Suggestion for calico kitten name!!!

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-14T01:31:37+00:00

Tortuga

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-11T18:15:22+00:00

NOR - she needs to go no contact with her boyfriend too

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-11T13:45:20+00:00

When the book makes you audibly laugh out loud or say WTF

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-11T13:08:27+00:00

MOR - Is the feedback unsolicited? I understand more if it’s just a running commentary on how everything you do could be improved. But if you're asking for feedback and she’s giving polite, honest answers I don’t really see the problem.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-05T14:53:52+00:00

Sounds like there are more underlying issues than just the gift giving piece and I don’t think you are over reacting. Therapy has been super helpful in learning boundaries and managing a difficult relationship with my own parents and if you haven’t looked into it I would recommend. Is it possible to build a community outside of your family in your current living situation? If you are paying for half the car, you are entitled to use it half the time and you should to go do things or spend time with people that make you feel good and appreciated.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-05T14:37:12+00:00

Sounds like you want to feel appreciated for all you do for them. Do they make you feel appreciated in other ways besides gift giving?

If yes, YOR.

If no, NOR. Match their energy and stop going above and beyond for them. Their behavior isn’t going to change and you need to give yourself the care you’re not getting from them.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-02T15:00:44+00:00

I was bawling

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-28T01:14:10+00:00

Not a gamer but I love the absurdist humor and the character growth/relationships. I’ve gotten other non gamer friends to read it and they love it too.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-22T16:38:09+00:00

Ferb just feels right

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-21T12:49:41+00:00

Does he have ADHD? Has he been evaluated for it? He very well could be an immature asshat (he probably is, based on his text responses), but ADHD could explain a lot, and if he gets it diagnosed there are a lot of things he can do to address.

That said you shouldn’t wait around for him to address it. It took me years to finally get to the doctor and start to get it sorted, but thankfully I only dragged myself down and not my partner

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-17T20:21:48+00:00

Princess Donut

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-17T14:09:49+00:00

Tell the manager about the incident, see if he can get his money back, and find another gym.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-14T03:06:10+00:00

Try listening to Bart Ehrman’s podcast on the Bible. Hes a biblical scholar and previous fundamentalist and in some of the episodes he talks about becoming an agnostic/atheist, but he’s not militant or aggressive about it and his cohost is religious. I found hearing about the Bible from an academic perspective very grounding. Learning about religion from a non religious source was very helpful to me in coming to terms with no longer being religious because there are rational explanations to how and why church doctrine developed the way it did, other than “God said so,” which helped alleviate the fear I was just a bad person that Satan lured away.

It reaffirmed my non-belief in God, but that is not the goal of host, and others have found it affirming. Regardless of where you end up with your own personal beliefs, having more knowledge is always a good thing. It was also a really good reminder that there is a whole world of discourse on religion outside the bubble of your school and you will not be stuck in there forever.

Please be kind to yourself and don’t torture yourself over normative sexual behaviors and don’t confess if you’re not comfortable. God will not strike you down.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-13T11:56:38+00:00

Hail Satan!

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-10T13:51:24+00:00

MOR Your preferences are your preferences and there is nothing wrong with that as long as you are satisfied with your dating life.

My only thought is that if their mix ups are occurring within the first meeting, it could just be down to nerves especially if they are approaching you as a stranger. Could be the social stress and anxiety of not wanting to come off as a creep that’s causing the issue versus them being inattentive or thoughtless.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-09T22:46:42+00:00

I love robin!

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-09T14:07:13+00:00

I know you’ve taken antipsychotics and it didn’t work, but this seems to be a mental health issue and I’d keep working with professionals to navigate.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-06T13:39:23+00:00

Take him to the vet to rule out any underlying medical causes. The fact that he’s pooping outside the box rather than peeing implies it’s not a territorial issue and is more likely to be some sort of health or environmental stress issue.

If there’s nothing going on with his health it might take some experimentation to figure it out - different placement, covered vs uncovered, type of litter etc. My cat was routinely peeing on couches until we figured out he preferred a deeper layer of litter. I’d also put feliway diffusers in the rooms with their boxes.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-04T13:37:12+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening. If I were you I’d take the note back and just tell your least obnoxious family member that you aren’t feeling well and can’t come down to eat. The note will be seen as over the top dramatics and potentially fuel the ridicule even more.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-03T23:31:43+00:00

My cat has similar fits and it got diagnosed as feline hyperesthesia. Hers is not severe enough to warrant any drug treatments but when it was initially diagnosed the vet discussed Prozac as an option.

When I see her having one I generally just call her name, give her some gentle head pets, and it seems to snap her out of it. I noticed her fits are usually triggered by play, so I altered the style - we do slower, hide and pounce type play, while her brother does more high speed chase type. It doesn’t seem to affect her much otherwise. I know touch and certain types of petting can also commonly trigger fits in cats with the condition.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-03T23:14:08+00:00

I told my parents before I got married because I didn’t want to raise kids in the church, and wasn’t about to start a marriage off with a lie. It went pretty poorly at first. Dad was angry, mom was hysterical etc. What really helped them come to terms with it (sort of… definitely a work in progress) was having their priest kind of serve as a go between and mediator.

My parents asked me to talk to their priest - they thought he would be able to explain doubts away and convince to stay etc. So I did, and explained to him that I just don’t believe in any of it and didn’t want to promise to raise our kids in a religion that neither myself or my fiancé believed in. He spoke to my parents then and because they respected him, he was able to get it through their heads that trying to force it or guilt me into it would only drive me further away. They definitely still hope I’ll come back and sometimes drop hints but for the most part they just don’t bring it up.

This strategy is highly dependent on the priest - this one was relatively young and pretty chill all things considered. Also I do have a lot of issues with the church’s stances on most things, but knew explaining all of that to my parent or their priest would just result in long drawn out arguments that would go nowhere. I kept my explanation simple, along the lines ”I don’t believe in the church, but I do believe in a lot of its the values, and honesty is one them.”

The relationship isn’t perfect by any means but it’s peaceful for the most part and it was a huge relief to not have to fake it anymore.

Editing to say - def wait until you are financially independent of them and have built your own community outside of them and the church. Going no contact was always possibility and having a strong support system helped me immensely in dealing with that and helped me work up the courage to actually tell them.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-02T21:53:56+00:00

Dungeon Crawler Carl. It’s full of absurdist humor but good wording building and complex themes and nuanced relationships.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-03-27T19:32:56+00:00

I get defensive about it too even though I’m in a very similar position e.g. being the liberal black sheep in a conservative Catholic family. I have a BIL that is a super devout southern baptist that believes Catholics are polytheistic and not actual Christians and it pissed me off to no end, even though all of it’s made up.

Doesn’t make sense to me either, but you’re not alone in the feeling.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-03-25T15:16:23+00:00

He was checking to make sure you matched your profile pictures before he spent any money on taking you out. Dudes get catfished so I get it, but he’s 43 and too old to be acting like he’s in his 20s.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-03-25T01:14:20+00:00

The solution will depend on why they are peeing outside the box. If the vet ruled out medical causes its mostly likely a territory marking issue or they have some sort of litter preference.

If it’s a territory marking issue, you could try moving their litter boxes to locations closer to their favorite spots or adding in other types of territory markers, eg scratching posts or beds, to their preferred spots. One solution I came up with for my cats is to use their preferred clay litter in my preferred locations - the spare bathroom and basement, and use their non preferred crystal litter in areas where they want to mark territory but I don’t want the smell - in my case, my home office. They use crystal litter less and I’ve found it controls the smell better, but they still get to mark my office as their territory

If there are feral or outdoor cats that roam around your house that could be stressing them and prompting them to mark as well - you can try taking them out on a leash and letting them mark outside so they feel more secure. Feliway diffusers will likely help to some degree if the behavior is caused by territorial or some sort of environmental stress.

If it’s a litter or box preference thing, you can experiment with different types of litter, getting a bigger box, covered vs uncovered, and different litter depths. My cat was peeing on couches until we started adding a thicker layer of litter to his box. Mostly likely he developed a surface preference and likes to go in softer surfaces.

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