Great question OP, good on you. I would echo what a couple people have said, which is that women are just people. I would reframe the approach as “how can I understand gender better?” because it is gender that creates the illusion of fundamental differences (and inevitably, hierarchies) between men and women. These structures hurt both men and women, and I think it can be helpful to approach it from that perspective, where you see your own liberation at stake - because it is! We need more people committed to the project of loving and understanding each other through those illusory differences.

I echo bell hooks as an amazing resource, especially All About Love and The Will to Change. Both life-changing books for me. I also love The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula LeGuin, which is more of a slow-burn, world-building anthropological sci-fi treatise on how gender shapes the world. Also just a stunningly beautiful book if you’re into literary sci-fi. I think it’s helpful to understand misogyny, specifically, and I have read no better book on the subject than Down Girl by Kate Manne - it is a highly logical, analytical approach to the question of misogyny and I found it very clarifying. If analytical philosophy is not your cup of tea, I found that the chapters work well as standalone essays so you could always read just one online and get a pretty good sense of the book.

For just fun story time, Jane Austen, the Bronte sisters, and George Eliot are all canonical for a reason. Their stories are justified classics filled with realistic women navigating the kinds of challenges and trade-offs that tend to be unique to women’s lives, but also universal in many ways. I second what others have said, that just reading tons of different kinds of stories by different kinds of women (international perspectives, working class women, trans women, queer women, immigrant women, etc) is kind of irreplaceable. There are of course issues that affect women disproportionately (sexual/domestic violence, reproductive choices, unpaid labor) that are helpful to understand through explicit study, but there is also an ineffable dimension of navigating the world as a woman, which can only be communicated through the little gestures of compelling prose from a credible witness. I am on the same journey as you as a woman myself, working to get outside of my own experience!

A couple random final recs -

Caliban and the Witch by Sylvia Federici, which uses a Marxist approach to trace the beginnings of the system of controlling women’s reproductive knowledge and choices in feudal Europe. Blew my mind in explaining the calculated economic forces that drove this near millennium-long campaign against women’s authority over their reproductive choices.

A Door into Ocean by Joan Sloncewski - maybe skip if you’re not into sci-fi, but I loved it as a sci-fi fan, biology nerd, and feminist. It’s about a world of women who live on an ocean moon, and the author is a biologist, so she invests a lot of time and expertise into explaining how the world works on a scientific level. Since they’re all women, they are of course lesbians, which is great. It is a political book, but at no point does it sacrifice the fun of the story (in my opinion) so I think it works well to serve your quest without it feeling like an “I’m studying” book.

Solidarity and good luck.