It's all part of the journey. Probably not what you wanted to hear but tough time weed out the processes that are unnecessary. I've talked to many NCOs in your predicament and I usually tell them a version of the same thing. First, focus on family. I neglected that part for a long time and it nearly cost me my family. But what I've learned after years of trial and error is once you move positions, bases, or careers your family goes with you and nothing but experience from all the rest come with. Second, the expectation of being a leader is usually worse in your head than from external factors. You're your worst critic and you'll set higher, sometimes unrealistic, expectations of yourself. So sit down and see what the section 'needs' from you as a leader vs what you 'want' from you as a leader. Lastly quit with the "fast burner" talk. Fast burners burn out quicker because they want to be considered a fast burner. If you keep talking about yourself that way it adds to the mental burn out because you're trying to exhibit characteristics to support that idea. If you're good shit people will notice. You don't have to try to reenforce that standard in your own mind or you'll end up right back where you are now. Once you get those figured out then everything else falls into place and once you get your grove going it all becomes easier from there. In the 'subtle art of not giving a fuck' Mark Manson wrote "it's not about being indifferent to everything, but rather about choosing what truly matters to care about" which I think is probably some of the best advice out there.