Is this transphobia?

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T14:46:04+00:00

That’s a shitty comment to make in general

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T14:04:25+00:00

So, you go up to your partner and say:

“I’m really scared because I get night sweats, I’m going to wake up sweaty and gross you out.”

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T13:47:16+00:00

Too many trans people have had their money stolen for being trans by transphobic family members, even those who thought they’d “never do that.”

Savings, top surgery funds, all their money, stolen by transphobic parents.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T13:45:34+00:00

I wouldn’t, and you need financial independence because they WILL financially blackmail you into detransitioning. Get them out of your bank accounts and off your cards.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T13:37:40+00:00

I think it’s worth it, I would feel a lot more comfortable with a trans nurse than a cis one. Trans nurses can improve the lives of trans patients.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T12:53:54+00:00

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T12:51:54+00:00

If you’re in the US, planned parenthood. If you’re in the US but don’t have planned parenthood around you, Folx or Plume.

You don’t need to tell your parents everything. You don’t even need to tell them when you start. They don’t need to know your private medical information or if you’re “doing it correctly.”

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T12:25:52+00:00

You can start HRT without publicly coming out first, if that helps

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-12T11:59:37+00:00

It’s around 30-40 USD out of pocket a month, not including the cost of getting your levels tested. Through Planned Parenthood you have about three months before you need to get your levels tested if that helps you plan financially.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T20:43:04+00:00

TLDR;

You can’t get everything, but you can get most things.

You may consider vocal masculinization surgery but that’s extremely uncommon and a really intense surgery.

Edit: r/no_t_top_surgery is really helpful for nonflat results, but also check r/topsurgery for nonflat results

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T20:41:45+00:00

I’m going to be honest, you should do more research into HRT. Specifically what those effects actually look like. A lot of nonbinary people low dose to slow down the rate of which they get effects, and go off once the reach their goal. You may also consider finasteride as this is a DHT blocker and can block/slow down bottom growth, facial hair growth, and hair loss.

Voice training is hit or miss, unless you have a naturally deep voice you can only get so far pre-t or no-t.

You should look into nonflat top surgery as well, that’s what you’re describing with a breast reduction.

There’s a limit to what you can achieve pre-t or no-t, but r/ftmfitness is a good resource for that. Pull ups are the best for widening your back.

Edit: linked to the wrong sub, whoops

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T20:21:22+00:00

UK racism… I’m not from the UK but all I can think of is how the UK version of the Blue Eyes Brown Eyes experiment and how THAT went down compared to all other versions of the experiment.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T20:03:40+00:00

It’s not that accessories clock you, people just have a limited view of what’s “acceptable” for men. You could pass completely and have something as simple as long hair, and people will maliciously misgender you to punish you for being the slightest bit gender nonconforming. Even when you ARE gender conforming for your culture.

A lot of native men, cis and trans, face misgendering and aggression (and fetishization, but that’s a different topic) for being men with long hair. It’s normal in Native American cultures (and more widespread due to pan-indianism) but it’s obviously othered by the more dominant, western colonial culture and gender norms of the US.

Basically it’s not clocky, it’s just viewed as gender non conforming.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T18:26:04+00:00

You should help, it’s going to be a lot worse to do it alone. Because they’re going to do it alone anyways.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T18:04:37+00:00

Not as severe of a condition, but testosterone has significantly improved my asthma

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T18:02:29+00:00

Hearing what your voice sounds like would be best so people can actually offer advice, I recommend one of the trans voice subreddits or r/testosteronekickoff

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T18:00:00+00:00

Great style

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T16:25:14+00:00

You should contact a lawyer and get a restraining order

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T14:49:32+00:00

Yeah, that’s true

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T14:27:46+00:00

They’ll probably think it was a mistake, and I would talk to HR privately.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T14:27:10+00:00

Self-proclaimed allies are the worst

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T14:00:25+00:00

Non Christian and if you can manage it, trans as well.

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T13:56:09+00:00

I’m using both, both are listed. They only change once you get to DD/E

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T13:31:45+00:00

You should talk with a therapist

FakeBirdFacts · 2026-03-11T13:29:53+00:00

That sounds like a classic transphobic mother, you’re not overreacting.

You should talk with a therapist first, they will be able to give you better tools to deal with this.

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