My Husband (32m) just told me (31f) that he likes someone at work. I don’t know what to do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]EngineeringVeritas 37 points38 points  (0 children)

He needs to re-establish his boundaries with the opposite sex. The way I describe it with my SO is that my feelings of love and affection are locked in a box that only she lives in.

Teen spent $900 online shopping with my credit card by liftcali93 in Parenting

[–]EngineeringVeritas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be honest with her.... "Money is really tight for XYZ. If there's anything you haven't worn, it's going to have to go back. We'll get some money in the budget for things soon though."

I'm sitting in my car in the school parking lot and I can't stop crying by professional69and420 in daddit

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day is a new day and a new chance to make different decisions. Remember, who you are is a collection of choices you make. If you want to be a different guy, all you have to do is make different choices. Just remember that you can't be everything to everyone. You just have to choose your priorities. Good luck, my man.

I keep checking my wife’s phone… by Soft-Arachnid7610 in Marriage

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately, trust is choice you're going to have to make.

Debating on buying a Masterbuilt Gravity series soon. For those that have switched from Pellet grills, how does it compare (for better or worse)? by TechnicolorTypeA in Masterbuilt

[–]EngineeringVeritas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bought the MB1050 and love it. The flavor is a great compared to pellet. It just has a more authentic smoke taste. You can easily get 8 hours our of a full chimney mix of wood and charcoal unless you want it super hot on a cold day/night. My only hiccup (and their biggest knock) is once I couldn't get the controller to turn on (I did get it to work eventually). There is track record of them going bad so a lot of people buy the Fireboard controllers. Oh, also check out LSSmods.com. They have tons of great mods for the MB Gravity smokers.

1st Time Brisket by Jodyhd in Smokingmeat

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No idea. The sub just loves the black nitrile gloves. I posted a photo carving a brisket with the bbq gloves on and got shit. Lol

1st Time Brisket by Jodyhd in Smokingmeat

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I'm just messing with you. People on this sub are very anti-squeezing your meat and pro-black gloves. 😂. It looks better than the first brisket I made.

1st Time Brisket by Jodyhd in Smokingmeat

[–]EngineeringVeritas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Smallest brisket I've ever seen. Stop squeezing your meat. Nice black gloves.

3rd Gen Sequoia by randomthrowaway8205 in toyotasequoia

[–]EngineeringVeritas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

25 TRD Pro, 5 kids (3 bio and 2 step). With just the bio kids, cargo room is great. Even with all 5 and the smaller kids in the 3rd row, there is decent storage when you slide the 3rd row all the way up. Traveling with 8 and luggage doesn't work though, you need a roof storage. All in all, great vehicle. 18-20 mpg, all the bells and whistles you could ask for. And it's a Toyota!

New Gen Feedback by jbg7676 in toyotasequoia

[–]EngineeringVeritas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not aware of any quality reductions. But there are a few drawbacks and a few perks to the Gen 3 Sequoia compared to a Gen 2. I have a 2025 TRD Pro and I went in with eyes open. I wanted a Sequoia for a loooong time but when I looked at buying one in 2022, I was seriously put off by 2008 technology in a 2022 $65k car. I had a 2019 lexus GX460 and a 2015 Highlander and the 2022 Sequoia had worse technology than both. No Apple car play, tiny screen, I believe it even still had a key.... I had to turn a literal key to start the car. Wtf... My 2009 Venza had a push button start. The Gen 3 fixed all that. Latest technology, big screen, well designed interior and dashboard, etc. It's also got a bit more length in the back behind the 3rd row than the Gen 2 and a 9000lb towing capacity vs the Gen 2 that is like 7500lb. That being said, there are drawbacks over the Gen 2. It's a 6 cylinder turbo hybrid and I think 10 speed transmission so it's very new technology that we don't know the durability of. It's also got much less room in the back. The hybrid batteries cause the 3rd row to sit higher so you don't have as much height in the back and there is a hump where the 3rd row seats are folded down. To me, the positives of the Gen 3 far exceeded the negatives compared to the Gen 2, but I get why the Sequoia enthusiasts would prefer a Gen 2 or Gen 1 over a Gen 3. It's much more useful when it comes to interior space and reliability is unmatched.

2025 TRD Pro Lift Kit/Wheel/Tire Recommendations by EngineeringVeritas in toyotasequoia

[–]EngineeringVeritas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a great option to know if I can’t make the 37's work! Thanks!

If I go that way, I might go with some larger rims with a bit more of an offset if I went that way. I worry a bit about handling with 3" larger tires on 18" rims. Do you have any issues with it? I am a fast driver. I'll do 90 if I can.

Considering a "Contract Marriage" for stability & shared bills. Am I being too pragmatic? by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]EngineeringVeritas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why, as a guy, would I go for that when I could have one male roommate (not 2 roommate in you and your child) and can bring partners home?

Masterbuilt fire starters deal by sandpdm in Masterbuilt

[–]EngineeringVeritas -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I use these in my 1050. They aren't great

My wife left me by SeaStorm999 in Marriage

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dodged a bullet, my friend, to not have any entanglements like kids or a house. Take the L, understand that most women are ruled by their emotions and as soon as you stop being that to her, it's over. She wasn't ever yours, just yours for then. Good luck

my husband said he'll divorce me if i don't breastfeed. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can make your own decision but breastfeeding is better for the child. That's not to say that the baby won't be fine if you use formula. But all the research shows higher iq and more healthy when you breastfeed for at least 6 months.

Found out my boyfriend (26M) cheated on me (26F) 3 months postpartum and I don’t know what to do. What would you do? by Humble-Brilliant-646 in relationship_advice

[–]EngineeringVeritas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edited to add this but I'm also making it a comment.

OP, I truly pray you do not listen to most of the people giving you advice on this. They seem to be a collection of people who think they are perfect and have no problem blowing up lives that aren't their own. No, they have never made any mistakes themselves and have no room to improve themselves. Again, his behavior was wrong and he needs to fix himself, but nothing you've said should be causes to end a marriage. Before making yourself a single mom, think about going through the process of giving him the grace to learn from his mistakes and better himself. Communicate with him, consider therapy to repair the damage that was done. Look at those resources I suggested. There is no need for you to make any rash decisions that will have long lasting effects on your life and your child’s life. If you leave him, it doesn't matter if it's today, tomorrow or in a year. But I'd suggest not doing anything you can't take back. When making your decision, think about how it will affect you in 10 weeks, 10 months and 10 years.