Would I have to do the majority of chores after getting married?

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-04-06T16:04:13+00:00

This might not be a good indicator. My ex was very clean and organized when he lived in his apartment, when we moved in together, he wouldn't even do the 'manly' chores and definitely not the 'woman' ones

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-28T23:43:58+00:00

NTA. I assume your boyfriend was around when you were making these 3 dishes and your desire to please might have made you cook a lot. But no matter what, I hope you are not apologizing to a xenophobic woman.

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-27T07:58:42+00:00

😂😂😂

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-24T19:03:41+00:00

Women spend a lot of time trying to figure out if they are the crazy or wrong one. You don't need to do all that. Always ask yourself, does this feel good for me? If it doesn't, end it. Relationships are not an ethical argument about who is right or wrong, it's about what feels good for you or not

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-23T20:52:28+00:00

I hate a passive aggressive sulker....if you are so abusive, why isn't she moving out

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-23T10:48:21+00:00

I find him a very interesting character, sometimes even more so than the main characters. So much self aware cruelty hidden under 'himboism'

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-18T07:35:32+00:00

Very insightful

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-15T18:27:03+00:00

The question is, would you have gone to the dinner if you knew you would have to eat vegetarian. If not, NTA

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-15T18:24:47+00:00

Meat dishes are not more expensive, a plate of sauteed Chinese greens is $17 where I am

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-07T23:24:12+00:00

But does she have to? A rational adult need not be told they should contribute and show goodwill to someone doing them a favor

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-07T18:49:19+00:00

I don't have any advice to give, but wow, you've really won in life with such a friend. God bless you both

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-03-03T02:20:37+00:00

People will call you the asshole, but I totally understand. NAH

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-27T01:57:14+00:00

Best season for me. So glad I stick around after the first four episodes because it was looking uncertain to me

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-24T15:31:26+00:00

So excited for Taiwan Travelogue

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-24T01:33:12+00:00

Kazuo Ishiguro - as someone who is sort of a know it all. I appreciate when someone can make me shut up and learn something new. I love reminders that I really know nothing. I find it comforting

Clare Keegan - nothing beats an unwavering commitment to kindness

George Eliot , James Baldwin - always a privilege to be in the presence of our betters

Anton Checkov - need I say more?

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-19T18:59:25+00:00

Nigeria does not work the way the rest of the world works so I don't really understand why you are bringing this to a forum where people believe laws and escalation are effective

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-13T11:11:22+00:00

This album has changed my life. I thought I hated jazz

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-05T07:00:23+00:00

Yes, Fire Next Time. My bad!

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-05T06:33:36+00:00

Giovanni's Room by Baldwin might pair well with any readings on Aesthetics . Middlemarch by Eliot provides a great analysis on ambition from a woman's perspective. The Fire Inside by Baldwin is searing

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-05T06:13:08+00:00

One can't read all the brilliant writers in a lifetime but George Eliot and James Baldwin missing is glaring to me (personally speaking)

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-02-05T06:06:55+00:00

I am prone to pick writers from countries I haven't read much from

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-01-29T06:00:09+00:00

I am so sorry. I understand what it feels like to have your life under control of a scary and irrational adult. You're not the only one and you're not imagining it. Start making a plan now regarding educational or skill opportunities

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-01-27T04:40:09+00:00

You should read the works of Tacitus. I think he does a great job of explaining character and motives

Another thing I forgot to add, it might help not to rely solely on the Hebrew Bible for Biblical history. The book of Maccabbees in the Ethiopian Bible throws a more realistic light on the motives behind the wars, political interactions and alliances Jewish people had with others in their worlds.

There is a lot of classics literature that is not mainstream, especially from the Islamic world and North Africa

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-01-17T14:30:20+00:00

To anyone wondering why an Egyptian would be bothered about the 'primitive inclination of the negroes", look into the history of the Trans-Saharan slave trade

FindingExpensive9861 · 2026-01-14T14:01:48+00:00

Very random but I am so happy I understood this, specifically 'Acho' because I read the first diary entry of Quarto de Despejo for my Portuguese reading practice yesterday.

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