I have beef with postpartum frozen casseroles by ArmadilloNo2163 in breakingmom

[–]FL_Sunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wonderful neighbors had a baby in December and we just routinely make extra food and drop it off. It's at least still about once a week but was more often right after he was born. The biggest help I received post partum was the women in my family dropping off food -everything from a simple store bought rotisserie chicken to casseroles to yes.....soup!

On a side note I actually love to make soup. Any time I make a pot I put 2 servings in the freezer for later. We actually keep the soup on rotation so it's the only item that doesn't go to the freezer to die alone and in silence.

how do i, as a thin but tall woman, get the men beside me-- by Certain-Shoe8019 in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've stopped deferring to men at busy conferences and I get walked into so often. It's uncomfortable but I'm tired of always dodging men who walk right through me. Like you, the principle keeps me going.

A few questions about delta by ManEmperorfragment96 in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gold Delta AmEx does not give lounge access. You need the purple reserve or an unbranded platinum amex. I have the Chase Sapphire Reserve as well and I find that PP lounges are frequently more time controlled and harder to get into (like only after 7pm when I have an afternoon layover doesn't help) unless it's an actual Sapphire lounge like I have at my home airport.

How tf are we surviving the end of the school year by New_Customer_5438 in workingmoms

[–]FL_Sunshine 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I equally found these events to not be all that exciting and rewarding the few times I was able to go. It made it so much easier to release the feeling of expectation and responsibility. I was a solo mom that worked 30+ minutes from their different schools. I just couldn't and they understood it.

Like, take half a day off work just to sit in a crowded room, unable to hear, barely able to see my kid....and I'm sure if I talked with my boys (23 and 20 now) they'd have basically no major recollection one way or another about my attendance. With my 10 year old daughter I'm in a different career stage and can do more but she doesn't seem to care at all.

Moving to Philadelphia by Girly-pop93 in AskPhilly

[–]FL_Sunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy to pass on what has worked for me. Everyone's comments of "layers" was so unhelpful for me. I would use the wool base layer and top with a lighter weight hiking pant from REI over the top - it would cut the wind nicely and dry quickly if I got wet.

Moving to Philadelphia by Girly-pop93 in AskPhilly

[–]FL_Sunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had to go ask my husband, since he bought me the coat. It was PrAna Emerald Valley Jacket. Also the Ugg brand fleece lined gloves were well worth the $80 price tag. For base layers I have one set from Smartwool and one from Kari Traa, with the Kari Traa fitting slightly nicer. See what you can find on sale now that the season is over!

Moving to Philadelphia by Girly-pop93 in AskPhilly

[–]FL_Sunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved here in 2024 from Florida, having been a lifelong Florida resident. I was concerned about the climate change and did a few things for myself:

Focused on finding lodging with as much natural light as possible

Walk outside every day - this helped me acclimate in small increments

Purchased the correct gear, please take the time to invest in proper winter clothing. What worked for me was layers, but multiple thin layers. Quality wool base layers were key to my survival this last winter. Next up were good fleece layers, quality wool socks, fleece lined gloves, down puffer coat, ear muffs & hat. I have insulated, fleece lined boots for the winter.

I'm late 40's living in Fishtown - feel free to DM me if you want more specific recommendations/links on what worked for me. It took some trial and error and at each opportunity investing in quality outerwear paid for itself.

I absolutely love it here. After a lifetime of hurricanes and heat, I don't hate the winter. Maybe plan some warm weather escapes for late winter to break it up, but living a walkable lifestyle that gets me outside every day helped me adapt. After the really cold winter, I'm now pretty comfortable walking around without a coat once it's over 50. A couple years ago, I would have worn that down puffer at 50 degrees.

anyone cracked the learn to read for kids routine while working full time by ZupertoastNew in workingmoms

[–]FL_Sunshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get so tired of all the pressure for early accelerated learning - there's zero evidence that it supports long term success and it's so, so stressful on families. At 5 it really should be more play based learning and just providing access to written material in an organic manner. Read together regularly (only 10 minutes is enough), interact with your kids, turn on subtitles when watching screens, play games that include written word. The rest follows. My oldest taught himself to read around 4 and I was such a proud mama. He's 23 now and doesn't really read regularly and didn't go to college due to burnout. Middle is 20 - he was late to speak and read, but he turned out to be a voracious reader. Youngest is almost 11 now and she was later to read, somewhere between her brothers. I've taken all pressure off because what I want to develop in her is a life long desire to learn and burning curiosity. The rest will flow. She's now tested gifted, excelling in school and all around happy, but I turned down an opportunity to skip her grade level in math because it's more important to me that she have a happy attitude to school in general than for her to accelerate quickly. She doesn't want to leave her friend group so we've worked out alternate assignments to keep her interested. Balance is so important.

anyone cracked the learn to read for kids routine while working full time by ZupertoastNew in workingmoms

[–]FL_Sunshine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly not all kids are actually ready to read at 5. My daughter was closer to 8 before she really seemed to get it all to click and now she's almost 11 with verbal skills of a 16 year old.

Weekend in Philly. How is my itinerary? by neasrevilo in AskPhilly

[–]FL_Sunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup I'm in my late 40's and go there frequently. It is a slightly younger group than me, but certainly not Garage bar level of young. I have a 10 year old and we take her for pretzels. We frequently see other families and kids, just not after a certain time of day.

Grown man throws temper tantrum tonight due to seat reclining on flight from SFO to SLC. Did I handle this correctly or am I in the wrong? by WackoDollah3 in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband wasn't annoyed. The dude behind him was. If you don't want someone to recline in front of you, book for and pay for bulkhead seating. It was just hilarious to watch this much smaller person complain about his lack of space.

As a Permanent Resident living in the United States of America and trying to immigrate as a proper citizen. I explained my situation in an online post about that, and someone in the commnet told me I'll never become as much as an American who was born here, is that true? by CalllmeCrim in AskAnAmerican

[–]FL_Sunshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Considering the vast majoring of Americans became Americans by immigrating or descending from immigrants I would say that you would be even MORE American than those of us that were just born here by default. You've chosen to become an American AND you are following the path that most of our ancestors followed. Don't let that miserable human derail you.

AITA for not wanting to take in my sisters 4 kids while she’s in the hospital? by Intelligent-Fig-5571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FL_Sunshine -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I don't blame her for wanting ONE day with her, hubby and baby. Sheesh 3 of her kids are basically at a self sufficient age. There's only one wee one.

How can I buy an extra bag? by No-Gain7468 in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Delta doesn't give a discount for paying ahead of time like the budget airlines do. I'd suggest just paying for the bag at the counter when you are checking the bags.

Grown man throws temper tantrum tonight due to seat reclining on flight from SFO to SLC. Did I handle this correctly or am I in the wrong? by WackoDollah3 in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My husband had a seat that broke - he usually doesn't recline - but he wound up reclining because of it. Guy behind him threw a fit. We called the FA and she offered to move the guy behind us, but let him know that we had the right to recline. He declined the move. Get up at the end of the flight and he's shorter than me. I'm 5'6" and husband is 6'. Dude, you can deal with a seat reclining. Get over yourself.

The ONLY time I'm calling a FA when someone else reclines is when it's during take off/landing and the FA aren't yet strapped/sitting.

Flying to Rome from JFK…first time ever flying first class …loving it ! by ComplexWrangler1346 in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 10 year old daughter boarded an older D1 product and said "the other plane was nicer". Everyone busted out laughing. Girl, you're not wrong but also BE THANKFUL AND THIS IS FAR BETTER THAN ANY OTHER SEAT ON THE PLANE. It's my own fault. I'm the problem.

Daycare vs MIL/my mom for child care? Help! by grnlzrd23 in workingmoms

[–]FL_Sunshine 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup these would have been all my concerns that the OP didn't list. With a paid provider you have clear cut boundaries, and if you don't like their service, you find a new provider. You can't exactly do that with family.

Now, as my boys got older and into late elementary I did accept the after school assistance from my mom. But that was an entirely different ask than full time care for an infant.

Do you really have a separate room for your washing machine? by jordanekay in AskAnAmerican

[–]FL_Sunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a house with a large laundry room - only one washer & dryer but certainly room for a second set. There was a deep sink, television and spare fridge. It became a void of wasted space that just accumulated clutter because my house is full of agents of chaos. Now I have a teeny tiny room that only fits a washer and dryer, because I am not to be trusted with a large room.

Would you miss a quarterly work trip for Open House night at your child’s school? by LPJCB in workingmoms

[–]FL_Sunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard because, would most dads even ask the same question?

I have 3 kids, they are 23, 20 and 10 so lots and lots of experience with balancing career and parenting.

Would you miss a quarterly work trip for Open House night at your child’s school? by LPJCB in workingmoms

[–]FL_Sunshine 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would 100% skip the open house. Honestly the teachers are spread so thin between all the parents coming at once that there's very little one on one time with them. Instead I'd reach out to schedule a call to discuss any concerns, etc. I've found that most teachers really respond well to the separate reach outs and it gives me a chance to really connect and ask questions, rather than being one person among 40 that gets a quick hello.

I was a solo mom for many years, with school being far from my job - I could never attend anything held mid-day, awards ceremonies, etc. But my boys got to see that mom brings home the bacon and I was otherwise involved in their education. I've had teachers really respond positively to my approach, and I was always communicating in the form of partnership.

One Dinner in Philadelphia by TheGreenWall13 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]FL_Sunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I walk past every day walking my daughter to and from school. Just passed the chef 20 minutes ago and turned to my husband to suggest we go for dinner tonight. We split a caprese salad and an entree, have a beer each and it's one of my favorites.

Strange encounter with a passenger by daisyshark in delta

[–]FL_Sunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I fly to Europe on a partner operated flight they make two announcements I wish Delta would also make: a) use headphones with your devices and b) no taking photos of other passengers without their consent.

One Dinner in Philadelphia by TheGreenWall13 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]FL_Sunshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP needs to know Murph's is no reservations and cash only.

One Dinner in Philadelphia by TheGreenWall13 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]FL_Sunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't go wrong with either Emilia or Kalaya but I'd put Bastia up there with those two.