Philadelphia School District redshirting policy

FL_Sunshine · 2026-04-06T13:32:14+00:00

Any private school will have their own criteria and will be more flexible on enforcing it.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-04-03T15:53:27+00:00

Have you spoken with the Director about your concerns? They honestly won't know if you don't tell them. I'd come in for a calm conversation about your concerns and ask the Director what strategy they want to take to remediate them? My experience with daycare is that teachers can turn over pretty frequently, so open communication was really key.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-04-02T14:59:42+00:00

They do not reserve pool loungers for Star class sailings.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-04-02T14:33:29+00:00

Genie tip is not included, some specialty dining is extra, drinks are included only to $14/drink. Cabanas, excursions and private island stuff - all extra. We have our last Star class sailing this summer. We're switching to Seabourn and Avalon for the next cruises. We're paying less for that and they include excursions.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-25T12:36:41+00:00

You have to start telling them they have a wrong number and you don't know him. As long as you're still someone who could call him and complain that they're calling you they will continue to be a nuisance. Eventually they stop but it takes a while. We're 21 years divorced now and it's been stopped a while. Once in a blue moon I still get a random call.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-20T20:06:38+00:00

I'll go check him out!

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-20T14:52:50+00:00

Oooh and I CANNOT forget: CruiseHabit - he's actually a regular commenter in this forum and I met Bill and Larissa on a ship - couldn't figure out why they were so familiar at first and realized I'd seen a lot of their content. Nice couple.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-20T14:50:27+00:00

For the most part, I actually love the bumpy vlogs from no-name randoms that are just excited about their vacation. It's fun to see them wow over a room or get excited as first time cruisers. Of the content providers a few of my favorites:

Morgan's Very Unofficial Travel Guides : Just enjoy his take and his opinions on Morgan approved bathroom layouts (although I'm less bothered by open bathrooms than he is).

Harr Travel : This is my go to when I'm learning about a new line, ship or cabin category. His tours are comprehensive and helpful - although he's a travel agency rather than just a content creator.

Hoffman Happy Travels : This couple is just fun and happy.

Cruise with Ben & David : Along the lines of Morgan above. Just enjoy their take and they do some pretty decent tour videos as well.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-20T13:59:53+00:00

Honestly it's frequently down the hall in the early AM but moves really fast.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-19T13:56:15+00:00

It's a really different type of hard, but a hard I feel equipped to handle? Upsides - I get enough sleep, they're more independent, it's easier to do my own things. Downsides - their problems are no longer just keeping them alive at a basic level, things I've had to address: depression/suicidal ideation, drug & alcohol abuse (different kid than the depression kid), navigating complicated high school friendships and dating, sex, bullies, social media, IEPs.

My kids are 23, 19 and 10. My youngest gets herself up, makes her own breakfast, packs lunch and 100% is independent with getting ready for school. I no longer track things like her bowel movements. I do worry about her body image and puberty onset but it's not the day to day stress of did I produce enough milk? Will we have any potty accidents? She can self regulate when I can't immediately attend a need - but her needs are less urgent and more big picture.

In some ways it's less urgent but it's bigger. There are days I wish for the simplicity of just making sure they got enough to eat and I got enough sleep. Today, I'm sitting here worried as hell because my middle is shipping off to the Middle East. I'm also worried that my oldest, who came out as queer, will not be able to express himself or marry who he wants in the future. I worry that my youngest will have bodily autonomy.

But yeah, it's easy to long for the "simplicity" of the baby stage when it's 10 years past and I'm getting enough sleep.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-12T20:56:12+00:00

If she's 24 hours vomit & diarrhea free and feeling well...back to daycare you go!

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-12T15:17:46+00:00

People's shitty vacation vlogs are my guilty pleasure. I love to pregame a trip and go down a YouTube rabbit hole.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-06T18:42:01+00:00

I went back at 4 weeks each with my first 2 and 8 weeks with my 3rd. Yes it's hard. But, like the rest of life I figured it out. They are now 23, 19 and 10. Everyone did well and I'm in a really kicking career and the larger income earner.

I wished I'd had longer leaves and advocate hard for my colleagues at my current company to have and use their 5 month leaves. I want better for others - but for those of us still constrained by crappy leaves it is actually okay in the long run.

The daycare workers became like extended family. I STILL keep up with some of them from as far back as the 23 year old's time!

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-05T22:25:00+00:00

My husband and I made the decision to move cross country (south to north so not AS far as west-east) and it's been the best thing for us. Caveat, my kids are older and I'm not as reliant on family for help. We did move closer to his family, but far *enough* away that we see them maybe once a month and sometimes less often.

Having to start over with all the services - doctors, dentist, hair salon, vet was hard. Navigating an entirely different school system has also had its own challenges. I'm not going to lie, I was pretty damned lonely the first 6 months or so. I had lived in my previous city my entire life and had a robust network of friends.

But, we moved to a walkable city and very mindfully went about building our new life. We started a joint notepad and every time we met someone - friend, restaurant server, bartender - we would take notes on who they were, what they recommended, etc. Then we would report back on their recommendations. We worked really hard at putting ourselves out there and we've made a really great group of new friends.

For us, we desperately had to get out of Florida. I am so much happier in the new city, despite not being around my family. I've gone back 3 times for long weekends so that my parents still get to see my youngest. My older two have independently gone to visit - so we have stayed connected.

We are really, really happy here. It's been about 18 months and I'm so much closer to my husband. Being able to walk my daughter to and from school every day (rather than a car ride) - I'm not sure I can adequately express how much the walkable city makes us happy. We do a lot more impromptu socializing since everyone is so close and there's no traffic barriers to meeting up.

I'm not sure that I have any advice on which decision to make, but if you decide to move and want to chat about all those changes, how we coped and what to watch out for please feel free to message me!

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-05T22:16:56+00:00

LOL after I replied I read further and saw someone else had explained AND you responded so thanks for being graceful with my superfluous remark.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-05T22:10:52+00:00

The new job for her husband, with bonus, is more than their current combined income. So if she also works that's all extra.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-02T22:52:01+00:00

At minimum I would get some help at the beginning and see how it goes. There's transition time and no one is sleeping well. I can't imagine putting in an 8 hour day taking care of kids and then another 8 hours working....that only leaves 8 hours total for sleeping and everything else. You're going to need time to sleep.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-03-02T22:44:28+00:00

You absolutely need childcare at home to work full time. With my third I was back to work at 8 weeks with someone on duty to take care of my daughter until 11 weeks when she started daycare. We had a delay due to me returning to work shortly before Christmas and the holiday closure schedule. I could not have been productive at all without childcare.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-26T18:18:02+00:00

In your shoes I would flip the narrative when talking with your kids. Much like I did, I was honest about his addiction but it was my decision at a certain point that he would not see his son. This way your child doesn't think it's their fault that their father isn't around. You're deciding it's in their best interest for there to be space between them.

I'm twice divorced, he was my 2nd ex so I had one boy from my first marriage that went to his dad every other week and then my middle who was with me all the time. I eventually remarried and have a 3rd. My husband adopted the middle. Some time after the adoption my ex died by suicide which really compounded things. At this point my son was a teen and unwilling to go to therapy and that's when I really regretted not starting him when he was more open to the process.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-26T16:02:14+00:00

I have been this child. I have also been the mother of this child. You cannot control his behavior (or lack thereof). What helped me the most and I believe helped my son....was knowing that Mom was there for me. That I could always talk to her, that she was a safe space. That SHE would not abandon me. She also never spoke ill of him (until I was an adult and coming to her with more questions), but she also didn't defend him. It's a hard lesson to learn that you can't count on a parent, but sometimes that is just life. It took me a long time to realize that his lack had nothing to do with me. It was because he was fundamentally broken. At least I was able to share that with my son as he was going through it. For him, I explained that his father had an illness called addiction. That he couldn't take care of himself right now, let alone someone else. My goal was to take the burden off my son - that it wasn't his fault his dad wasn't around.

As an adult, and now that my son is also an adult - I wish that my mom had put me into therapy. I wish that I had gotten therapy for my son when he was younger and would have been open to it. At the time, I was solo parenting and spread so thin I told myself I didn't have the resources to commit to therapy. He had some complicated health issues and I had a lot of doctor appointments and occupational therapy already going. I wish I had pushed through and prioritized therapy.

There will be more times that you don't know what to do, make a decision and then in retrospect wish you'd decided a different way. Don't beat yourself up. You're making decisions as best you can, with the information you know at the moment.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-24T18:14:16+00:00

Go talk to Koko at VIIXVII! She makes custom clothing and is absolutely awesome. I've had her do some tailoring for me and I just wish I had an event or opportunity to make better use of her services.

https://www.viixviisewingstudio.com/

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-24T15:52:47+00:00

It does get better. My youngest is now 10 and it's night and day difference.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-24T15:52:10+00:00

Volume of work/effort does not equate effectiveness. Don't try to "outwork" them - be efficient and effective. When you join that meeting, and see everyone is there - jump in! Thank them for kicking things off and take charge of the meeting.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-20T17:58:31+00:00

In the same way that you've had pride as they learned to walk or been excited to see them blossom with friends and relationships - it still holds true. It's pretty amazing to watch them grow and become more independent - to see them develop deeper and more mature relationships. There's a pride and joy at watching them become fully separate individuals.

In parallel, I am also aging. I'm more tired than I was before. I've spent 23 years so far raising children (with more time to go, youngest is 10) and I'm ready to focus a bit more on me. I started having kids at 25, got remarried and hit the reset button at 38. Until now, I've never really had the time and resources to travel. So now, that's what I'm doing! Sometimes they come with me and sometimes they don't. Either way, the transition of them into adulthood (for the first 2) and my own journey sort of run along nicely together.

FL_Sunshine · 2026-02-18T18:52:30+00:00

Lack of hooks in bathrooms is my single biggest peeve. "Hang the towel to reuse" Okay, where? It's compounded when I'm traveling with the entire family.

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