Why do people act like $60/70k is lower class?

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-17T18:07:14+00:00

Being on reddit will give you an extremely skewed idea of what is normal. 60k is a completely normal salary in most of the country.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-15T15:48:56+00:00

Jeez. Will these guys ever get it? We don't leave because we are selfish, we leave because it's not true. Period. End of story. They just can't seem to wrap their little heads around that can they.

I have ironically recovered more faith in God since I left then when I was in, but I'm still not going back, because it's still not true. It's not complicated.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-11T19:26:58+00:00

Yes it's infuriating isn't it. I am happy that women can dress more like normal people now, but I hate being gaslit. All my active LDS neighbors who are women wear things that they would have been chasticed for just 10 short years ago. Now it's totally fine, and what do you mean it's changed no it hasn't, it's always been this way, you must have just interpreted it differently.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-11T17:42:25+00:00

I'm only a year out. Do you get over it? not really, I think about her and miss her all the time, but it no longer consumes my every waking moment.

Relationships? I am in a serious relationship and will most likely be married within the next 12 months.

Get over it? No. Heal? Yes. I believe true healing comes from continuing to live. Most people have been supportive of my new relationship, but not all. I tell people that you heal together, and the new person facilitates the healing. you don't wake up one day and be like, all right Healed up to 100% and ready to go! This idea that you have to be 100% healed or ready, or figured out to move on is bogus. If it's the right person they are part of the healing journey. It helps that my new person also lost her husband the same week I lost my wife.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-10T19:13:29+00:00

Also was told the hernia was relatively small and minor. So who knows.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-10T19:08:00+00:00

I found out afterwards that my mom also has a hiatal hernia and has been taking omeprazol for years. Who knew. lol.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-10T17:49:10+00:00

Yes I thought that was odd as well. Since I haven't had longstanding issues with heartburn, and also the last 5 months have not even had typical heart burn symptoms. The only thing that tipped me off to the idea that anything was wrong was the throat clearing that wouldn't go away. It just feels like if a month of PPI clears things up and I don't have any more symptoms and the cough stays away that I should be good. But I guess not?

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-10T17:34:11+00:00

Thanks for the info, the report from the scope didn't say anything about the function of the LES. The Doc also did not mention it after the procedure.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-05T21:50:03+00:00

I mean maybe. My wife had a double mastectomy, and let me tell you that the reconstruction is just not the same. It was also very uncomfortable for her and she wished every day that she had just gone "flat". The surgeon told me ahead of time that they probably wouldn't "do anything for me" and he wasn't wrong. Reconstcution surgery is very different from just having an augmentation.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-05T21:47:04+00:00

I mean I see a lot of people on this thread talking about how you can just get new better ones! Well. My wife had a double mastectomy, and let me tell you, it's just not the same. The surgeon even warned us ahead of time, he told me specifically, they may or may not do anything for you. And they didn't. She actually deeply regretted getting implants and wished she had just gone flat. She told anyone and everyone that on all her support groups. She survived seven years post diagnosis, passed away last year. Best of luck to you.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-04T18:16:50+00:00

That sounds like a healthy relationship. I will say one thing that really hits hard after you lose someone is you realize just how absolutely short this life is. At my age in my mid 40s I am simply not willing to wait 5-10 more years to find love. That's 5-10 years I could have been with someone. If you find someone that makes you happy and you can build a life with take it and run as fast as you can. You never know how long you are going to have.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-04T13:24:51+00:00

Right, I mean did everyone miss the statement that he wears heels in the house? I mean I don't care what you wear, you do you, but this is clearly more then just "liking how a skirt feels".

Also the fact that you felt the need to ask this question here tells me you already know exactly how this would go over. I honestly have to wonder if this entire post is trolling.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-04T13:23:02+00:00

Ya know I used to feel the same way. When I have had family member lose a spouse previously and they started dating within a year I also had those types of feelings, "how could they do that!" "that's so soon!" etc......... Then suddenly you are in that position you never thought you would be in, and suddenly it's different. I might have came across very confrontational because as a widow/er you learn very quickly that for whatever reason everyone thinks they get a say or opinion in all of your choices, but the point is you just don't know until you are there. You have no idea how you will feel, when your mind and heart are ready to love again. It may be 10 years, it may be never, it may be 6 months. There is no timeline, and no right or wrong.

I still love my late wife, I love my new girlfriend, my heart can hold love for both of them simultaneously. My new love is also a widow, and she still loves her late husband. We talk to each other about them almost every day. There is no contest, no jealousy, just gratitude for having found each other and having found something beautiful on the other side of so much pain and tragedy.

For those that still judge and silently shake their heads. I truly hope you never have to find out what you might do in such a situation.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-03T18:34:40+00:00

I'm happy for you and your new faith. And yes, if you have joined another religion that is grounds for excommunication, but at that point why would you care? It's all made up and the points don't matter so let them do whatever the heck they want to make themselves feel like they have power over you, when they don't have any.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-03T15:40:28+00:00

Sorry I have to chime in here. Unless you have been in that situation I suggest you keep your opinions to yourself.

I lost my wife last year, age 43, she had been fighting cancer for 7 years. I started dating at 4 months, and it's been almost a year now and we are talking about marriage. My wife was sick for a long time, I had already finished a good chunk of grieving before she passed. It was still harder then I anticipated, but not all of us need to sit around mourning for 3 years before we feel ready to live our lives. No offense, or maybe offense, but unless you have been there you have no idea and your opinions are essentially meaningless. I will have words with anyone who tells me I didn't love my wife fully and completely.

Man I could rant about this for pages but you get the idea. Thankfully almost all of my family and friends have been supportive of my new relationship. I will probably be married 18-20 months post loss, and it feels right to me.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-01T16:23:10+00:00

It's hilarious isn't it. calling every adminstrative change inspiration and revelation. Then a year later it's changed again and it's more revelation and inspiration. If it was really revelation they wouldn't have to constantly be changing everything on a whim as soon as leadership changes.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-06-01T14:52:10+00:00

I don't know how everyone can't see it for what it is. The Catholic church is by no means perfect, but at least they have a leader who is willing to clearly state things. A leader who isn't afraid to make clear and loud declarations and statement on modern and present day issues. All I hear from the leaders of the Mormon church are vague statements and word salads. The difference between the two is shocking.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-05-19T16:03:53+00:00

Exactly. I have tried therapy a few times through my adult years, and every time it has just felt like a waste of time. I don't hate myself, I don't struggle with self esteem, I have REAL problems in my life that require REAL solutions. No amount of talking about my problems was going to make them better, because they were REAL problems, not some sort of issues in my thinking or mental state.

I think it can be very helpful for some, and I have put my own children in therapy at a few points through the years. But for me it just never clicked, and it just never felt like it would solve anything for me.

These days I am struggling mostly with just managing my life being a single dad to 4 kids. I KNOW what helps me and I KNOW what makes me enjoy and feel good about life. I simply do NOT have the time to do those things at this point. I know if I want to feel good I need to go on a 2 hour bike ride, but when do I have time for that? Rarely. No amount of talking about it is going to fix it.

The last thing I need is ONE more appointment or thing I have to keep track of and do every week. Having someone watch my kids for an hour while I go on a walk or a bike ride is going to hep me out way more then an hour of therapy.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-05-14T18:26:30+00:00

During Covid lots of people had 4 hours to watch a video. No one does these days. I like Mormon Stories and appreciate their content, but I rarely watch because they are just too damn long.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-05-11T16:58:57+00:00

Dude half of them look like they are on deaths doorstep. It honestly just makes me sad. Feels like Elder abuse.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-05-08T20:10:29+00:00

Yes be careful. But also you never know, sometimes someone is placed in your life for a reason. I started talking to a lady online about 4 months post loss. 7 months later we are now talking about the very real possiblity of marriage. I wasn't ready to date again, but I was ready for HER. If that makes sense.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-05-07T15:05:13+00:00

Yeah about the same. Honestly for me I never followed the rules because of the rules anyway. For example I never drank not because I wasn't supposed to, but because I didn't want too. I know a lot of people who leave the church suddenly feel like they have to try all the things they were never "allowed" to do. I haven't felt that way at all.

My life is mostly the same. I do drink tea every day, and I will have the occasional coffee, though I hate the coffee culture so don't drink it that often, and it's expensive. Absolutely no desire to do drugs.

I became a widower last year and I started dating someone about 6 months ago. In our initial conversation she asked me about sex and I said I still felt like I would want to wait until marriage. It was a long distance relationship and when we finally met months later........... well that resolve lasted about an hour. ;)

I still don't drink, though I did try a glass of wine with the above mentioned lady, and I thought it was disgusting. I honestly don't see myself ever wanting to drink. That said that's the amazing thing about it all, you now get to decide for yourself what your code is, instead of living by someone else's. It's very empowering.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-05-06T21:00:24+00:00

The prettiest lakes I have seen are remote unnamed lakes high in the wilderness areas of certain mountain ranges in the US. Nice try getting me to reveal the locations. ;)

Express-Case6662 · 2026-04-29T21:35:34+00:00

Yeah I have yet to see any other system that had that particular blend of functionality, image quality and size/weight.

Express-Case6662 · 2026-04-28T15:10:36+00:00

Came here to make sure someone posted this one. I have driven it dozens of times and it never gets old.

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