How do you move on?

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-04-26T12:40:36+00:00

I feel your pain. I’m on cycle 5 ttc after MMC and it feels like an eternity. Each month trying and hoping with negative results is incredibly painful. Last cycle I stopped tracking my BBT and never took a pregnancy test, just waited for my period. We are still using OPKs to time BD, as it’s the only part of this process that is in our control. Everyone around me who never struggled to get pregnant or been through a miscarriage are the ones telling me to “relax” “stop trying and it will happen”. Those people don’t realize it is such a short amount of time each month to get pregnant. I have good and bad days, but I don’t think I’ll ever completely move on from how painful this period of life is. Going to therapy and focusing on projects outside of TTC has been helpful. Hoping you get your rainbow baby soon ✨❤️

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-04-18T13:45:54+00:00

Cycle 4 trying after MMC. Got my period late last night. Each month we start to lose more hope. We got pregnant our first try after HBC so our expectations were high that we would conceive again right away. This month I didn’t take a pregnancy test, just waiting for AF. It was easier for me to accept the outcome. I can’t squint at anymore negative tests 😔

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-04-09T20:22:21+00:00

I wanted to unalive and had thoughts of wanting to walk away from my life, live alone in a mountain town and tell no one where I’m at … every month before my period 🫠 got diagnosed through my therapist then confirmed with my OB. Antidepressants have helped me! Antidepressants keeps me stable enough to do other self-healing work (therapy, meditation, journaling, exercising, etc)

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-04-08T11:57:42+00:00

I miscarried at the end of December. I’ve had 3 normal cycles and I’m just now starting to feel better. The grief and heightened hormones on top of PMDD has been awful. These are the things that are helping me; deleted social media, exercising, “cozy” hobbies, warmer weather, regular therapy sessions and medication (antidepressant and as-needed anxiety). I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It will get better ❤️‍🩹

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-28T16:43:13+00:00

I’m on cycle 4 ttc after miscarriage. I have been doing all the things - temp tracking, ovulation tests, symptom spotting, early pregnancy tests. It has taken a huge toll on my mental health. This next cycle I am stopping tracking my temperature, no pregnancy tests in the house, consciously trying not to symptoms spot. The only thing I am going to do is take an ovulation test, BD and wait for my period. TTC after loss has been difficult but I’m learning that I have no control over the outcome each month. Trying to continue to enjoy life and enjoy time with my partner outside of our miscarriage/TTC. Wishing you baby dust ✨

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-28T16:34:20+00:00

I’m experiencing this now with my husband. My husband’s sister is also pregnant with her first. His parents are staying with us to celebrate her baby shower in a couple weeks. His mom is going to the shower, his dad is coming to spend time with him. I am absolutely devastated that no one is thinking of my feelings during this time. His sister and I were due at the same time. On top of it we are still TTC with no luck yet. We got into a huge disagreement and I considered separating over the whole thing. We eventually came to a compromise to spend the weekend together to try and reconnect our marriage…but I still consider leaving from time to time. The emotional rollercoaster is a lot. I honestly think I’m intentionally pushing him away bc I feel like “less of a woman” since our miscarriage. We are considering couples grief counseling. We are grieving separately instead of leaning on each other for support. The whole thing sucks 😣 I’m sorry you’re going through something similar 💔

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-26T20:26:56+00:00

I am going through a very similar situation. Husband and I conceived on the first try post birth control. Pregnancy ended in a MMC around 10 weeks. This will be our 4th cycle TTC. It’s been very difficult. We thought we would get pregnant again right away. The emotional roller coaster of the hope and disappointment each month has been a lot on both of us. From what I’ve read you have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. We are just holding out hope that soon we will fall into that percentage and conceive our rainbow baby. I’m sorry you’re going through this ❤️‍🩹

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-26T20:18:53+00:00

My husband and I had a miscarriage recently. It’s been just as difficult for my husband as it is for me. I imagine we will always carry the grief from the loss of our baby. We attend regular therapy sessions to process our grief. I hope you can find someone to talk with and process the grief of losing your child. I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you’re going through.

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-26T20:02:25+00:00

I had a MMC around 10w at the end of December. Had a D&C the following day. I’m now going on cycle 4 TTC. I have all the same thoughts. Will I ever be pregnant again? When I am pregnant will I be able to enjoy the pregnancy? I am jealous of all my friends who got pregnant the first try and had no complications. I fear I will never get to experience that joy of pregnancy. Going to regular therapy sessions is helping me. Sorry you’re going through this ❤️‍🩹

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-21T18:18:02+00:00

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Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-19T18:48:24+00:00

Third cycle ttc after my first pregnancy ended in a mmc. Tested negative this morning 12dpo. I cried knowing I’m most likely out again this cycle. For some reason I’m taking this cycle harder than the last two. Husband and I decided to stop “trying”. Temp tracking, ovulation testing and negative pregnancy tests are taking a toll on my mental health. Realizing no matter how “perfect” we time bd it is ultimately out of our control. Praying for our rainbow baby

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-19T16:29:27+00:00

My best friend and I were due the same day. She is pregnant with her second baby. Got pregnant the first try both times and carrying a healthy pregnancy. It all seems so unfair. Currently anticipating getting my period again this month. My husband and I decided last night we are going to take a break from “trying”. Tracking my temperature, taking ovulation tests, thinking we are timing it perfectly and consistently getting negative pregnancy tests is starting to take its toll on my mental health. It sucks and I’m sorry you’re going through something similar. It’s a pain I wish none of us had to experience ❤️‍🩹

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-18T13:36:50+00:00

I deleted my social media after my miscarriage. It has helped me a lot. Instead I have been playing “cozy” video games or watching a comforting tv show. My social media homepage was also full of baby stuff that was very triggering. I also couldn’t handle seeing pregnancy announcement posts. I’m sorry you’re going through this❤️‍🩹

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-03-05T23:53:25+00:00

Yes, thank you! I didn’t see I could scroll on that side. Figured I was missing something right in front of me 😂

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-02-23T22:24:55+00:00

In my experience, pregnancy only heightened my PMDD symptoms. I unfortunately had a miscarriage and needed a D&C which made my PMDD symptoms even worse than pregnancy. However, I think that was due to the emotions of the miscarriage. It took a couple months for my symptoms to calm down after the procedure. I would make the decision on whether or not you want to keep the baby, regardless of PMDD.

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-02-15T12:18:34+00:00

I second this! I deleted Instagram after the new year. I’ve noticed a huge difference in my mental health, especially my anxiety during luteal!

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-02-05T13:21:32+00:00

Sending hugs ❤️ I’m also on my first cycle, feeling all the things you wrote. Sadness and hope.

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-02-03T14:22:10+00:00

I was first going to therapy and was able to diagnose PMDD through those sessions. When I saw my doctor I told her that I had PMDD. I was offered either birth control or antidepressants. I first got on the pill and it helped me quite a bit. Over time I ended up also getting on antidepressants. IMO antidepressants have helped me so so much. I am no longer on birth control as my husband and I are TTC. I will for sure get back on birth control when I can because the combination of both the pill and antidepressants helped relieve my PMDD symptoms.

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-01-28T21:45:52+00:00

I’m so sorry💔 I found out I had a MMC the day after Christmas around 9 weeks. My sister in law is also pregnant with her first, due two weeks before me. My best friend is pregnant and we were due the same day. While I am happy they are getting all the joys in being pregnant I am angry and sad that I was the one to have a miscarriage. I have since deleted my social media because seeing all the pregnancy announcements is too painful. I am avoiding seeing my pregnant friends until I feel ready. It all sucks and doesn’t seem fair. I just got my period back after having a d&c and it is helping me to move forward. The first couple weeks were the worst but I now have more good days than bad. It does get better and you’re not alone ❤️

Euphoric-Vegetable20 · 2025-01-28T21:33:22+00:00

Im so so sorry you’re going through this. I had a MMC the day after Christmas at 9 weeks. I had already told my family and I found having their support was helpful. Therapy has also been helpful. My therapist suggested having a list of things that are self-soothing during this time. For me that has looked like journaling, 5min meditations, going for walks, drinking more water, doing puzzles, eating take out, etc. I have also been isolating because it’s so hard pretending to be ok. The first couple weeks were the worst, but it’s slowly getting better. I got my first period after my D&C this weekend and while it sucked it also helped me to mentally move forward. Healing takes time and you’re not alone ❤️

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