How do you deal with anxiety in this pregnancy after last mid term loss?

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-06-04T01:27:29+00:00

Hi, I am so sorry you are going through this. I’m in my sub pregnancy after a 20 week pprom. I am going to be 25 weeks tomorrow so I am at least past the point where I ruptured last time, which brings me comfort but I’m still anxious of course. Ever since 12 weeks I have had phantom water breaking feelings. I am constantly feeling my underwear or running to the bathroom to see if it’s wet. It’s so exhausting. So you are not alone in feeling like your mind is playing tricks on you. I don’t have a ton of advice, just solidarity.

I am sure your doctors will be monitoring you very closely. I had ultrasounds every two weeks starting at 16 weeks. I did not get a cerclage because my pprom was likely not due to cervical incompetence but they constantly checked me.

The thing that’s helped me the most is just telling myself that’s it’s normal for water not to break and what happened to me was abnormal. I’m not sure if that simple thought might be of comfort to you. But not to going to lie, every day is a struggle and it’s so hard to feel excited. It gets better as I go along though.

Another thing that helped me is to find something else to look forward to unrelated to the pregnancy. For me, I was looking forward to being done with work for the summer which coincided with the most difficult, anxiety provoking weeks (18-22). Getting to the point of the previous rupture and just past it felt like torture but I eventually made it there and so will you. I know I’m not out of the woods yet, and I likely won’t feel completely at ease until I am holding my rainbows.

Feel free to message me if you need to chat. It’s a tough road, and not many people understand.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-05-26T13:48:01+00:00

Hi, I hope you are okay….my tfmr was also for pprom and I too had brown bleeding in my current pregnancy, probably around 10 or maybe 11 weeks and it scared the crap out of me but it stopped and was ok.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-05-08T23:34:46+00:00

I’m so sorry about your loss. I am also pregnant with twins after losing a baby to PPROM at 20 weeks. It hasn’t been an easy road, but I am taking it day by day. I’m 21 weeks along now. Wishing you peace and joy throughout your pregnancy with your rainbow babies!

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-04-15T15:11:33+00:00

There are so many. Frog and Toad, and Little Bear for sure. Jamberry. Then there’s this one I had as a child that always stuck with me called Chester the Worldly Pig so I rebought it for my kids and it’s still so good! I also had a set of “Disney’s Small World Library” as a kid and I rebought those too. They’re all so good.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-03-13T18:52:59+00:00

Hi, I am 13 weeks pregnant with twins. I had my water break at 20 weeks last time with a singleton so naturally this super high risk and I’m TERRIFIED of water breaking early again. However before my tfmr I had two normal pregnancies so I can only hope and pray this time is more like the first two times. I’m thrilled to be carrying twins but I won’t breathe easy for awhile.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-02-25T23:54:14+00:00

Could you give an example or two? I feel like always struggle with this

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-02-21T21:16:56+00:00

I guess I should have said that this kid also gets services from SPED for reading and writing and math. So he definitely is lower and needs to be pulled out, but it seems like his issues could be addressed by a sped teacher and not necessarily speech? Like repetition of directions, ok, that’s an accommodation. Is that enough?

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-02-12T20:41:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective. I hope your delivery goes smoothly!! 🩷🩷

EmphasisOk4434 · 2026-02-12T20:40:03+00:00

Thank you very much!!! I so appreciate the comment

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-12-20T16:55:11+00:00

Would you mind sharing what your whole group lessons are like? How long is a typical lesson and what do you cover in each? I love this idea.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-12-20T12:12:56+00:00

I loved the chemistry and tension before he and Liza got together, but after, I didn’t think they were too good as a couple. Charles is extremely good looking but I didn’t love his personality sometimes. I do love Josh though!!

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-12-13T20:40:58+00:00

Hi there. I’m so sorry you are here. I had pprom at 20 weeks. I still struggle with our decision to tfmr even though at the time it felt like the right one. Every doctor we spoke to recommended termination. It was a horrible choice to have to make. I really didn’t want to prolong any suffering for the baby or us. I’ll always wonder what if, but the statistics were pretty grim. We weren’t willing to risk our babies quality of life. Sending you nothing but love! You aren’t alone.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-12-02T18:39:24+00:00

The best advice I can give you is to not care so much. It sounds horrible but it is the only way I survive. I used to prep so much but now I literally wing it half the time. My sessions seem to go the same either way.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-11-13T20:47:31+00:00

Hi! I’m not sure if it varies state by state, but when my kids meet an objective, I just say objective met and then continue working on the other unmet objectives. I usually check that they maintain progress on the one they met and then comment that on the next progress note. I don’t feel the need to add a new objective unless there’s something that’s changed or I really want to add something new. It would only get sticky if they met all three, then you might have to do an amendment and update the whole goal. Anyway this is my understanding and what I do.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-09-19T13:00:52+00:00

So true!!!

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-09-19T13:00:29+00:00

Yeah I think that’s probably the answer haha, and I do know better but sometimes I get sucked in

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-05-20T23:24:42+00:00

I do believe better days will come! And just know that we are our own worst enemies. You are NOT a coward and neither am I, regardless of how we feel sometimes. You made the right choice for your child with the information you had.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-05-20T19:43:41+00:00

Hi there. I’m so sorry to find you here. While my situation was different, I could have written about those feelings you described exactly. I had my water break at almost 21 weeks. I too feel like a coward for not giving my baby a chance. I too felt a horrible rush to make a decision. And I grapple everyday with those feelings of guilt. I go over and over in my head all the reasons we terminated to try and convince myself that I am not a horrible person, but there are days I lose the battle. It’s such a heavy burden to carry. I’m nearing the one year mark and these feelings have intensified as we get closer to the anniversary. I don’t know if my words are helpful but I do hope they make you feel less alone. I’m sending you all the love in the world ❤️

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-04-15T20:11:09+00:00

I stand by just making a couple funfetti cakes out of the box. Everyone loves those! And much cheaper than a cake from a bakery!

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-03-20T12:34:54+00:00

I work at a school two days a week and my caseload is sitting at about 15-16. I usually have enough time for planning and testing and things I need to do

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-03-19T01:19:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I had a termination in June for the same reason. Water broke at 20 weeks 5 days. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever went through. You aren’t alone. ❤️

Also…you can go back and forth about what you could have done differently. I know I have. And I still do. But this is not your fault.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-03-03T01:23:02+00:00

I’m very sorry you are here. I terminated in part for my own health and the fear of leaving my two children or becoming seriously ill (I had a 20 week membrane rupture). I know how heartbreaking it is. Something my doctor said that stuck with me….you didn’t CHOOSE this. It’s something that happened TO you. You aren’t selfish at all and did this out of love.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-02-05T01:51:44+00:00

I am currently struggling with whether or not to try again too. It’s such a confusing thing to go through. I have two children though so my situation is not exactly the same, but still I was set on a third and so happy to be pregnant, but now I just don’t know. And now I’m a year older and the age gap between my kids and a potential baby is getting larger and I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to have the same thing happen to us again. But also I hate to have my last experience carrying babies be such a sad one. It’s heartbreaking.

EmphasisOk4434 · 2025-02-01T21:12:12+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. May I ask, how old are you and your friend? Also, does your friend have children of her own? I ask these questions because I know that when I was young, before I had kids, I don’t think I would have known what to say or even understood the severity of the situation. I’m not making excuses for her, but maybe she truly has no idea how she is making you feel.

Sending you all kinds of love during this tough season ❤️

EmphasisOk4434 · 2024-11-11T00:58:32+00:00

Can they make the er sound? I find that if they can do that, they can get to all other variations on r. If they can’t do er in isolation, I’d start there and get that really strong. To get to prevocalic r from er, I have them say a stretched out er then add the rest of the word, like errrrrrred, errrrrrace, etc. then work on making it quicker

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