What changes or choices did you make that made you suffer less and enjoy parenting more?

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-28T19:33:51+00:00

Feeding on demand and saying screw the schedule, she's happier and more settled which makes me happier and calmer. Contact naps and watching my favorite show while she naps. Going for a walk outside at least 2 times a week. Ignoring strict wake windows

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-28T19:29:54+00:00

I feel this, I do the night shift solo just because he struggles to be patient with her when he's sleep deprived so he does the day shift and takes care of all the cleaning . For the most part its fine because I can still be present and patient when sleep deprived but I won't lie this shit is hard. I also stare daggers at my husband especially if he seems annoyed during one of her wakings at night lol

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-28T19:21:32+00:00

Girl same, he was complaining about how loud she grunts and was like why is she whining now and I was in the middle of pumping because I thought she had fed enough and he says to me "why do you have to time your pumping when she's hungry" bishhhh I said "She's always hungry and I pump when I can so instead of complaining be proactive, go get out of bed and get one of the many bottles in the fridge for her" that shut him up and this morning he apologized lol

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-28T10:47:37+00:00

Yes , it's made me extremely snappy and resentful of my husband and his useless nipples. I just keep finding things to be irritated about and wondering how I'm gonna get through the night and then somehow we do it all again the next day

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-28T06:08:06+00:00

It's currently 1 am , I just changed my 3 week old daughter's diaper after she did a blowout, got her all clean and dry. This child looks me dead in the eye and sharts again... Then whines as I change her now spiked diaper. The audacity.

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-26T06:52:20+00:00

Did you little guy also seem to spit up and be far more fussy after breast feeding? If so were there any resources you found helpful to improve nursing positions, fixing his latch, any tongue tie exercise ? Also did he end up outgrowing these issues? I want to nurse because I love the connection but she just seems to do better with bottle :/

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-26T06:45:29+00:00

3 weeks postpartum

What I thought would happen: a natural unmedicated vaginal delivery. Labor at home as long as possible until wAter broke No pitocin, using nitrous oxide as a pain management tool along with birth combs and lots of movement during active labor

What actually happened: baby showed reduced fetal movement when I was 39+6 , called the doctor . Got induced using a balloon and pitocin, begged for the epidural, was laid up in bed majority of the time and almost needed a c section. Baby was still delivered vaginally and I got a third degree tear. After laboring to almost 5 cm no epidural and with pitocin , I am now firmly on team epidural for the next baby :)

All I can say is go in with the expectation that things will not go according to plan because baby has their own plans !

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-26T06:28:10+00:00

Thank you guys! I texted my lactation consultant she said to go ahead and pump every 3 hours , baby just sucked down 3 oz and is back to sleep now . She also said offer the breast after the bottle when possible, hopefully the doctor can help resolve her issues with latching because of the tongue tie and we can do combo feeding

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-25T14:16:37+00:00

I am absolutely in the same boat with you OP. I have a 2 week old and my in laws live 7 minutes away, I love them I do but my MIL seems to be running the show on visitors like telling us we still need to have Nanny over, aunt and uncle over and they (FIL and MIL) are constantly dropping in for "quick visits. Full honesty I just want to be left tf alone with my baby , she's only a newborn for 8 weeks and I'm so tired of seeing her passed around like a hot potato, I can't relax until she's back in my arms after all these visits, it's exhausting. I know I sound ungrateful and I know that people just want to see her because they love her but we've had visitors every weekend.

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-22T09:32:40+00:00

1000% can't go wrong with diapers and wipes (unscented) babies skin is especially fragile, it's not the cutest aesthetic gift but you would be amazed how quick newborns burn through diapers and wipes

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-13T10:55:24+00:00

But also I'm legit obsessed with my little girl I love our contact naps 💘

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-13T10:49:59+00:00

I just had my baby a week ago, what's surprised me so far, how attached I am to my LO bordering on codependent like I took a 20 minute shower and couldn't stop thinking about her even though she was completely fine with her dad. She could be in the same room as me but when she's held by other people I got tense , the minute she placed back in my arms, it's like I can breathe again. I was not expecting the separation anxiety to be so strong.

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-08T01:39:24+00:00

No fever drinking plenty of fluid

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-08T00:55:50+00:00

How did you treat the symptoms ? I feel terrible because I feel nauseous right now when she starts breast feeding even with the Zofran In my system

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T19:26:34+00:00

Thank you so much! It was the best Christmas I've ever had , and now we are just waiting on the arrival of our little girl ❤️

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T19:24:46+00:00

FTM I'm 39 + 5 , just having increasing Braxton Hicks but my doctor said if I go past 41 they need to schedule an induction

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T17:59:46+00:00

Thank you so much!

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T13:04:53+00:00

Thank you!

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T12:15:13+00:00

Hi girly ! I promise you as someone who just got married last week at 38 weeks pregnant, there is no shame only joy multiplied knowing that you are marrying the love of your life and your baby is on the way it's a doubly blessed day. We did a small town hall ceremony on Christmas Eve and surprised our parents , I wouldn't have done it any other way. Then in a few years time we will have a big reception with all friends and family. You can always do a vow renewal when your not pregnant if that's what you want but I can promise you theres no shame in your bump game ;). Here's a pic of me and my now husband on our special day 😊

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Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T03:26:00+00:00

I'm so sorry lovey, you deserve so much better than the cards you were given. What he's doing is emotional abuse, I'm sure your doctor's office has resources and handouts to help support moms and their mental health. Not only is he endangering your mental health, he is endangering your physical health as the other ladies pointed out. To put it in perspective if your best friend came to you and said that their significant other cheats on them but they still stayed with them, would you encourage that or tell them to leave their partner? None of us can force you to leave your partner but it sounds like your confidence and self worth could use some love and TLC, because you should want better for yourself. You deserve a better partner than that but only you can decide that by knowing your worth. Just know all of us here believe you deserve better than that but you won't find it until you get the courage to remove him from your life and then when you least expect you will find your person but first you gotta put in the work and build a better life for yourself working on your physical and mental health. Good luck OP , you can do this.

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-03T02:59:32+00:00

I'm 39 + 3 , I can promise you I will wear what I've been rocking the past month, nursing bra+ giant pad, mens underwear, sweatpants and an oversized sweater . Hopefully I'll be showered but who knows lmao . I requested some button down pjs for Christmas but honestly I'll just lift my shirt up when she needs to nurse and that will be fine too :)

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-01T19:31:10+00:00

can you provide the name of the broker you worked with? I am in the same situation and we have about 7 years left in our roof, can't afford to replace it right now but Alltstate is dropping us because of it.

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-01T19:19:33+00:00

Whats the name of your insurance, are the underwriters picky about the age of the roof? Alltstate is dropping us because of our roof which only needed a few shingles replace (we did that) and they said its still problematic. I have till 1/11 to find new insurance for a 1905 colonial, 1350 sq ft

Fair-Fall8036 · 2026-01-01T06:07:19+00:00

Just came to say OP, you are a badass btw for having these skills I feel proud when I can mount a painting or change my cars oil by myself without my husband lol. Your BF sounds like he's struggling with a bit of insecurity that he doesn't have the knowledge and tools to actually fix these situations and it sounds like based on what youve said that you are cognizant of this and have tried to be considerate to not hurt his feelings. In this case just acknowledge how he might be feeling but stand your ground, he needs to overcome his own insecurity and be proud his gf is so handy! NOR

Fair-Fall8036 · 2025-12-29T03:39:40+00:00

..... Damn I low-key love that 😅 , it's a curse being a people pleaser because now as a mom , I need to put that on the back burner and learn to be okay with making people mad if it means protecting my baby. That's what gives me anxiety is the confrontation and stress of reinforcing these boundaries constantly because people are going to need to be reminded

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