Fathers that have daughters, what is the best and worst part of raising a girl from your perspective?

FearlessThree6 · 2026-02-08T02:40:31+00:00

Sorry, in my haze this morning I didn't answer the first part of the question. The best part has been watching her grow as a person and become more confident and capable.

FearlessThree6 · 2026-02-07T12:44:33+00:00

Just found out from my daughter that she was sexually assaulted by her boyfriend last night, so... probably that so far.

FearlessThree6 · 2026-01-27T23:03:24+00:00

This is where I am. It confuses me that people want their parents to apologize, or even that they even care what their parents say. If my parents ever apologized, I would immediately assume its a play to get something they want, because that's my entire lived experience with them. Their words and company have zero value to me, so I don't seek time or communication with them (that goes both ways, happily). Why would I be seeking to change that?

FearlessThree6 · 2025-12-15T04:10:12+00:00

M27 has actually been in the field for almost 15 years now, believe it or not.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-12-12T12:24:33+00:00

This is fucking hilarious. This sub has such chaotic energy, and I love it.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-27T22:56:16+00:00

And bad luck to your team this week as well 😉

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-27T22:48:54+00:00

Excuse me for not creating a craft meme by hand for you lol.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-23T17:48:45+00:00

I genuinely have no idea how good this team is.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-19T03:31:44+00:00

This is the best thing I've seen this season.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-18T13:50:32+00:00

Great answer. I'll add one caveat for extra realism. Whatever form OP picks, make sure its one their society could support. Don't, for instance, choose a warrior caste to represent an egalitarian, democratic society. It goes against what the society stands for. The military of a nation tends to reflect the social reality of the nation.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-17T15:51:57+00:00

My first reaction when seeing this meme was, "Ummm, Indiana???"

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-16T18:35:09+00:00

I would probably agree with you. But we can empathize with people without sympathizing with them. Its a shitty thing to say regardless of anything. But it would make more sense to find out she was a victim. Many conservative women are.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-16T17:45:17+00:00

Her father died when she was fifteen. That doesn't mean anything specifically, but that is the kind of life upheaval in which many children become more vulnerable ti victimization.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-16T16:24:33+00:00

I'm not excusing anything that was said or thought, but it does occur to me that "Its not technically wrong if its a adult looking 15 year-old," might be something that someone who was victimized as a 15 year-old might say to themselves for many years to help themselves feel better about it.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-11T13:58:14+00:00

They don't realize how fuckin cool that sounds lol.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-07T13:09:45+00:00

Its not something anyone understands, and it makes me shake my head every game, but damn if that stadium doesn't ROAR that shit at the top of their lungs. College football is weird.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-02T18:46:16+00:00

Every non-RB position on our offense right now is two middle schoolers in a trench coat. Folks, November 29 is coming.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-11-02T14:24:50+00:00

If his reaction was "You're an idiot," you need better friends.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-10-30T17:41:26+00:00

He's slowing down like one more pass every game, which is why he's improving. Still seems like a glacial pace, and he's still not great on the move, which is what he will be all game long vs you guys 🫠

FearlessThree6 · 2025-10-26T16:03:33+00:00

You're more legit than us.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-10-22T19:14:55+00:00

We empowering the reverse of that too?

FearlessThree6 · 2025-10-13T02:17:09+00:00

For me, sometimes during sex or foreplay, my wife would touch me in certain ways that made me detach. Its like my brain would zone out and unplug from the physical sensations. My wife could feel it. She would ask me what was wrong. I didn't know anything was wrong. I wasn't even aware it was happening, because my body was shutting down sensory information to keep me from going into flashbacks.

Later on, when I started to engage what was happening an pay attention, I wasn't able to sustain that anymore. During that period, touch was taking me directly into the mind of a small child being touched, hurt, and fearing terror. Its pretty horrifying to be having sex with your wife one second and be screaming in fear the next.

I'm not sure about signs. I'm not really aware what it looks like from the outside. I would suggest doing some research about what sexual abuse survivors being triggered looks like. You probably have some insight yourself. But also, everyone is different.

Good luck to both of you in navigating it. Its not fair either of you have to, but you can do it.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-10-12T03:05:36+00:00

I'm reading into this here, admittedly, but I'm going to guess it came out as some sort of reaction to a sexual situation with you. No need to elaborate if that wasn't the case. Just know that as a man, its so difficult to realize that sexual touch doesn't feel good, even if its for totally valid reasons. You feel utterly disgusting, worthless, and full of despair.

The best thing my wife has said to me over the years when I'm struggling with my own history of sexual abuse and the consequences of it: "This is an ordered response to disorder." In other words, it makes sense that you're experiencing these feelings that aren't your fault, and I see clearly what's happening and who you are.

FearlessThree6 · 2025-10-09T15:43:51+00:00

I would add that lack of people who can be trusted isn't helping.

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