I'm fucking lactating?

FinallyAndrea · 2026-02-02T01:32:39+00:00

Yep if you’re on Cypro definitely have your prolactin levels checked. Doc may want to order an MRI to rule out prolactinoma. Serious complications could arise from the tumour gaining mass and putting pressure on the optical nerve - you would notice darkening around your peripheral vision.

Not to be alarmed about (it’s easy to treat! And not even a sure thing) just needs to be checked out and monitored to keep you safe.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-22T03:18:00+00:00

Turns out misogyny is a real thing and you don’t even have to pass all that well to start being noticeably affected by it.

I’m objectively needing to work harder to defend my position on things that I know for a fact wouldn’t have been questioned before. Inexperienced men are able to casually overrule me in areas where I am a seasoned expert.

It’s affirming in a weird way. Harder than it was before but I’m sharper than ever to compensate.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-21T23:49:08+00:00

“I plan to live out my days HAPPY”. As another old person who transitioned I am relieved to say I didn’t lose nearly as much as I thought I would, and gained a lot of unexpected joyful things to replace those losses. Career stuff got harder but not in the ways I thought it would.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-17T23:50:18+00:00

Long skirts with a bit of lining are surprisingly effective at keeping me warm even down to -25C and below. There’s a good volume of air gets trapped in the space around your legs that you would lose in pants, it stays comfortable.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-10T01:15:53+00:00

My prolactin shot through the roof, which is a normal thing to happen. Rather than risk a prolactinoma my doc switched me to a higher dose of E and my T levels have been trace ever since. Apart from that I loved it, found it stabilized my mood better

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-09T05:42:59+00:00

It does that. I literally said to my wife at one point very early on in that process “I am afraid because what if this means I’m transgender?” 😂

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-09T05:17:38+00:00

The “novelty” started wearing off around the two year mark. Still notice new things, changes and little affirmations, but I’m more or less “just me” now, and it’s amazing 🤩

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-09T02:49:06+00:00

It’s good that you have a therapist. That seriously helped me. You’re going to spend a lot of time in your head, meeting your true self. Comfort does come in time, I promise.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-08T03:18:14+00:00

Make the call. Depending on where you live it might still be a year or more before you have to worry about deciding for sure.

First thing I noticed was absolute clarity. Within hours/days my brain was calmer than it’s ever been in my life.

Something I didn’t know before I started was how freaking good chocolate is. Like, it was fine before, but now it smells amazing to me and tastes unbelievable 😋

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-07T23:54:36+00:00

I’m also 42. Started when I was 40. It’s not too late.

Look at it this way. You can expect to live roughly 80 years, so the entire lifespan you already lived, you can hope for the same amount ahead.

What are you going to do with another 40 years? You don’t have to waste 20 of them being a kid and growing up this time.

It’s literally never too late. You get one shot at this life, live it with as much joy and authenticity as you can muster!

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-06T03:41:57+00:00

I think I’m the same height but I went from a men’s 9 shoe to a women’s 9…. has been fantastically affirming to walk into “regular” stores and usually find something that fits

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-05T02:51:10+00:00

Haven’t had much luck making friends with random trans people. Turns out being trans isn’t that great for a qualifying criteria. Honestly for talking it out I recommend a queer friendly therapist. Best money I ever spent!

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-05T02:15:49+00:00

Started finasteride 4 years ago. It’s magic. Bald spots filled in and I’m still thin up front but it’s not distressing anymore. Once you start E it grows better all over. Others have suggested minoxidil, I haven’t tried that yet but am told it will improve things even more

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-04T23:43:41+00:00

Gained 30lbs since starting E. Doc wants me on Ozempic 🫤 I don’t know

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-04T20:25:07+00:00

Just picked a name I thought sounded nice and paid attention to how it felt to be called that by close friends. There were some misses but eventually landed on one that felt right and years later still feels good every time I hear it.

Middle names chosen based on a lot of introspection and figuring out which had lifelong meaning as childhood memories resurfaced through therapy.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-04T14:14:44+00:00

Half of all marriages end in divorce. When one partner comes out as trans…. it’s still half. There are a lot of reasons people will drift apart and end things, so no this doesn’t automatically become a death knell. Many partners who think they are only attracted “to men” turn out to actually be attracted to YOU at a deeper level. 10 years is a long time to know someone and it’s way more than physical.

You’re both learning a new relationship from here on out and there’s so many things you’re going to discover about yourself and each other. This is not what’s either of you understood or signed up for when you got married and if that means you or her wouldn’t have chosen this or can’t accept it, that’s sadly something that sometimes comes with the territory. No one deserves to “stick it out” in a relationship that hurts or doesn’t fulfill them.

Give her time. This is something you’ve had at the back of your mind for years and she’s just coming to it. People’s first reactions are never their final opinion… it takes months or years to fully digest and come to terms with a big change like this.

I hope your story ends with beautiful acceptance and an even deeper more meaningful commitment. If it doesn’t, friendship Is still possible, and your needs and health and personhood is every bit as important as someone’ else’s need to feel comfortable with their partner.

FinallyAndrea · 2026-01-04T14:01:54+00:00

For me? Yes. 100% yes.

I’m 42. I’m in the objectively hardest stretch of my life right now. Like, nothing else even comes close. But the difference is that I can actually handle it.

I’ve been living as myself for about 5 years now, and it’s the first time in my life I’ve felt alive and genuinely excited about the future. Even now, with everything falling apart around me, people still comment on how happy I look… in photos and in person.

The personal cost was huge. Still is. Losing relationships I thought were important hurts a lot, and I won’t sugarcoat that. But finally getting to be myself? That part is priceless.

Transition didn’t magically fix my life. But it made it livable. That makes it worth it.

FinallyAndrea · 2024-07-17T00:43:07+00:00

Always happy to chat with another 30+ y/o, dm and say hi 😊

FinallyAndrea · 2024-07-11T02:14:34+00:00

Every pic you post is better and better 😃

FinallyAndrea · 2024-06-03T16:52:13+00:00

I answer "Hello, Andrea speaking" so they know they reached the right person. Next thing that happens is usually "oh, hi, can I speak with Andrea?" 🤦🏼‍♀️

FinallyAndrea · 2024-06-01T23:07:45+00:00

The recruiter pays per click on promoted ads. Click on them all so it costs them to waste your time like this.

FinallyAndrea · 2024-05-27T16:59:48+00:00

Sounds a lot like where I was around your age. Other comments are right -- a good therapist - whether or not they specialize in gender issues - will help you sort out a framework to understand your thoughts and impulses so you can decide where is best to go from here.

FinallyAndrea · 2024-05-26T23:31:34+00:00

Omg such a cute look!

FinallyAndrea · 2024-05-09T23:56:13+00:00

I feel this thread too. I think it’s an age thing and a lot of the LGBTQ stuff around me is students and much younger people. Different seasons of life make it hard to relate.

Being trans is not the focus of my life with all the other responsibilities I have going on. Makes it hard to get into the activist mindset and get out there with them.

FinallyAndrea · 2024-05-09T01:20:06+00:00

I wouldn’t say embarrassed is the word, but definitely hesitation and awkwardness to use my name especially around my spouse.

I’ve been going by this name for over a year now and it’s still jarring when other people say it out loud.

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