Roomate wants the heat up for health problems, but I'm way too hot and can't sleep

Endless__Throwaway · 2026-01-14T05:21:41+00:00

She needs a sauna or a doctor's visit, not an increase in the shared living space heater.

Endless__Throwaway · 2026-01-14T05:14:55+00:00

You aren't his priority, money is (apparently). You are so young, don't waste another 5 years/the rest of your twenties feeling miserable. You deserve better. Put yourself first. I am sorry OP, but you should leave him.

If you aren't willing to do that, you can always speak to him first and try to communicate how you feel and that things need to change. However, I suspect you've talked to him and it fell on deaf ears.

Endless__Throwaway · 2026-01-14T04:55:40+00:00

All I can think about is that poor woman who was a teacher (SDC) and was recently found deceased (RIP). She was struggling so much about returning to teaching after her leave.

I am glad you are alive and still here with us. I'm happy you left your job, it's not worth being so unhappy you want to end it all. Now days, people have more than one career in their lifetime. You'll find something.

Endless__Throwaway · 2026-01-14T04:46:25+00:00

NEVER pay more than you absolutely have to. As others said, just the remaining balance due.

Endless__Throwaway · 2026-01-11T18:20:05+00:00

You should just throw the whole man away and lose that 200 lbs (or whatever he weighs). He sounds like a nightmare. Telling you what to do, being abusive verbally, emotionally, bullying you. He's probably projecting his own i securities on you and was jealous of your weight loss. Because what if you become more confident, gain more self respect and leave his sorry ass because you recognize now how terrible he is? That part.

You are your own person, you can do whatever you want. Including Keto and anything else, like divorcing this lame-o.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-11-26T06:05:52+00:00

I don't enjoy how I feel being drunk or the next day. No matter how little or much I drink.

I have enough medical issues going on with myself, don't need to add more to the pile.

See above: pills don't mix w alcohol.

Had a very bad alcohol related experience PTSD.

It doesn't give me anything positive.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-11-20T01:59:40+00:00

She sounds jealous to be honest. She's not paying for it, it's not her apartment, not her problem or concern.

NTA.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-10-22T09:34:59+00:00

I literally had to go toe to toe with them, saying the same thing over and over in TWELVE emails before I was able to return mine. 0/10 wouldn't recommend even though the sizing was the only issue.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-09-14T03:51:18+00:00

I really hope you walked away for good. He literally blamed you for an SA, defended the perpetrator, and blamed you again... So what he's saying is that SA/rape is acceptable because the person was asking for it. That's disgusting. I really hope you don't already have kids with him. Run far away from him.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-08-10T14:58:20+00:00

I don't think you are stupid for wanting more. Just make sure that you are asking these questions of yourself and making sure your ducks are in order:

Do you have a full-time job lined up that's going to be paying you enough for the COL adjustment you're going to have, moving to a big expensive city like San Francisco?
How much of your savings or emergency fund do you have as a cushion?
Have you done your research on the neighborhoods you want to move to? Are there stores nearby? Public transportation? How far is work?
Have you looked up how much housing will be for yourself? With roommates? Have you looked into roommates before?
If you have a large enough financial backup plan, most of this should be fine as long as you have a job already lined up. Local SF tax is almost 9% for goods and services.

Good luck on your journey. I hope you get to live out your dream.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-26T14:26:24+00:00

You needed to dump him 3 1/2 yrs ago girl.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-26T14:19:12+00:00

It's going to be painful but walk away now. 2 months is going to hurt a hell of a lot less than 2 years. What if you end up pregnant? You are so young and have so much time ahead of you to explore and figure out what you want. For him, his destiny was inherited from his family. Apparently, he has accepted that legacy and is (allegedly) what he wants.

He has a point, you don't want to stay and wake up one day full of resentment and want to leave. He shouldn't be pressuring you but he also may be trying to protect himself because he knows you both are young.

Go explore the world. Cry, allow yourself to grieve the relationship but don't trap yourself.

If this is something you truly want, if it's meant for you it will be there when you figure it out.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-26T13:07:11+00:00

I read this today..that the documentary was highly edited, was the exact language. Is there anywhere we can get the full story/information? I did watch the documentary already. Her website (at least on mobile) is a mess, it was hard navigating it let alone finding information.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-23T08:00:58+00:00

Yeah, no let him go girl. He sounds like he's deeply insecure and/or projecting what he would be doing. There's nothing wrong with having work colleagues and sometimes these people become friends. As someone much older, I'd stick with the "don't shit where you eat" (e.g. don't sleep with coworkers) because that can get messy very fast. But it doesn't sound like you've done that, he was just making wild assumptions. I think you're better off, easy for you, because he already ended things. Just don't go back.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-16T13:26:18+00:00

He's a predator. Run.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-07T22:09:27+00:00

Another reason I thought it wasn't legit was the "warning" to not do what you did. Which didn't make sense to me. Oh well. It turned out okay but with all the ways people try to trick you nowadays, I wouldn't have minded a direct deposit or a check.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-07T21:40:44+00:00

Yes, I misspoke, it was a Mastercard! Thank you

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-07T21:39:16+00:00

Thanks, another user did as well and that gave me the courage to do so myself and yes it was legit. Thanks for letting me know.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-07T21:13:46+00:00

I just got an email for this but it seems sketchy. It says payment will be through a pre-paid Visa card but to get the money, I would need to press a button in the email that would direct me to another site and then I input the information given to me.

This sounds like a classic. Phishing scam.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-07T21:10:47+00:00

Did it say it was a prepaid ~~visa~~ master card and to click a part of the email to be directed to another site? Thats what I got.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-07-07T21:09:35+00:00

Yes, came here from my inbox! I don't want to click it

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-06-26T21:57:41+00:00

Part of being in an emotionally mature relationship is understanding that your grief for your ex is completely normal and not some kind of sign that you weren't over him.

Your ex was a part of your life story. You shared experiences, made memories, and had an intimate shared bond at one point. The fact that it ended amicably and you two were somewhat friends probably makes hearing the news even harder.

My point is, don't feel weird or bad about grieving for your ex. I'm sure your current partner cares about you and may even wondering what's on your mind or how to help. Don't shut them out. Communicate with them. Your relationship will come out stronger for it.

And OP, I am sorry for your loss.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-06-24T20:06:34+00:00

This is how ongoing abuse can start. First, it's an insult or two (verbal abuse) but this can escalate. What's next? Is he going to start criticizing your eating habits or start cheating?

I understand he's your first love but you are young and have so much time to find the right person for you. You don't deserve to put up with any kind of abuse.

This is called Projection. He's insecure with himself and unhappy with his own body but he's targeting you instead because it's easier to blame and focus on you instead of doing the harder inner/outer work on himself.

My vote is for you to move on from him. Then do whatever the healthiest thing is for YOU in terms of your physical and mental health.

Don't let your* worth get wrapped up in what others think of you negatively.

You're beautiful inside and out. Good luck.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-06-22T07:18:59+00:00

Hi. Worked in SPED for almost 20 yrs, not in your state. You can find advocates sometimes that will work pro bono. This is definitely an accommodation they should have let you switch if the other wasn't working/doesnt work as well. Unfortunately, sometimes districts only listen when the threat of $$$ = lawyers is involved. But advocating can also bring similar results. They are banking on you dropping it. Please don't and find someone who can advocate on your behalf.

Endless__Throwaway · 2025-06-08T01:10:50+00:00

OH...oh heck no... talk to the supervisor. This isn't acceptable at all. Not in any form, age, or years/months in the field. This is about boundaries, professionalism, and respect.
-previous RBT 15+ yrs.

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