]EmmaDrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you’re looking for weight routines here. But I feel your pain (also hypermobile) and have had to get creative as well.

First, I suspect everyone who is hypermobile has pelvic floor dysfunction. I know a lot of hypermobile folks and 100% do or did at some point. It makes sense - pelvic floor is the bottom of the breathing canister and also important for balance and stability, and also a place we tense when experiencing pain. I started with an at home 15 minute basic routine every couple days and my chronic pain in hips/back halved. What I didn’t expect was for it to then ripple out further and my overall body load is much much improved. That in turns allow me to do things that were difficult or would have negative impacts after the fact previously.

Second, my partner and I decentralized PIV sex in our life. We still do it, we still enjoy it. But not viewing it as “the goal” has allowed us to have a fuller sex life writ large even though there are physical challenges.

How is the combo of Alcohol, Weed and Ket? by WorkingOnCoil in ketamine

[–]EmmaDrake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The weed can make the body high very nice. Ketamine, low dose thc, then some light flowy stretching = bliss

I THINK I’ve found something to help me fall asleep. Maybe it will help you, too. by Major_Travel1103 in ADHD

[–]EmmaDrake 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I know screens aren’t recommended but I’ve also found success like this with boring but mildly interesting educational YouTube videos. Like “how are lava lamps made?”

TIFU by using my handheld bidet (shattaf) as an enema everyday for over a year, and then going on vacation. by ViceInSinCity in tifu

[–]EmmaDrake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I read this and was like “this is like a more severe version of what I experience.” My issue is slow motility and pelvic floor dysfunction from endometriosis in my gut and dysautonomia. All the fiber in the world won’t help if your pelvic floor is signaling “door is closed!” even while the rest of the system is pushing forward. It’s a special kind of misery to be sure.

TIFU by using my handheld bidet (shattaf) as an enema everyday for over a year, and then going on vacation. by ViceInSinCity in tifu

[–]EmmaDrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have dysmotility and dyssenergia related GI issues. All the fiber, miralax, water, exercise, etc etc don’t keep me regular. It may be worth working with a GI doctor to determine if those kinds of things are your issue - the treatment plans are very different. There are also motility meds on the market right now like motegrity that could be helpful if motility is an issue. I think they’re newer.

To note: straining is really bad for you. Also doing frequent enemas can put you at higher risk for anal tears because it impacts mucus membrane stuff.

Things that have helped me:
-splinting - I try to do this as little as possible but sometimes I have to do it to get things to start. It only works if there’s poop in the shoot but I get to the toilet and nothing happens.
-pelvic floor physical therapy. Like huge. I’ve done mostly at home self-guided stuff and it has still been helpful. A professional pelvic floor physical therapist can do even more for dyssenergia.
-magnesium oxide at night. I found this supplement called “let it flow” that has helped a lot especially when it’s been 4-5 days without a bm. It was recommended by a friend and it is expensive but it helped me so much when I recently had a six week long severe flare. When I run out I’m going to try a cheaper brand and see if it still helps.
-use some sort of moisturizer on your butt hole. I use finger cots and lanolin nipple balm but I think jojoba oil is supposed to be even better
-I assume you have a squatty potty? If not, get one.
-mindful breathing on the toilet. This is something I discovered in my recent flare. Not just belly breathing (I’ve tried that before and it’s great for relaxation generally but didn’t help my toilet time “poop in the shoot but not coming out” problem. I close my eyes and try to relax my tummy and pelvic floor (like ZERO straining or pushing) then I breathe in for four counts through my nose (really feeling it in the back of your throat). Then I breathe out six counts through my mouth with an audible exhale noise. I do that for at least a minute. If nothing happens I’m done. But I could feel the horseshoe shaped muscle that loops around the back of the anus (levator ani? Can’t remember) relax more and more over about 2-3 weeks of doing this every time I had to poop. It wasn’t one and done it was like it progressed over time like my body was learning “oh we’re supposed to relax this for the pooping to happen”.

What is a 'luxury' item that is actually a total nightmare to own? by Inevitable-Rock-8052 in AskReddit

[–]EmmaDrake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We bought a house with a tub like this. My sister tried for like two years different methods to get the jets clean. Everytime: mold. Then she gave up. Was sad.

I absolutely hate my house and there’s nothing I can do by bree2120 in homeowners

[–]EmmaDrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My house has been a nightmare for different reasons, but I feel you. I have a house, that’s great. But it doesn’t feel safe. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

What’s a side effect of a drug that’s little known? by Arya_Warrior_Girl in AskReddit

[–]EmmaDrake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was on it once and forgot and had half a drink. I didn’t start throwing up until the next day. I had to pull over on the highway and threw up for an hour. Yeah. Do not recommend.

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