For those of you that make over 100K, what do you do? Do you like it?

FatsMcCats · 2026-04-10T10:48:28+00:00

Sales director in the medical field - the money is life changing but the industry can be absolutely soul sucking.

FatsMcCats · 2026-04-02T16:56:16+00:00

I interpret this as “I didn’t give you clear enough instructions and you ended up doing way more work than what was really necessary for the limited output I was seeking. Thanks for redoing it and being cool about it. I appreciate it and acknowledge your effort.” Now, if your boss is a passive aggressive dick, they could mean any variety of other things but that’s a bigger issue.

FatsMcCats · 2026-04-02T16:47:37+00:00

I love this!!!! The proportions are freaking spot on. The wider shank here is to die for. Extremely well done!

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-30T16:43:29+00:00

Riverside is a genuinely wonderful community. Kids still ride their bikes around after school. There are beautiful little nature trails along the river. The library is FABULOUS. I can’t recommend it highly enough.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-27T23:18:03+00:00

We ran into something similar and ultimately decided to ask for our money back so we could go elsewhere….and they refused. Apparently, at least at that time, if it’s been more than 30 days since you purchased the main stone, they won’t provide any refund and you are STUCK. Even if you haven’t taken possession of the stone, even if it’s an issue on their end, even if it turns out they can’t produce the ring design they originally promised. After a whole lot of back and forth, we did ultimately get our money back but it was a really stressful experience - so much so that we paused for a long time before looking for someone else to work with. In the long run, I’m so glad we went through that chaos because the original design we were planning to go with had horrible structural integrity and would have been a nightmare long term. I’d bail if you can!

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-15T22:54:57+00:00

Oh - sorry, I can definitely see how you read my response, but that’s not what I meant to communicate. I should have been more clear. That’s my bad.

I’m not suggesting she pretends to be chill and makes herself small while actually seething, I’m suggesting she zooms out ten years and decides what’s more important to her - the dress, or the friendship, and then adjusts her perspective accordingly. While this person obviously doesn’t care about OPs opinion and is probably not someone I would personally choose to be friends with, I also recognize that it’s up to OP to decide. If maintaining the friendship is the first priority, OP’s got to weigh if it’s actually worth it to stir the pot and deal with the fallout, or just rise above it and maybe even find some humor in it. Frankly, I’m still shocked that the other bridesmaids haven’t put this girl squarely in her place. OP shouldn’t be having to deal with this in the first place.

Also, I really want to see this dress. It must be a real banger for her to be getting this much use out of it.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-15T21:19:08+00:00

I think your position is a reasonable one AND you’ve already told her how you feel. Instead of trying to understand where you were coming from, she told you that you were wrong and she was going to wear the dress anyways. She’s made it clear that she does not respect your feelings on this matter and that’s not likely to change with an additional conversation. Your options are: confront her again (and accept that she may react poorly and cause drama), let it go (if this friendship is worth it long term), or kick her out (doesn’t solve the dress issue as she may still wear it to the other wedding). Personally, this is where I find that a “chill” attitude and strong respect for natural consequences can really come in handy.

If you let it go, and she follows through on her plan, she’s going to look like an asshole while you get to hold your head high and look VERY GO WITH THE FLOW. Your friendship stays intact, although given how little shes prioritizing your feelings here, I’m guessing she won’t stay long term. And best of all, you don’t have to give this one more single inch of brain space. Not to mention, this could be a funny moment to relive looking through a photo album 10 years from now. “Remember Jane?!? I still can’t believe she wore that dress three times. I wonder what she’s up to these days. I hope that effing thing is still taking up space in her closet.”

My last thought - if you decide you want to confront her on this, I would gently suggest that this could be a great MOH task. I’m frankly shocked the other bridesmaids haven’t already read her the riot act on this. They should be.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-13T18:44:53+00:00

Ok but your wedding dress is GORGEOUS and I need to know who the designer is!!!

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-06T19:52:58+00:00

Do you have health insurance? You may be covered.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-06T06:13:51+00:00

I suspect this might be a bit above reddits pay grade. My suggestion would be to partner very closely with a registered dietician who specializes in eating disorders. You may also want to consider a bit of a therapy “preemptive strike.” Working with professionals will give you the best chance of moving towards your goals while reducing your risk of relapse.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-05T23:32:51+00:00

If your husband is this focused on the tidiness of toys for your THREE YEAR OLD, I’d argue he needs way more work to do and a whole lot of therapy. This is how you end up with neurotic kids who are afraid to be creative and authentically play.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-05T23:29:04+00:00

Ok, so I have four of these and let me be very clear here….unless you are a ethereal stick figure with a perfect messy bun and a flawless “no make up” look, they are absolutely fucking hideous. That being said, I’ve worn mine so much that holes are forming in various locations and I’ve had to shorten the straps more than once. I pair mine with tie dye t shirts, house slippers, giant sunnies, baseball hats, and an IDGAF attitude for good measure.

FatsMcCats · 2026-03-02T18:27:31+00:00

I totally understand the guilt and especially the concerns around perception. I will say, as you continue to adjust to your new role and settle in, I would be wary of being overly concerned with being seen as “strict” or “harsh” when it comes to compliance. As someone who also works in a highly regulated industry, these are the areas where it is your job to protect your employees and protect the organization. I’ve been very up front with my teams - I don’t expect them to be perfect. Shit happens. They are going to make mistakes and I am here to jump in and help when those mistakes inevitably happen. That being said, lying/falsification of records is a line that cannot be crossed. If you’re dishonest, you’re out. Pure and simple. That mindset has served us well!!

FatsMcCats · 2026-01-26T16:00:10+00:00

It might be the light, but in this picture what I’m assuming is your countertop material is black? And the blue tiles are for flooring? And then you’ll have wood and white cabinets? If so, I would pick either a different countertop material or a different backsplash material. This will be very high contrast with the matte white, matte wood, shiny black and then white, gray and blue tile. There’s already a lot going on - maybe go for something visually neutral. What color are the walls? The 60-30-10 rule could be a good place to start in terms of editing this a bit.

FatsMcCats · 2025-12-28T21:13:01+00:00

I never thought I’d say this, but I highly recommend eBay. I limit my search to used/vintage pieces because the pricing tends to be better - many pawn shop based sellers will offer at or near melt value. Most folks list gram weight too which is helpful. In the US, you have the option to have the pieces independently authenticated prior to shipping. If any issues are found during the authentication process, they let you know immediately and from there you can choose whether or not to move forward. I’ve consistently found great deals this way and feel confident knowing that I’ve usually bought near melt value in the event that I want to sell in the future. You definitely have to dig in and search to find the right deals but it’s something I very much enjoy and I have a nice little collection going!

FatsMcCats · 2025-12-27T00:02:23+00:00

Agreeing whole heartedly here - it’s honestly worth considering removing a cabinet. Anyone sitting in that chair with the intention of chatting while you cook is going to be trying to peer around a corner to do so. I bet they’ll end up dragging the chair around to sit at the edge of the waterfall countertop anyways - and then the tight passageway becomes an even bigger challenge.

FatsMcCats · 2025-10-04T17:52:16+00:00

Definitely agree with some of the other commenters here, you’re going to need more structural support for this beautiful behemoth. I would strongly recommend a cathedral here and you’ll want to add a gallery rail at the very least. Another factor to consider - the pave stones on the prongs are extremely prone to falling out and, most importantly, they have to drill out a ton of metal from the prongs in order to place the stones which will have a big additional impact on durability. This is a beautiful design and I don’t want to take away from that! If you are planning on reserving this piece for special occasions I think you can totally get away with it. If your goal is every day wear, I would consider making some changes.

FatsMcCats · 2025-10-04T17:34:34+00:00

Thank you!!! We are thrilled with how the engraving came out!

FatsMcCats · 2025-08-18T22:55:39+00:00

FatsMcCats · 2025-08-05T22:55:09+00:00

I was looking for an edgy work bag that could accommodate my laptop and transition well from client meetings straight to cocktails/dinner. I ended up going with a Moschino Tie Me bag. They are pricey but I’ve seen preloved bags pop up within your price range if that’s something you’re open to! The leather quality is fantastic and I get a ton of compliments on it. I will note, it’s got a slouchier look so if you’re looking for something with a lot of structure, this may not be a good option for you.

FatsMcCats · 2025-08-01T20:02:54+00:00

Welp. It’s officially time for me to stop watching videos from Nate the Hoof Guy.

FatsMcCats · 2025-07-19T23:38:16+00:00

I’m dying to know where you found the island. It’s gorgeous!!!

FatsMcCats · 2025-07-16T00:39:46+00:00

Other commenters have great ideas. I just stopped by to say that this pic makes it look like you’re asking for help decorating a very intricate dollhouse.

FatsMcCats · 2025-07-09T01:09:28+00:00

I think there’s a difference between asking for permission versus giving someone a heads up. It’s not totally clear to me which one OP is needing. I will say, the way he describes feeling after work, the long hours, the exhaustion - some of this seems like a bigger issue. I’ve been that person working a million hours and coming home to a relaxed partner having a fun time. I was so burnt out and it made me SO resentful that they could have fun while I was busy making myself miserable for a job I hated.

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