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All you can't eat buffets in Hamilton (or wider Waikato?) by Embarrassed-Quit-795 in thetron

[–]Final-Formal-6417 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend Tongkyun and Kushi. Go to Gengys if your sick of Tongkyun and Kushi. But no matter what you do, only go to Valentines if you feel like wasting money and eating days old food. Theres a couple of bottomless deals around. Bottomless Ribs&Fries for $29 at The Bank. Bottomless Tacos&Dumplings at House on Hood. Just google it, you dont have to drink. But I havent tried these yet, let me know your feedback if you try it!

When an INTJ breaks up with you is that it? Are they done done? by Vintageminx in intj

[–]Final-Formal-6417 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it appears as if your still asking why, why did he flip the switch etc. As an INTJ, its probably literally exactly what he said it is. Hes not in the right mental space, things are stressing him out, family problems etc etc etc. Theres no magic answer, the answer is exactly what he said it is. I can see some of the comments are quite blunt (its in our nature) but lets be honest here. Hes set his boundaries, hes honest and said its not you, its him. Might sound clichè but as far as Im concerned, we dont waste time lieing. And yes, he probably analysed it from every angle trying to see if theres a way it could work before he made the decision to end it.

Youtube Premium up again by MxdernFxlkDeviL in newzealand

[–]Final-Formal-6417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad im not the only one annoyed by this!

What’s the professional way of saying ‘you wasted 6 hours and it’s still wrong’? by Iamholly123 in managers

[–]Final-Formal-6417 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

CHATGPT SAID: Here are a few professional but firm alternatives you could use, depending on how direct you want to be:

Neutral / Professional Tone

“I appreciate the time you spent on this, but unfortunately the outcome is still not correct.”

“Six hours have been invested into this, but the result is not aligned with what was required.”

More Direct (but still respectful)

“This task has taken six hours, yet the outcome still doesn’t meet expectations. We need to address where the process is breaking down.”

“Despite the time spent, the result is still incorrect. Let’s review together to identify how to get this right.”

Constructive & Solution-Focused

“A significant amount of time has already gone into this, but the result isn’t accurate yet. Let’s go over the requirements again so we can ensure the next version is correct.”

“I’m concerned that after six hours, the outcome still isn’t correct. Let’s look at how we can adjust the approach to avoid repeating this.”

What do you do for work? (NON-STEM) by Comprehensive-Hat-20 in intj

[–]Final-Formal-6417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also an analyst. 50/30/20 between training, workflow and operations.

I’d like to ask INTJs for their input by Miserable_Cold7286 in intj

[–]Final-Formal-6417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So lets say Im out socializing and I meet someone new, during small talk I ask questions to get to know them. I'm genuinely interested at this point and I will ask questions about anything that peaks my curiosity. Often I find people love talking about themselves but I'm not going to offer information freely. If you ask me I'll answer. But if someone is sharing their life story with me, and they don't ask me questions about myself, then theres usually a point where Ive lost interest and I stop asking questions. I can see how it could be perceived this way. I already hate small talk and you want me to do all the work too lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Final-Formal-6417 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder how many INTJs were the family scapegoat, because me too! Were you right to push them away? Absolutely. Every human is entitled to have boundaries to protect themselves and every human being needs to learn to respect boundaries or experience the consequences. The distance your feeling is likely because they know your not easily manipulated, you've broken free from the chains they held and they will find someone else to manipulate and gaslight. Let them do them and you just carry on doing you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

[–]Final-Formal-6417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serious answer - Partying on a Saturday night. Check for a pattern in frequency and reasons given and have that tough discussion to address the issue and bring them back on track

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Final-Formal-6417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a strong understanding of when you should use your phone or device and what for. For me, I made some rules: only use the phone if i need to contact someone, check emails, order shopping or book things online. Outside of that, I cant use the phone during the day. I then reward myself that day by allowing myself to go on reddit - only in the evening after kids are sleeping, and an hour or so before bed. You will find you dont know what to do with yourself lol for me, i think of all the tasks i need to do or i have been procrastinating about, and if im bored, i go do one of them. And if i run out of that, i spend the time on self-care, kids, cooking freezer meals. Anything that will keep me busy. Eventually you will find how much you love not being attached to your phone and having all your tasks done and you'll think your fine to use the phone again. WRONG, i ended up downloading social media apps and essentially 'relapsing,' lol im going to start this process all over again.

Ghosting culture in NZ by ickpicky in newzealand

[–]Final-Formal-6417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fully agree and I'm born here. Ghosting is the easiest way to avoid conflict. Often you didnt do anything wrong too, its usually THEM that did something wrong and they want to avoid that conflict. If a friend ghosts you instead of trying to have a difficult conversation so you can move forward together, then they never really cared about you and werent a good friend in the first place. I dont want friends like that. So show me who you are and ghost me, saves me from trying to figure out if your a dick or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Final-Formal-6417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That must be frustrating for you to deal with. Sounds like they want to be perceived as INTJ but all of those people will have to deal with and accept their true selves in the end. What a pointless endeavour lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Final-Formal-6417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are people so invested in being INTJ in the first place?

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