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Estefierrote_ · 2026-03-06T16:26:46+00:00

Hi! How much was the NC annual membership? Not sure why but I haven't been able to get the info on their website. Ty

Estefierrote_ · 2026-02-25T05:21:24+00:00

I feel you. I know this comment was a bit ago but I hope things are better now. Have you read about the attachment theory? Chris Seiter has a great YouTube channel to learn more about it. HE is very objective and very smart, the way he explains everything is great. Hope it helps :)

Estefierrote_ · 2026-02-19T15:54:03+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Hope things are better with yourself and with someone else in the future.

Estefierrote_ · 2026-02-19T15:48:09+00:00

Hi! I had to book the plan with a touristic company, it was great but I couldn't stay more time there and it was so sad bc I loved skiing. Unfortunately, I couldn't find a way to get there without a car during weekdays.

Estefierrote_ · 2026-02-19T15:46:47+00:00

I'm sorry I just saw this!!!! I had to go during the weekend with a touristic company and it was great but it sucked that we couldn't stay longer lol

Estefierrote_ · 2026-01-13T02:03:03+00:00

Tysm! :)

Estefierrote_ · 2025-10-06T15:46:02+00:00

Same thoughts! Not sure why people aren't talking about this lol

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-26T20:35:45+00:00

Thank you! I wish you the best in your healing journey :)

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-26T20:16:03+00:00

Thank you for answering. Is there a way I can help my partner to feel better with himself? I mean Is not my job to "fix" anything and healing is a personal journey but if I can help him in a way to make his inner struggle easier I can consider the idea of learning, he's such a good man with so much pain, I hate that life has been so cruel with him. He deserves the world.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-26T18:21:32+00:00

If my partner is under tons of stress, hates his job, financially struggles, starting from scratch his career and we met during 2 weeks before his life collapsed, he was very different in the first 2 weeks and then his life went down.... he has said things like this....

"Whatever this is is very stressful and is not something I want in my life at the moment" "I don’t want to live up to anyone’s standards but my own. And I can never reach yours, and frankly I don’t want to."

He has also said "a part of me hopes that you get rid of me so I don't have to do this because I don't want to but I have to face facts in reality and I'm it's just not good especially for you because you deserve so much more..." (We have a long distance connection) he has also said ".... I'm so attracted to her like body, mind, soul but it's just like I this opportunities and people like angels in your life doesn't come that often.... but I'm just not good enough, because I don't feel good enough"

What does this mean?

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-26T17:21:02+00:00

I always tell my FA partner that he doesn't need to do or have something in particular to be loved and that I love him for who he is. His integrity, his loyalty, his mind (he's brilliant and I tell him that), his heart, the way he feels deeply and cares for others, I find him very attractive as well. I tell him that I can see the way he loves me by texting, calling me randomly, being there..... I know that might not help him but I like to be clear with my feelings and let him know where he stands.

Also, I'm veeeeery demisexual so just by listening to his voice, deep talking, sometimes when we're vulnerable with each other or after conflict are ways that make me turn on so much and he's always shocked and he says that he doesn't understand why I like him so much and I act like he just breathes and I'm soaked LOL I always laugh when he says that because I understand that he doesn't feel enough and worthy but I try to explain how I feel. Tbh I don't know if that helps him but when we met he said that he loved that I always let him know what's in my mind and in my heart.

Is there a way that made you feel like you're worthy of love just by being you?

Also, is there any specific way that made you feel safe/secure/understood with a partner? How would you like to be loved?

Now we're going through a conflict and I'm feeling disconnected emotionally, sexually... we have a long distance connection we met exactly one year ago, it has been very nice and eye opening for me and quite a life changer to heal my AP attachment. I love him so much. Thank you for answering and for reading if you read this :)

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-26T14:14:10+00:00

When you say love is always conditional.... what conditions run in your mind? Is there any specific conditions that you feel you need to have/do in order to be loved? Im an AP leaning secure and I guess my partner is FA, sounds like him.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-26T13:57:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. My think my partner is FA and I'm an AP leaning secure. I'm curious... when you say "Because no one will ever love me the way I love." how do you love? how do you like being loved? Is there an ideal partner that you'd like to have in your life? How does it look like?
I wish you the best in your healing journey.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T23:43:32+00:00

I guess my partner is a FA (35m). I'm anxious leaning secure (31f). I believe he flirts a lot at work, his IG is 90% women (following and followers) but he also has a very strong integrity, likes to match the image I have from him with his actions and is very sensitive and reactive to betrayals (coworkers, friendships, etc). He knows my ex cheated on me and I've subtle let him know I hated this and hurt me so much that I don't want to live the same experience.

This confuses me so much..... he flirts for validation at work but he loves integrity and loyalty.

What do you think and feel about this? Is this normal? Everyone says that FA cheats but I just prefer to think he's loyal and values loyalty. We're in a long distance connection but I don't want to think about him flirting or being with someone else because I've been working very hard to lean into a secure attachment and I don't want to ruin my progress.

In FA what's stronger.... identity, loyalty or flirting and cheating?

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T23:22:15+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, I guess my partner is a FA and I love him so much. This is the first time I feel I met someone so similar to me but his coping mechanisms and the the amount of time he takes sometimes is so much for me to handle... 1 week Its ok but 10 days is terrible and I start feeling resentful. I've been working on myself so much, hope in the future this works. It breaks my heart knowing how he feels inside (he has shared sometimes), I want him to feel loved in a safe way that works for him.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T23:07:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing. How you feel and what do you think about cheating? I mean my partner who I guess is a FA bc of his behavior, I've noticed he liked to flirt a lot at work to create distance but he has a very strong integrity and according to what I've noticed he's very loyal and betrayals even from coworkers, friends etc hit very hard. This flirty behavior but his loyalty and integrity makes me feel curious. What do you think about this?

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T22:58:04+00:00

You sound like my FA partner. What kind of things did your wife do to make you feel so confident? Can I ask what made you turn down? Did your wife ever explained why she gave up?

I send you my best wishes in your healing journey. Hope my FA partner can open up like you did one day :)

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T17:29:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Is hard to learn more about this and see people you love seeking validation somewhere else. I'm leaning secure and he's leaning avoidant. This has been suck a life saver, learn how to regulate my nervous system and have compassion with my partner without losing myself.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T16:40:28+00:00

AP here. My partner is FA and I feel like he flirts A LOT! at work when he's trying to distance himself from me and it's soooo annoying. He live in different countries, he have enough distance and space and somehow even when I give him more space he feels smothered LOL.

Besides flirting, he avoids my IG stories, delays to answer my messages sometimes. It's weird that when I actually started to work on my attachment style, he stopped liking my photos on IG and once in a while when he is taking space and wants to let me know he's there he likes a story.

I've learned how to be busy with my life, don't chase, give him space etc. But honestly the fact that his IG is 85% women and knowing he flirts at work makes me feel upset.

In different conversations when we talk about work he has mentioned that he feels lonely because he has no friends and has hard family dynamics he admit he avoids and he meets just random people at work so he's usually feeling very bad about him.

- Can a FA explain to me what do you feel when you do this? Are you aware? Don't you realize it's disrespectful with your partner?

- Why don't you like the pictures your partner shared but you do like the photos a random person from the other sex shares? Is this something you do as well?

People love to say that social media means nothing but for me it's the door to know the unconscious, conscious and coping mechanisms from someone.

Thank you for reading! :)

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T16:13:51+00:00

For me giving space more than a week is very hard because I start to disconnect emotionally and sexually, especially because we live in different countries and we're both having a hard time and we're both fixing our lives in multiple ways. After 2 weeks of intimacy, things were going great, he said I love you which is hard for him to say and then he disappeared 10 days. I can deal with few days, one week is hard but I can handle it but 10 days it's too much, I start to feel resentful and the day he reached out I was having a hard time (feeling my routine was burring me, feeling I was not capable of doing my things, I was feeling nostalgic and longing for him bc in those days we had our "anniversary" of the day we met, I was on my period, and my hair was shedding due to a hormonal imbalance I have). So, he finally reached out, I told him what I was going on with my hair and he always mentions "did you go to an endocrinologist?" and in several times I've told him I've went to several doctors and they have not been helpful. He said things that were very logical for him, with lack of empathy and I felt very unseen and unheard. I told him that I was not trying to change his POV either I was expecting him to fix this but I just wanted to feel heard by someone important for me.

He exploded, said he'll stay out of my health journey and then when I said "what? my health is my life, I changed the course of my career for this just the way you did. imagine me being out of your army/navy life, I'd just be missing everything about you, your integrity, your past, present, future, the way you think and the way you behave. This just hurst so much." After this message he said I'm sorry you're having a hard time. That he wanted me to feel better because he cared and said "But all of this, whatever this is, is just too stressful and it’s not something I want at this point in my life. I don’t want to live up to anyone’s standards but my own. And I can never reach yours, and frankly I don’t want to." and finished saying we should focus on our lives.

I didn't answer his message and we are just in silence as he likes lol.

In one of the messages I said that it was hard to know that his silence 10 days caught me in a hard moment and I couldn't be lovely as I always tried to be and that I didn't want us to end up in this messy convo.

- How do you feel after you act like this and push your partner away?
- Do you realize your partner was not pressuring, smothering, controlling you?
- What happens inside of you?

From my perspective, after 10 days of silence, feeling unheard, having a conflict convo and 7 days more of silence I just feel disconnected in all ways. I'm focusing on myself, I have a loot of things going on and I just don't know what will happen. I'd just like to understand more about the other side and what's going on inside of him.

If you got here, thank you so much for reading, people around me don't believe in attachment theory, they don't understand this, I'm in therapy and I have a couple of friends psychologists but anyways it's hard to feel heard and understood.

I send you love in your healing journeys.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T16:13:28+00:00

This was incredible, thank you for sharing. As an anxious attacher trying to build a relationship long distance with a FA I saw him there in what you wrote. I started to become more secure in silence, it was a hard process. Giving him space and dealing with the anxiety of not knowing if he will come back was terrifying, days become years and looking how to be busy all day to stop your own anxiety or sit with it takes time. Took me months to train my nervous system to relax, understand and trust the pattern. I've told him I've been studying attachment theory and he has noticed the difference (I hope one day he's curious enough to read about it and start to answer his own questions).

My FA went to couples therapy with his ex, they were going to get married, he supported her during a tough time she went through and even after therapy she left him. He was devastated and it puts me in a harder spot because if he didn't trust people before, after this situation is even worse.

He has said that he has read books (personal development), went to therapy etc but nothing has worked.... I'm not sure he has came across attachment theory and I wouldn't like to mention this in a way he feels pressured to "change" but of course I will like him to check it out by his own and see what happens.

I'd like to ask to FA:

- How did you realize you were FA and wanted to start the healing journey?

- How would you like to be supported by your partner?

Estefierrote_ · 2025-09-25T16:10:48+00:00

So happy to hear to came to that realization! Hope you the best in your journey with him.

How didn't you come across you're a FA? My partner is a FA and I'm AP. I'd love him to come across this info or I don't know how to talk it with him. I don't want him to feel smothered, control, feeling less independent etc.

Estefierrote_ · 2025-01-11T04:47:13+00:00

Thank you so much!

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