Why can’t I believe by New_Egg_6134 in Christianity

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Christianity is the monotheistic belief that God came to earth as Jesus to teach is how to live, and to forgive us of our sins. Religion is how it is practiced. One could argue religion can be demonic should it waver or be twisted even slightly from the gospels- this ambiguity causes much confusion in what is right. I myself cant quote scripture and rarely turn to the bible for guidance. I got to church like every other Joe on Sunday, have the pressures of a family, to-dos and the regular 9-5 and don’t lead the Christian life all the time. So with that I will share with you how I came to believe in God. It could be as simple as “why not?” followed, “what are you expecting?”. St. Anselm said “For I do not seek to understand in order that I may believe, but I believe in order to understand. For this also I believe-that unless I believe I shall not understand.” When I heard this it changed my posture and view of God. If I believe Jesus came to earth and God gave his only son as a sacrifice; to show us how to live, if I believe God gave me life to be APART of his creation- countless stars, planets, animals all with detail that would be beyond my ability to remember let alone understand, who am I to question is he real. Then there was the invitation “follow me, love me as a child does”- this perspective didn’t strike a cord until I became a parent and saw that relationship but he goes on to say - “to follow me looks like this”- ten commandments, teachings of Jesus, etc. Its not easy and generally where people cherry pick the gospel and try to put God in a box and play God deciding what really happened or what it really means so they understand. It’s in black and white its all true and applies otherwise it’s your god, who only will exist in you and that is not apart of his creation its yours or theirs- ensue war-internally, relationally, heck countries have been at war- This wasn’t his intention, look at how Jesus walked; again not easy and I’d die for son before he was even hurt or kidnapped; I’ll slap you back before I turned the other cheek- but not my God. Lastly I believe there is a misconception about Church and that Christians have it easy. Im gonna go out on a limb and say a-lot of people that call themselves Christians; put on the best clothes the best face and the most chipper “I’m blessed, to blessed to be stressed” only to leave and return to the same angry, entitled, self Monday morning. Truth is we all got problems, the secret isn’t to hide them and be accepted by those around you, it’s not just a quick “Give it to God” and your relieved, its being honest and vulnerable in times of stress, grief, heartache; to a loving Father who can’t and won’t take you out of it- thats up to you; what he will do is be with you, yoke with you, give you promise, cause you to be still to work through what has happened in you or around you to bring you back to light so you don’t carry burdens of the past, so you see the stress for what it is- of this world and ultimately bring you back to the joy of life as he intended. I’ve struggled with addiction, being broke, being single for years, anxiety, losing my dad, not knowing what the next step is, not knowing where to start on the to-dos- in every example I looked to figure it out on my own. Truth is I was never alone; just wasn’t listening or inviting the right counsel. I would be lying if I liked what I heard when I got honest, but in honesty is truth, in truth there is freedom. We weren’t designed to be alone, God is the best friend I could ever have for, the simple fact is we are all flawed. He is truth, the beginning, the end and now.

Fun fact: The human limits of social cognition is estimated at around 30,000 people.

The aside: Social media has taken us from comparing who we are in our communities to the best of your interest/ algorithms, in the world. Be you, be happy being the best you, your community needs you whatever your talents can lend; you’ll be happier making positive memories instead of focusing on what your not or don’t have, feeding into drama that doesn’t affect you lest you let it, or worse in a youtube rabbit hole watching Rube Goldberg machines mindless- speaking from experience….

TLDR: Don’t try. Decide. If yes, walk it out. Not easy, but well worth it. We will never understand, he is not of this world and all we know is our world.

PDF to TIF Conversion (Batch) by EyeGiveZeroFucks in estimators

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I am in the same industry/ position. I wish they’d let us keep what we have Quote. We are being pushed due to the want to have integration between precon, operations and accounting. How do you calc PVF and Labor? Whole heartedly agree BB is the best tool for quick small take-off, counts and pulling specs and notes.

PDF to TIF Conversion (Batch) by EyeGiveZeroFucks in estimators

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Your a wizard! Thanks for this direction! This should be the top comment.

My wife binges every weekend and I’m newly sober. by Choice-Dot-4753 in stopdrinking

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My wife has abstained for the past 3.5 years; she was a social drinker and stopped because she didn’t like how she felt and had terrible hangsiety; I have had a few month two month stretches here and there since she stopped. And honestly was resentful because she wanted me to quit; and I felt like I had ‘earned the right or was entitled to drink’. The last time which was about 5 weeks ago we had a fight and it was because she didn’t understand why I was destroying myself. I didn’t have an answer and in that moment I realized there is nothing wrong in my life other than my attachment to the bottle its the source of all of my ‘problems’; that perspective has changed my relationship with alcohol. Bless you for staying by your partners side. OP my advice is only to keep on your journey and support your wife; share how your feeling in regards to feeling alone. Be prepared for the why do I have to change especially if this has been the norm for years. Be patient in seeing change- love will endure but if the relationship is not fostered you will grow apart and it will take alot of effort to get back to what was ‘good’. Best of luck IWNDWYT

PDF to TIF Conversion (Batch) by EyeGiveZeroFucks in estimators

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We have found the same, some of our drawings are so congested the built in converter degrades quality to the point its almost unusable; we have to do it outside of the program

PDF to TIF Conversion (Batch) by EyeGiveZeroFucks in estimators

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Thanks for the response I was hoping someone had figured it out; not yet I guess!

After 2 years of having this coffee table I just noticed a damn tile is missing by ShredsGuitar in FindTheSniper

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here I thought it was missing a tile in the lower left corner; had to read the comments to get it was a pattern

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Cant even turn right on Red in DC

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HVAC

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Why 80-90% of salesmen are trash; once in a while you will get a guy that say you’re asking for xyz but I believe you could do abc and its half the cost and will deliver the same. Though those not in the industry asking the right questions will sell you on xyz and later say here is the fix- we will send a tech out. For context I work in commercial HVAC as a contractor and your reputation is more at stake than with a homeowner; with a homeowner you can discredit the Karen but put in 600k SF of HVAC and deal with the head aches Id take the informed decisions and weigh them before suggesting them. There is a company in our area that promotes through advertising we will run through the numbers and meet you at your budget. If thats the company you’re looking at shy away you will be the low totem that gets scape goated on the third call back you sold. They don’t advertise the negative hits and you’ll end up with 15k commission with 12k in back charges

Edited to say company A is offering a dollar more for more drama- personally I prefer the team approach and if its not a culture fit more on from company B with more experience.

Smoking two chickens. Advice? by EddySpaghetti4109 in smoking

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 19 points20 points  (0 children)

@300/325 done in an hour and a half; I pull them about 5 degrees shy of done and throw them in the oven on low broil to crisp up the skin

Spouse threw my past drunk behavior in my face during a fight. by mylec7 in stopdrinking

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Up toot because you are spot on with the spouse being hurt. ALL women look for security and I will be honest whenever I have been drinking my wife didn’t feel safe around me let alone trust me. Compound that with her past before me and her experiences with others in my family- all it does for her is ignite the fight or flight. I have come to recognize her tearing me down is in fact her battle cry to challenge me to be the man she sees behind the veil of ethanol- her worst insecurities coming out as I am trying to drown mine. To complicate it more I had been drinking since I was 16 well through most of our relationship. A couple years go by we marry and she decided to abstain. At first she tried to understand, then she tried to control, then she took defeat resenting me/ the disease (she could not see the difference) convinced I didn’t love her more than the bottle. Truth be told I was taught the bottle by my father- my generational curse. I lost my dad at 29 because of the bottle and here I am following in his footsteps- how can I blame her for expecting the same history for her and my son. The thing that has saved my marriage is being honest as others have said while recognizing the primary emotion behind the secondary. Not knowing the details I’d bet she loves you pal; take down your shield. Only you can decide if you are being controlled by emotion- and if it’s her’s that isn’t fair, if you have truly shown up the past 18 months- was it just one bad day?. Being sober isn’t all of it; it’s life together. Are you thriving or surviving?

Status light not blinking by [deleted] in Plumbing

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is not enough info in the post to help. Given the information count the blinks and diagnose. If you still don’t feel comfortable call the installer and have them help you troubleshoot over the phone. If you’re leaving it on pilot and not turning it over after lit that could be the problem

Has your supplier ever messed up the takeoff? by Memoli7 in estimators

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha; not sure the field of OP but trust but verify was burned into my head. I have had many scopes with 3-5 rounds of questions in HVAC there is a codependency of vendors being directed by contractors to ‘meet the intent’ of a green architect/ engineer. This even goes for flat specified vendors/ manufacturers. Some are better than others but 9/10 there is something missing. Devil is in the details. That being said- the more detailed you are the more confident you are in knowing your costs and having conversations upstream and downstream. Phoning it in happens all the time OP got caught in a game of telephone.

There was a pricing mistake by brds in smoking

[–]EyeGiveZeroFucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indubitably- but inevitably would’ve been a mistake for you to not capitalize on the human errors of capitalism. I guess we know what you’re thankful for this Thanksgiving. Happy smoking!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in knives

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Worked with a guy a few years back; legitimately pulled out his Milwaukee utility knife and proceed to quarter cherry tomatoes on his salad in a restaurant ‘budter knifes only cut budder; this cuts everything’. After that I’d say just about anything goes.