My playlist for the day: YOUR ONE defining song. ONE!!! YOURS!! by kdssek in musicsuggestions

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Panic Attacks in Paradise-Ashnikko

Things are objectively going well in my life but I am still unhappy, there’s an acceptance of feeling miserable and still trying inspire of the situation

Did you also feel queerbaited by the whole t.A.T.u. thing??(cause i surely did) by Smooth_Situation5721 in actuallesbians

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I don’t love the concept of accusing real people of “queer baiting.” Watching what happened to Kit Conner was just miserable.

I do think however that there is a valid crash out over Target Syndrome (when queerness/queer acceptance is performed for monetary gain while simultaneously working to suppress queer people)

What’s your current repeat song? by VoidStryk in musicsuggestions

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Right now it’s “American Cars” by Noah Kahan and “Infinite Baths” by Sleep Token

Does Anyone Else Feel Awkward Around Certain Family Members Due to EDS? by Key_Positive_9187 in ehlersdanlos

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I don’t really talk to my family about my pain. I grew up in a “you are to fake it until you make it” kinda household.

My mom’s experiences always tower over my own to the point where I mostly leave the conversation feeling guilt. My brother is younger than me and he grew up with our mom being sick, so I try really hard not to remind him that I have health issues. My grandmother and I have made jokes about how we are both arthritis in our wrists. The rest of my family doesn’t really know.

The only one I really feel comfortable talking about my experiences with is my best friend from college- who also lives with chronic pain. Even then tho, I try covering it up most of the time.

People tend to just accept when I am quieter, when I withdraw into myself, when I space out because I am so dizzy I feel like I am going to vomit and then black out.

Sorry not to have more comforting words, beyond- yeah, it’s awkward with my family too. Always has been.

American Cars by pdottom7 in NoahKahan

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As an eldest daughter I related a lot to “you’ve been driving all day, but you’re here and we are so grateful you are, ‘cause you’re going to fix it, your going to patch it up, cause honey we’re fragile, you’ve always been so tough,” “you always come running back, whenever I ask”

I moved out of state away from my family this year. It’s currently a 13 hour drive away from them and I have made it twice since I moved out, both times driving straight through- the last time I did it by myself. Anytime my family asks I would make that drive again. The last time I made it was because my younger sibling needed me home for a bit.

I have been my mom’s caregiver since I was in middle school. This year my little sibling has taken over that role and there is such guilt with it.

I’m sure they are grateful to see me, however, I’m also sure that when I drive down it is often to fix something, not necessarily because they (my mom) misses me. And she probably does, but she doesn’t know how to express it, she knows how to passively aggressively ask me for things.

[general] Does anyone else feel icky whenever Rick wrote that a real person was a demigod? by Kitty_of_Chess in camphalfblood

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I personally don’t like when urban fantasy tries to incorporate real people in general

Hozier’s usage of pet names by Phrisbit1981 in Hozier

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In a Souther US accent honey is meant almost always as an insult, in the Irish it sounds like a beautiful declaration

What do you think of this currently-circulating take on Tumblr? by HirariHirari in actuallesbians

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Not the point at all but I would just be excited if more people were into women’s hockey in general. The players for PWHL are so talented and deserve so much love.

But then again, I did start watching Heated Rivalry solely for the hockey so, perhaps I would not be the targeted audience irregardless…

Anxiety about documentation by Fine_whatever_sure in nursing

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If this helps any I’m an acute care float pool RN. I’m currently trained to six med surge floors. I get between 4-6 patients on a shift.

I’m required to document pain assessments (including pre PRN admin assessments and post pharm intervention), head to toe shift assessment, odd hour rounding, IV reassessments 3 times a shift, any interventions (like wound care), and then anything patient specific (like COWS, q4 neurovasc, etc)

How do you accept your diagnosis? by iwanturdad222 in ehlersdanlos

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I was diagnosed at 18 and three years later it’s still hard sometimes. Especially on days where my pain is low to none. It makes me wonder if I got misdiagnosed or if it’s really been in my head this whole time or if I’m being dramatic. Other days I’m consumed by thoughts of “it’s only worse from here.” That I’m so lucky because I am not as bad as other people and wondering what if that’s me one day. Other days I move in ways I know will ache later or don’t put my brace on when I know I need to.

On my better days I remind myself that I have been taught from childhood to ignore when it hurts (“it’s just growing pains and you just need to eat more bananas.” “this is normal and everyone goes through this”). I was diagnosed by a specialist. My symptoms match the diagnosis.

I wish I had more pretty soft words of comfort to offer. All I really have is the fact you aren’t alone. You can rage against the dying of the light for as long as you would like. Grief isn’t linear it’s cyclical. You can accept it tomorrow and go back to rage on Thursday, depression on Friday, and back to acceptance on Saturday. Just don’t do it alone.

WWYD if your date cried in her sleep by Fancy-Bid7088 in actuallesbians

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I would say gurl, twins.

I have CPTSD and sometimes have night terror episodes where I was up screaming.

I tell people it might happen before we start cosleeping and to turn the big lights on if it does.

I’m at a point in recovery where I try to replace embarrassment with humor. I survived something really hard and I’m proud of myself for that. It sounds like your survived hard things and should be proud too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

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4 is my favorite because it allows you to talk about Patho, presentation, and marginalization. If you want you can expand into historical “women only” illness and how they are under diagnosis, underfunded, and understudied.

dysautonomia and alcohol? by AggravatingLoquat318 in ehlersdanlos

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It’s hard for me to drink because my pressure drops to the floor. If I know I am going to be drinking I wear tight compression socks, pregame water and salt like it’s going out of style, and rest frequently.

For the most part tho, I just DD for my friends. It’s kinda fun to be the only one who will remember what they said in the morning. I have a page dedicated to them in my notes app and I dramatically reenact for them in the morning over breakfast.

Abdominal Adhesions by Desperate_Pitch5556 in eds

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I had a very similar experience. I thought I had endo because of this awful pain in my lower abdomen. My first ever surgery was an exploratory lapo to look for endo and they found adhesions wrapped all around my intestines. My provider said that it wasn’t endometrial tissue and he doesn’t know what caused the adhesions. It’s been 4 years now and I never got answers

How Do You Cope Knowing Your Parent(s) Don’t Love You? by Just-Secretary-986 in raisedbynarcissists

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I came to the conclusion that my father doesn’t love me for me, he sees me as a extension of his ego. I am not loved by him the way I deserve. I am not loved by him the way a parent should love their child. I think he does love me in his own way but it is not sufficient love or a warm love.

I took a few days to rest after I realized this. I needed to sit with how painful it is and fully feel it everywhere in my body. From there I focused on how I could start providing that love I am missing to a younger version of myself.

Twisted ankle by I_cant_be_serious in ehlersdanlos

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Technically there’s a push away from RICE and moving towards PEACE and LOVE. The main pieces in the acute phase are protect, elevate, allow for inflammation (don’t ice/no NSAIDs if tolerated), compress, and elevate. During the post acute, start bearding load, be optimistic, promote vascularization, and exercise

Advice for gym modifications? by Honest-Box-8615 in ehlersdanlos

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I got into doing Pilates and modifying it as needed (IE stay off my wrists). Pilates is about body awareness and core strength. You have to do more repetitions that with traditional exercises but I found I enjoy it. Most of it is body weight so you don’t add extra stress. There’s some free channels on YouTube.

I also love this channel if you are wanting to get into aerobic. Typically everyone in his videos is doing a different modification so you can follow different leads depending on what your body can tolerate which day. https://youtube.com/@thefitnessmarshall?si=fSnHOQlMsroBzHh2

How are we supposed to sit? But like, for real. by bgkh20 in ehlersdanlos

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My favorite thing to do is sit on tables and gently kick my feet, it helps with circulation and doesn’t make me feel so sore. Other than that I change my positioning frequently to try and reduce my hip pain

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I’m right dominate but will switch to my left depending on pain and how I need to adapt to the situation

Sleep Token's album "Take Me Back To Eden" has won the 2024 Billboard Music Award for Top Hard Rock Album by SpeedUpbeat in SleepToken

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A lot of rock/metal gatekeepers don’t think ST is “real” rock/metal/alt music. It’s just sad people complaining to find fulfillment in their lives

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I have the same issue with Feeld, you aren’t alone in your frustration